"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Not investing in girls makes our life much more relaxed

Who Dares Win

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It's already some months that I manage to pic up girls and spinning plates, most of them are from clubs while some from day time but all are a constant mind fvcking.

After seeing some making out with other guys or simply disappear for days or taking hours to reply to texts, I realized that the only way to deal with that was simply not investing in them, not investing emotionally even before than financially.

I considered any possible way as no contact, mind fvcking them back but in the end I found out that if Im aiming at the sex no contact is not a great option because while it saves me time and frustration, due to the high number of competitors doesnt lead me to sex with such girls.

Mind fvcking them back well, I explained my point in the "just dont play mind games" thread started 2 days ago.


Actually what it seems the best plan is to keep looking around and picking up new girls while at the same time throwing some bait to the old ones to see if they bite....all of this of course without putting any investment on it.

Those who say that no contact is the safest way to save our pride and mind health are right no doubt about it but most of the time doesnt get you sex.

My suggestion instead of keep trying but more like an attempt when you have nothing else to do not only doesnt screw you since you're not investing anything but at the same time leave you some chances.

This mindset got me a date last week and three potential ones next one, the flake risk is very high probably around 80% but the good thing is that Im not risking anything since those girls are nothing else than meat to fill untill proven otherwise (ego and emotion out of the equation) while the meet is supposed to happen in places close to me and in which I would go anyway (money and time not wasted).

And trust me Im much more at ease now, I dont even hide to them the fact that Im dating other girls since my investment as said is almost zero.

The less you invest and the less you give a fvck the better, they have no rights to our emotions or time untill they deserve for it.
And I repeat again, when you do not invest emotionally you are not that disturbed if they flake, think like a fisher who throw his bait and see if something comes.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Who Dares Win said:
It's already some months that I manage to pic up girls and spinning plates, most of them are from clubs while some from day time but all are a constant mind fvcking.

After seeing some making out with other guys or simply disappear for days or taking hours to reply to texts, I realized that the only way to deal with that was simply not investing in them, not investing emotionally even before than financially.

I considered any possible way as no contact, mind fvcking them back but in the end I found out that if Im aiming at the sex no contact is not a great option because while it saves me time and frustration, due to the high number of competitors doesnt lead me to sex with such girls.

Mind fvcking them back well, I explained my point in the "just dont play mind games" thread started 2 days ago.


Actually what it seems the best plan is to keep looking around and picking up new girls while at the same time throwing some bait to the old ones to see if they bite....all of this of course without putting any investment on it.

Those who say that no contact is the safest way to save our pride and mind health are right no doubt about it but most of the time doesnt get you sex.

My suggestion instead of keep trying but more like an attempt when you have nothing else to do not only doesnt screw you since you're not investing anything but at the same time leave you some chances.

This mindset got me a date last week and three potential ones next one, the flake risk is very high probably around 80% but the good thing is that Im not risking anything since those girls are nothing else than meat to fill untill proven otherwise (ego and emotion out of the equation) while the meet is supposed to happen in places close to me and in which I would go anyway (money and time not wasted).

And trust me Im much more at ease now, I dont even hide to them the fact that Im dating other girls since my investment as said is almost zero.

The less you invest and the less you give a fvck the better, they have no rights to our emotions or time untill they deserve for it.
And I repeat again, when you do not invest emotionally you are not that disturbed if they flake, think like a fisher who throw his bait and see if something comes.
What type of bait do you normally throw?
 

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Yes yes and yes, the one who cares less has all the power! And you sir, have all the power ! On point with this post, caring is for relationships and women. Its not for men who just met a girl and are weeding her out to see if she jives with him.
 

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um only a gay man can easily not car about women and pu$$Y.. and say he is relaxed and happy doing so... that is why gay men are called "gay" as in "happy" cause once they stop having to deal with all the BS females makes us go through they get really "gay/happy"..lol

that wont work for me i would rather be frustrated and grumpy and Fing all the pu$$y i can
 

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marmel75 said:
What type of bait do you normally throw?
I let myself be visibile without giving a direct clear request to meet nor anything else which would reassure them that they can still have me like all the other guys hitting on them.

For example its common that a guy write to a girl on facebook where for all the conversation he preteds to care about her bvllsh1t while she pretends to be interested in talking to him only to have him finally ask her out and she finally getting what she wants....the chance to reject him after being confirmed that she is desired.

In my case I speak to them just to make sure they dont forget about me and when it comes the moment of the "hey lets meet this friday", I simply say that my pizza is arrived and that I have to go before it gets cold.

This way Im still in her mind plus she doesnt take me for granted plus a pizza has priority over her, this alone put me above the other dozens of guys hitting on her.

She thinks about me, she is deprived of her ego boost and somehow mindfvcked from my behaviour.

Sure it takes self-control, planning and calibration to do such things but in the long it pays.

So later on I will simply hint something (the bait) which she will either catch or the situation will remain the same, I just learned that need for validation is to them as demanding as sex drive to us.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Get a hobby, something you're passionate about. Women will respect you more, all the while you really have no time to think about their BS. Been working for me for years.

-Scars
 
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