“I’ll call you”

[BJP1991]

Seen a girl 3 times now - have been good dates and the other night she cooked me dinner. We have been booking up as well.

Context aside, at the end of our dinner date (when she cooked for me) the other night, she said she would call me later in the week or over the weekend. She is gone all week, so until then it’s not like I would be able to see her.

She said I could call or text her too, if I want. Basically, should I wait the whole 5-6 days to when she said she would call me? Or should I reach out a little sooner, maybe via text, to nail down definite plans for our next date?

This girl has told me she likes calling over texting, but with her trip all week a call might not be most suitable.

Basically, the question is: if a woman you’re seeing and hooking up with tells you they’ll call you in like 6 days, do you honestly just hold out and wait? Or do you take some initiative and get the ball rolling to make definite plans with her?

 

[Hal9000]

I don't see anything wrong with reaching out at some point in the week. You definitely don't want to blow up her phone though. Radio silence could easily be interpreted as low interest on your part or that you view her as only a hook up. If that isn't the case I'd recommend at least saying hello after a couple days.

 

[backseatjuan]

She told you she'll call you, test her bullsht. At least you'll have a reason to punish her when she comes back.

 

[Atom Smasher]

I would wait. This has "test" written all over it. If she hears from you, she'll feel good for a nanosecond and then a strange discomfort will settle in, because you relieved her tension and she was excited by the tension.

I think it's a good time to demonstrate that she doesn't have you hook, line and sinker.

 

[BJP1991]

I would wait. This has "test" written all over it. If she hears from you, she'll feel good for a nanosecond and then a strange discomfort will settle in, because you relieved her tension and she was excited by the tension.

I think it's a good time to demonstrate that she doesn't have you hook, line and sinker.

I legitimately have thought the same thing - it’s probably a low-grade shyt test. I think the only way I could fail it is if I start texting her or calling her well before the day she said she would call me. She did say I could call her if I wanted to, so maybe she is leaving the door open for me to show initiative or intent. Either way, the most I would do is shoot her a text, maybe to let her know I found something awesome we could try when we get out next. We both talked the other night how we want to do something active next time around (other than the indoor olympics, that is). I also enjoy activity dates a lot, and we are yet to go on one at this point. Doing active dates seems to reel them in a bit more than just a standard “drinks” date, which we’ve done already a few times.