"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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teakroy

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Meet a girl on internet.

waited 1 week and after i set up a date..But flaked on first she say that have a bad flu and don't feeling well.

Next time about 1 week after i set up another meeting but again she aborted she says that she has temperature from the flu.

And we reschedule next week on the second day.Anyway she gave her number and me i give her but i not call her yet,i don't see a reason.

So the big question. Should i end everything ?Because she aborted 2 times already.

Another thing is that she agree that better to see in town not at her place first time.

And i don't know that is a good thing because in the past was meeting a girl that way and never went to her home because she was only want to meet her in town.. so i was naive...

I don't want to buy things again for a woman who don't wellcome to her apartment...
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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sylvester the cat

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If you want to. Depends on what your standards are. Everyone has different standards. Some would next her on the first abort. Some on the second.

Once a woman flaked an hour before the date. Apparently she had been burgled. I told her it was fine. I never bothered arranging another one because I had more lined up. It was no big deal.
 

TillTheEndOfTime

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Let's say she really is sick. No counteroffer? She doesn't mention: "let me get back to you in a few days when I'm feeling better..."? Red flag.

Sounds like flat out low interest. You will run into this situation with almost any girl online. There are 400 guys messaging her. Her attention span is 10 minutes and then she moves on to the next guy.

She probably saw a better deal online and next'd you a long time ago and you don't even realize it you poor sap. She's just keeping you around in limbo.
 

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I've had this happen and the 3rd time we finally met.

stick to the "3 strikes" rule i say.
 

Harry Wilmington

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TillTheEndOfTime said:
Let's say she really is sick. No counteroffer? She doesn't mention: "let me get back to you in a few days when I'm feeling better..."? Red flag.

Sounds like flat out low interest. You will run into this situation with almost any girl online. There are 400 guys messaging her. Her attention span is 10 minutes and then she moves on to the next guy.

She probably saw a better deal online and next'd you a long time ago and you don't even realize it you poor sap. She's just keeping you around in limbo.
Agree. No counter-offer is always a bad sign.

With that said, though, inviting a girl over to your place as a first date? No bueno. It's easier to convince them to come home with you once they've met up with you, not so much before (unless they're just DTF). And no, you don't have to spend lots of money on a first date. Me, I do bookstores that have coffee shops - we get a couple muffins, maybe a drink, talk, then walk around the bookstore. It's like 2 dates in one, plus you spend less than 10 bucks.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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teakroy

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pdx1138 said:
I've had this happen and the 3rd time we finally met.

stick to the "3 strikes" rule i say.
Now i thinking of 2 strike rule :nervous:
 

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Update:Checking girl with yahoo detector.

Online at me offline she ignore me i guess..I send her a message what happened . No answer.Call her phone no answer.

Deleted her id and number.

Moving on..
 

RangerMIke

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If she flakes like this without trying to set up another meet-up she has low interest and you should take the hint and move on. Either that or she is a mess and is going to be no fun and too much work.
 
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