1-2 mistakes it's over?

[drift king]

i did everything right with this young HB i semi kiss closed her on 2nd date, left it a week then tried to arrange another date but the 2 times i called she was with her friends or with family so i couldn't arrange time then.

then i called her saturday and made arrangement for tonight saying 'i'm busy tomorrow (sunday) but do u want to meet up monday?'

i know i know afc line, dont ask just say meet up. so i was kicking myself after. anyway she cancelled our meeting tonight yesterday cos her dad is leaving the country but she didn't counter offer.

i already had been flaked on by my other option for that night so i proceeded to call this one and try to get her to meet up last night. big mistake, then i tried for tuesday and she said 'i dont want to make any plans yet' i already made her reserve monday for me before her dad incident so i wasn' sure if i should use the same line again.

i feel as if i'm being pushy if i try to be assertive and making me do all the arranging. and slowly as they flake once or twice i'm showing my neediness/clingyness. how do i avoid this in arranging times?

do i need to tell them to let me know? i feel that they won't offer a time cos their interest isn't really high but enough to go out on a date with me.

the worst bit is i called her back again 20 mins later. god i was so needy yesterday. she didn't pick up.

i've probably ruined it now but is the general rule of thumb that if u make a mistake it delays u by about a week before you can call back or is it about 4-5 days for each mistake?

 

[Sansj]

Sounds like somthing i have done in the past. First. Dont give here the chance to chose when to talk to you. That will make you a big AFC in her eyes. You are the one that makes all the choises. When it comes too when to contact here after you litle incident. I would wait a week or so. Then come one easy and keep it abit light. And dont rush in and try to set up a new date right a way. Thats my advice

 

[slaog]

If you think too much about mistakes it'll proably be over before you start.

Back off for a while and see what she does. Don't go chasing her just back off and let her chase you. If she doesn't then her loss.

 

[Remulak]

1-2 mistakes in the BEGINNING and it's over. We've all been there man...tough luck