"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Make em feel loved.

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Plain and simply..."Make every lady feel loved". Thats it. No techniques, no methods, come as you are, you ladies man! You love ladies don't you? So spread the love, the warmth and friendliness, don't have any expectations, see the señoritas as light and love.
Talk to each and everyone without judgement. Have an abundance mentlity, slow down, relax and just lose your fear of women and be comfortable in your own skin.
Forget trying to attain flawless game. If you can talk to your female cousins, you can talk to women. So **** DHV, negs and trying to be Alpha. Stop trying to impress, be attractive. Be you. Be honest, confindent and authentic.
Get out of your own way and just do it already! Let it be effortless, realise that some women will like you nd some won't, love them anyway.
Aim at their heart, their true being, connect on a genuine level and don't concentrate on the results, or whether what you are doing is right or wrong, experiment for yourself and your own path to errr...Whatever you want in regards to women.
Stay Natural.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Ya i see what your saying. People get way to caught up in routines and what to say if she does whatever. You just gotta let it flow.
 
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Just nice and simple. I like it!
 
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Nino-Tk said:
Plain and simply..."Make every lady feel loved". Thats it. No techniques, no methods, come as you are, you ladies man! You love ladies don't you? So spread the love, the warmth and friendliness, don't have any expectations, see the señoritas as light and love.
Talk to each and everyone without judgement. Have an abundance mentlity, slow down, relax and just lose your fear of women and be comfortable in your own skin.
Forget trying to attain flawless game. If you can talk to your female cousins, you can talk to women. So **** DHV, negs and trying to be Alpha. Stop trying to impress, be attractive. Be you. Be honest, confindent and authentic.
Get out of your own way and just do it already! Let it be effortless, realise that some women will like you nd some won't, love them anyway.
Aim at their heart, their true being, connect on a genuine level and don't concentrate on the results, or whether what you are doing is right or wrong, experiment for yourself and your own path to errr...Whatever you want in regards to women.
Stay Natural.
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I like your way of thinking. But understand that some like me lack the ability to be natural. Some very good PUAs done it without being natural. Also, naturalness is prone to getting friendzoned. But there's one thing I like about naturalness. PUA routines...you gotta make em up, and know the stuff. Naturalness, you don't have to recharge and reload, it always shoots out. Naturalness is timeless too. But the question to ask is this: Is naturalness workin for me? I'm pretty sure you'd answer, "Yes indeed". And that's all that matters.
 
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Yeah man thats I what like about naturalness, it is always there, sure sometimes it may be down but its there.
I beg to differ to differ on the notion of lacking the ability to be natural though, its just that guys think their natural self is not good enough.
Most guys don't love themselves and their OWN company, so girls will feel that and drift away. But yeah I feel you, at the end of the day, it is each to his own.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Novaknight, I dont like the state of mind you've come into lately.

Always remember - Whether you think you can, or you can't; you're right.
 
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Novaknight, I dont like the state of mind you've come into lately.

Always remember - Whether you think you can, or you can't; you're right.
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There's some mental problems that I was born with preventing me from effectively utilizing naturalness. But what you said actually struck me, cause the self defeatist attitude is making me discard a good style.

My brain doesn't process human interaction properly. But I guess its time to start training it to.
 
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novaknight said:
There's some mental problems that I was born with preventing me from effectively utilizing naturalness. But what you said actually struck me, cause the self defeatist attitude is making me discard a good style.

My brain doesn't process human interaction properly. But I guess its time to start training it to.
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You sure?
Give me name of the disease + articles backing it up. Find something out about yourself.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Nino-Tk man great post. This is what I used to do and I was very successful I actually had girls asking me out which isn't usual because men are "supposed" to lead. But after reading different articles I changed and even though some helped me realize to be more confident and more flirty at times, I gained more negative than positive. I am going back to just being natural with girls. I agree that so many get caught up thinking alright i need to DHV her or whatever other slang terms there are (I don't know many because I think they sound a little nerdy no offense to anyone). The only thing people really need to do is be themselves but be more confident. A girl won't turn you down because your nice, it would be because your too nice and afraid to make a move earlier before she sees you as just a friend. Great post man. :cool:
 
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novaknight said:
Just curious, how long have you been trying to get girls?
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Is this question directed towards me? And if it is then my answer would be probably the last few grades of middle school seeing as my first kiss and make-out had been in like 7th grade.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Bumping this because I thought it was gold.
 
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I disagree with this. I am of the treat them mean keep em keen philosophy. If you are loving to every woman, then they'll just assume that you are weak and cheap. If you are an indifferent ball buster, then those moments where you are a caring person will carry far more weight. It will make you seem like more of a challenge.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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