"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Unfriendliness

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Hey,

Is it normal for people, to be unfriendly at first? I am an extremely good looking guy, and I kind of expected people, to be friendly. However, they are not. Not unless, you have some kind of connection.

Such as knowing a friend of thiers or something, like that? I thought, people that are good looking have girls instantly interested. They don't.

However, if somehow there is a connection, to them, and I have common interests, things improve.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Could be just your surrounding, I don't have problems like that when interacting with people I have mutual friends with, and the ones I don't know but approach anyway are usually very friendly, you just have to play it cool, don't look like a retard.
 
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crossboss said:
Hey,

Is it normal for people, to be unfriendly at first? I am an extremely good looking guy, and I kind of expected people, to be friendly [because in sooo good looking...]. However, they are not. Not unless, you have some kind of connection.

Such as knowing a friend of thiers or something, like that? I thought, people that are good looking have girls instantly interested. They don't.

However, if somehow there is a connection, to them, and I have common interests, things improve.
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you come across as arrogant ....
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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crossboss said:
Hey,

Is it normal for people, to be unfriendly at first? I am an extremely good looking guy, and I kind of expected people, to be friendly. However, they are not. Not unless, you have some kind of connection.

Such as knowing a friend of thiers or something, like that? I thought, people that are good looking have girls instantly interested. They don't.

However, if somehow there is a connection, to them, and I have common interests, things improve.
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If the part in bold is true then you may also be dealing with people feeling threatened and/or insecure around you.
 
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Yeah

If feel that people, are threatened, and insecure. Why is this? Is it, because I am too much competition against them. I am too cool?

Also, if I have a big ego, why didn't people mention it. I asked people, if they think I am humble, and they say yes. Also, people never say, I am an ego maniac. People, when they know me, think I am a good guy.
 
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Also

Racism:
Racism I am asian, but only part, some people think am white, chinese or mexican. I have a dark
complexition. I think, it would be used against me, to a certain extent. But I know, of blacks/hispanics/asians,
that are successful, with women. The thing, is people seem, even unfriendly before, they even talk to me.
 
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Come on brah

whats the problem, its not other people or their perception of you its you and your perception of yourself, figure it out. Be confident in who you are or who you are trying to become. Be real with people. If they like you they like you if not fuk em thats how I flow.
 
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Come on brah

whats the problem, its not other people or their perception of you its you and your perception of yourself, figure it out. Be confident in who you are or who you are trying to become. Be real with people. If they like you they like you if not fuk em thats how I flow.
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So, its doubting, yourself. There is nothing, wrong with me at first, it's that I believe, I can't do it. That's why, my approaching, was failure.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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"I am an extremely good looking guy..."


Ok...
Now why do you post here? you should get laid in a weekly basis on a bad month.
Dont be arrogant please.....
 
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Well

There was a period, of time where I was approaching at clubs twice a week, on a continual basis. I might, not have been, good looking then. I think, I might have blossomed some. I kind, of gave up on myself then, since I always, (frequentely got blewn off).
 
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Sorry,

If, I come, off as arrogant, I'll try not to think I am better than other people.
 
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If you had sex with many girls who all told you how good looking you are, then you ARE good looking.

If you don't have sex with girls at all, then you are NOT good looking.

You may have a good build or even a nice looking face, but you likely have a creepy/nerdy look to you that you constantly ignore and never bother to change.
 
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It could be possible, that I am not that good looking...

Although, pretty much every I talk to, where I wanted to know, or they told me, I am good looking. Maybe, I am not 100/100 in looks more, likely less. Alhough, I would, think people's opinion's are pretty accurate.

I'll ask this one girl, I know what she really, thinks. If, I have any bad, look about me.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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crossboss said:
Although, pretty much every I talk to, where I wanted to know, or they told me, I am good looking. Maybe, I am not 100/100 in looks more, likely less. Alhough, I would, think people's opinion's are pretty accurate.

I'll ask this one girl, I know what she really, thinks. If, I have any bad, look about me.
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even the way you talk on this forum, you sound extremely socially awkward, and most likely you are not as good looking as the people who feel sorry for you tell you that you are...........how many girls that you have had sex with have told you how hot you are?
 
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crossboss said:
If feel that people, are threatened, and insecure. Why is this? Is it, because I am too much competition against them. I am too cool?

Also, if I have a big ego, why didn't people mention it. I asked people, if they think I am humble, and they say yes. Also, people never say, I am an ego maniac. People, when they know me, think I am a good guy.
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" what do I think about myself?" ask this question to yourself and answer it without bringing up anything that anyone has told you. Really think about it, and answer it, write it down or something.

I think you think about what other people might think about you wayyy too much. Too much to the point where you can't make a picture of your own self and you have to ask others if you're arrogant or humble, good looking or not.

like "julian" said, get a perception of your own self, then don't give a f$ckk what other people will think of you.
 
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Crossboss, what country do you hail from? Are you by any chance a native German? I'm just curious because you use commas to introduce every subordinate clause.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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