"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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"do you miss me sometimes?"

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So a while ago I had this huge argument with this girl. But, we are also involved in a project together. For the most part, I NCed her, unless it's about the project, then I formally and casually talk to her. I never initiated any phone calls unless it's an important call about the project.

Just now, she texted me:
"Do you miss me sometimes?"

to be honest, I am a bit "meh". I don't think much about her anymore, nor do I care about future hookup with her. I am going to just say "mm..not anymore" but I am not going to answer right away, but what do you guys think?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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sharkybear said:
Just now, she texted me:
"Do you miss me sometimes?"
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This is a toe in the water, and is likely to be womanspeek for," I hope that he still has some feelings for me that I can exploit. I hate it that he has not crawled and grovelled ."

She wants something.

I would reply " Well I did think about you one time, but I slapped myself and the feeling passed."
 
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I was thinking for an answer that doesn't explicitly say yes or no, kinda in the middle but it's not a "maybe". that's a good one, jophil. Thanks!
 
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sharkybear said:
I was thinking for an answer that doesn't explicitly say yes or no, kinda in the middle but it's not a "maybe". that's a good one, jophil. Thanks!
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Just text back asking her what she wants.

I.e

Her
"Do you miss me"

You
"What is it your after"


Put the ball back in her court, flip the script.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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sharkybear said:
I am going to just say "mm..not anymore" but I am not going to answer right away, but what do you guys think?
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Just remain silent.
 
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If you're still involved in a project with her, it's best not to piss her off, you never know when it may come back to bite you. I'm NOT advocating to "leave the door open." It's generally a good rule never to make enemies. You never know who will talk to who.

If you want to reply, say something vague and meaningless, but somehow true about your current feelings (however "meh" they may be) toward her.

Like: (only one line, don't make it a question or make it sound like you are asking for a response)

I've been really busy lately.

Somethings are better left remembered how they were before other things confused the issue.

It's been all over the place lately.

You can never step in the same river twice.

I like to keep looking forward with a positive attitude.

And so on
 
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vatoloco said:
"Who is this?"

;)
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I have actually gotten great results with that one...!
 
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I always think "do you miss me?" means "I miss you".

And I will answer "did you miss me?" with something like "not as much as you missed me".
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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In$tinct said:
I have actually gotten great results with that one...!
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It's actually one of my favorites! :D


Her: "u miss me?"
Me: "Of course sweetheart! btw, who is this?"

Her: "hey how r u"
Me: "Hey, I'm doing great! Who is this?"

Her: "u free ths wknd?"
Me: "Sorry, already have a photoshoot scheduled. Who is this btw?"


Of course, I know who's texting but I play dumb. Then they're all like "nah, shut up! :)" or "haha", etc. I then ask them to give me a call and when/if they do, I date close! :D
 
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