"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Weird things you find attractive in women

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Generally speaking we as men tend to agree on what's attractive in a woman. However, what are some odd traits, body parts, behaviors, etc. that you find attractive?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I love seeing bra straps hang out accidentally, for some reason, especially brightly colored ones. It works on me like a form of peacocking for women. I'm just drawn to it. It's like a girl carrying a sign that says "please fvck me."
 
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I get turned on when a decent looking woman wears eye shadow and eyes lashes. It seems really feminine, as opposed to plain looking when they don't wear this.
 
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I get turned on when a decent looking woman wears eye shadow and eyes lashes. It seems really feminine, as opposed to plain looking when they don't wear this.
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I've always been turned on by the eye shadow too. Lashes, not so much. I especially love it when someone can pull off the "smokey eye" look without looking like an abuse victim...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Feet, definitely.

They say that the part of the brain that controls the extremities is directly adjacent to the part that controls sexuality, and in many men there is a leakage or "crosstalk" in the circuitry which causes them to consider feet to be just as sexual as tits and genitals.

That seems to be the best explanation I've come across.
 
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For some reason I find girls with bigger or funny shaped noses really attractive.

http://25.media.tumblr.com/23a9d4f6b68b2c7f141055a195bdcaee/tumblr_mwlgwtULQ71qce8ubo1_1280.jpg

http://25.media.tumblr.com/c8312b690fc564e1086e43803e5e2899/tumblr_mvuufc5xjL1qce8ubo1_1280.jpg

http://25.media.tumblr.com/eaf53adea8919c3a8271947ef3d03334/tumblr_mvsss6y22W1qce8ubo1_1280.jpg

http://www.coolnoses.com/wp-content/gallery/sofia-coppola/sofia-coppola-QueenCover.jpg

http://25.media.tumblr.com/1baa7b628a2730f0c49e40f32ac4632f/tumblr_mv355aRUA51qce8ubo1_1280.jpg

http://25.media.tumblr.com/428e84e40ec6f50e8e623d355fed7f8b/tumblr_mt4ptf8q1L1qce8ubo1_500.jpg

http://31.media.tumblr.com/846659651098fd799d00a2c4c496b4ee/tumblr_mt1k9i0cVS1qce8ubo1_1280.jpg

https://sphotos-b-ord.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-frc3/1000099_10200148829107903_313466463_n.jpg

http://25.media.tumblr.com/e762456521abc965fec64fd77e3d9cfa/tumblr_msyy8xJ5kl1qce8ubo1_1280.jpg

http://25.media.tumblr.com/8af3715fe2a6890bcffb1a7ce660e1b3/tumblr_msxhdbv8A71qce8ubo1_1280.jpg

http://24.media.tumblr.com/91c9396916db81afa540f74fc65ce430/tumblr_msf99bfcCa1qce8ubo1_500.jpg

http://24.media.tumblr.com/ab507470c1ec9b2bd937962a6e349efb/tumblr_msbwlqxOjA1qce8ubo1_1280.jpg

http://31.media.tumblr.com/dc3c8bafc8cc899edc827a0343a7eae4/tumblr_mqcnrsUAJn1qce8ubo1_1280.jpg

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I'm with Bible Belt, bra straps are hot, whether shown accidentally or intentionally. Bra color doesn't matter much, although black is hot. Bright colors are good with tank tops in the summer.

I'm also with Man on Fire. Glasses are F-ing HAWT! Of course the style of frames matter though. I like black frames.

Women lurking here: Please don't get contacts. Embrace your inner teacher, librarian, grad student, lawyer (sans the huge ego), etc. and wear glasses. If you teach English AND wear glasses please call me at 1-800-Mike32ct :).
 
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Women with really feminine voices turn me on (think: Disney Princess) and sometime the woman they’re attached to have no business turning on any man.


On the flip side of that – women with masculine voices bother me. There’s this really hot girl at work, but even though she dresses nice here, she considers herself to be one of the women who are “like one of the guys.” And her voice would make you think she was one of the guys if you closed you eyes… I feel sorry for her husband who must feel like he’s banging a man when the lights are out.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Man on Fire said:
Eye glasses. But only if they actually need corrective eye glasses. I know females that wear fake glasses as an "accessory" to their outfit. Then it becomes a turnoff...dumb attention wh0re.

http://shirlainetse.files.wordpress.com/2010/06/cute-girl-in-glasses.jpg
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I agree with this one. Glasses are sexy on women but only if they're real. The fake ones do nothing for me.

I also like women that walk and stand with their toes pointing a little inward (pigeon toed). Turns me on for some reason. When its extreme not so much. Overbites can be sexy too on the right woman.
 
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I like girls with really tall, defined nasal bridges.
 
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I tend to like navels. I also like armpits.
 
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Yup, certain types of feet. The smaller, the better. Bonus if they paint their toenails. These aren't bad:

http://th01.deviantart.net/fs70/PRE/i/2013/104/b/b/painted_toes_by_msmuffinphotography-d61q6cf.jpg

Panty lines drive me wild.

British accents will cause me to abandon all other plates

Braces are kinda cute, although I see very few adult women with them.

I also like women who wear pink. Pink on any woman grabs my attention even if she's not very attractive. It just makes them look more feminine.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I've never liked thick legs, but when I was younger I had a thing for thick ankles (not cankles, but thick ankles). Not sure why, and I haven't thought about that in years.

Here are a few responses to some of the things already mentioned:

Eye Shadow: The "smokey eye" look seems to be in fashion these days. I do like it, I'm not sure why. You'd think dark pigment under the eye would look unhealthy, but for some reason it looks hot.

Feet: I've never had a foot fetish, but I've always thought that female bare feet were suggestive of nudity, and that is part of the attraction. I'd prefer to never have to see a male's feet, thank you very much. But a woman in bare feet is often kind of sexy.

Glasses: I don't see how glasses hurt a girl's looks at all. Definitely not these days when they have more styles available. The old saying "Boys never make passes at girls who wear glasses" was from a time when there were very few designs to choose from - women's "cat's eye" glasses or whatnot.

I always thought it was really stupid when you watch those movies where they take some gorgeous actress and try to pass her off as homely just by putting a pair of glasses on her. And then later in the movie they take her glasses off and *poof* she's pretty. As if you couldn't tell all along.
 
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To think of a few, though not necessarily weird to me, I'd say: Pigtails. Glossy lips. Playful pouty faces and smirks. Girls who hum and softly sing to themselves. Girls who get excited over trivial shi*t. Stupid little dances they do. Girls in snowboarding gear. Girls who are a little weird and aren't afraid to show it (because it is what makes them interesting), like myself.
 
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Pigtails! Fvck yeah! Another thing I remembered.... A few months back I was watching some video from the 80s and a chick was on rollerskates. It was damn sexy. Rollerblades just don't have the same effect as rollerskates.
 
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Interesting answers so far. I'm surprised all of them have been quite tame. I make my girl pee in the shower, it's a massive turn on. Chicks peeing in general is sexy as hell. Not into watersports, golden showers or any of that sh!t though.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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