"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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1 step up ad 2 steps back. ( still can't approach)

Packers2010

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last night i went out to some bars with some friends.

i didn't approach one girl. WTF is wrong with me. i just say there and got drunk. when we was sitting down at a table all i cared about was getting high because, i KNEW i wasn't approaching girls. i could see there everywhere.. i even saw some that looked like my " 10" but no. i just sat there, while my insides ate me whole.

I feel like giving up on the game, but i KNOW it has helped me become a more confident person. it's not like i HAVEN'T talk to girls before. i used to do it with a wing of mine. i must have at least talked to 50 girls before i stopped. ( I left for wales. wtf? )

I am improving myself. i am getting my back fixed ( it's stuffed) i am going to get my teeth done too soon. i am also in school studding something i Love. but something inside me just says "NO. it's not cool to go say hello to that girl"

how the fook do i get over this? i can't just wait till something falls in my lap then marry it. that's so fooked up i can't even going to begin. but it looks like what's going to happen.

i can feel this " no " feeling deep in my chest. all it dose is feed me " no" all day long. so i never do it. i pretty much have done everything i can do... but Approach.

how do i change this?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Build you social circle. I don't do cold approaches. My game is all social since I'm in college. Work, school, etc. It's easier to land them since you're a familiar face.
 

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what's a social circle? :p

i prettty much fooked mine.. i got drunk a few times and siad a few things i didn't mean too. ( IE i called at least 3 girls sloots)

most of my high school friends are chodes and idiots. ( i found that out last night)

so of my other friends are always on acid and messy as ****! one 2 sister won't meet up with me after 100 messages asking to catch up.

and i just been away to wales for 7 months. that doesn't help either.


so i have about a few good friends and that's about it
 

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Build a new circle. I have multiple circles. Different friends for different reasons. I have friends I just go bar hopping with. Friends from childhood that are more like brothers at this point. Friends from my new school who never saw me in my afc days so they think i'm this real cool dude and don't know half of the pathetic beta **** I used to do. Everywhere I go I try to make new circles. Most of these circles don't overlap; meaning most of my new friends have never met each other, which works in case I have a falling out with one of them, I don't lose my entire circle, just one of many. You should always be looking to branch out and make a name for yourself.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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