"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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1 FROM THE ARCHIVES.....tom Leykis

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I know what you mean. Perhaps I am more traditional in some ways. What about when you're not the bad boy/jerk, and you're not the nice guy. you're at this middle ground? thats how I feel.Also, I have been thinking, perhaps its not me as much as i think it is. just the culture, the hook up culture as you call it. I mean, this site has opened my eyes to alot, I am wondering,without turning it into a blame game, if the way or ways i was raised affected me. I do have this idea of an ideal, i said ideal, not perfect, wife. But I realize, I would have to hold myself to certain standards. I mean sure, I have had some **** ups, some really bad ones, somethings i regret, in that there were times when i was just mean to people. esp when i was younger. But I never bought into that find an excuse not to grow up thing. As for dry spells, is 2 years considered a long dry spell?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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