“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Motivation/Giving The Mind Directions

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Anybody ever wonder why they can't get motivated to do things? I used to be like that. Always putting things off and even going out of my way to avoid things.


I'm much better at getting motivated to do things now and getting better all the time. Its mainly because of a change in mindset to how I used to think. So I'll try to keep this as simple as possible. I believe in the law of attraction but you don't have to even believe in that to understand this. :up:



It's a simple process but takes mental effort. Yes thats right mental. As we all know, before you do anything physically you need to want to do it e.g if you were hungry you would make something to eat or go out and get some food. It's no big deal because you know you'll feel better after you've eating so it will be worth the effort. Anorexic people feel worse because they have trained their minds to convince themselves that they are better off not eating.


You can force yourself to do things but it's usually a struggle and you might win a few battles but usually end up losing the war. So you need to want to do things and motivate yourself to succeed.



Here's what to do:
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Firstly you should have already identified the area where you want to improve. If it's approaching, putting on muscle, losing weight etc you should be clear what you want to do. If you have not done this already, think about it and do it.


Secondly, the real key to motivation is to visualise yourself being the person you want to become. You want to change your habits and give your mind new directions to take. Make it your goal. Write it down and think about it a few times a day. Feel good about it and imagine how things 'are' as you are the person you want to be. This is the mental effort to get the image of your best self firmly into your mind.
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This won't happen overnight as we all know. It's taking baby steps. You won't see results for a while and might still feel unmotivated after many weeks. It's like looking at a building from far away. You can stare at it for many hours or days and can't see anything happening but only after a period of time do you realise it has gotten bigger then when you first looked. There is then a real sense of satisfaction.


It's like learning a new habit. This is a good habit. You'll start doing things automatically that lead you to the person you have visualised. Your mind now has a map of what direction to go.



An example again would be obese people. Obese people want to lose weight but they "can't". They see themselves as being fat. In their minds they are fat. "I'm a fat slob". The people who lose weight forever are the people who visualise what it would be like to be thin and healthy firstly. This gives them motivation and directs their minds and new habits are formed. Best of all for them, it's not a struggle. It all begins in the mind.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Me thinks somebody has been reading 'The Secret' again
 

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Night Owl said:
Me thinks somebody has been reading 'The Secret' again
If you go back and re read it I said I believe in the law of attraction but it doesn't matter if you don't. Anybody with common sense can see the logic of what I wrote ;)


PS Micheal Losiers LOA book is my fav LOA book. ;)
 

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Nothing wrong with The Secret - great book/film - the Dummies guide to the Law of Attraction - I use it all the time in all areas of my life with results that would blow your socks right off into the middle of next week.

For example as you mentioned: I now know that food doesn't make you fat - fat thoughts make you a slob - think thin thoughts. I have reduced my weight down it ideal size by doing just that. My near 36" waist is back down to a trim 32" and my overall size has reduced from a large to a medium. Do I go to a gym, exercise, jog or go on a diet - nope, just eat what I wanted and thought myself thin. Reduced all the wrinkles around my eyes the same way too without all that expensive creams - just ask for less wrinkles and thought of myself with less wrinkles. Try it, and see....
 

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Night Owl said:
Nothing wrong with The Secret - great book/film - the Dummies guide to the Law of Attraction - I use it all the time in all areas of my life with results that would blow your socks right off into the middle of next week.

For example as you mentioned: I now know that food doesn't make you fat - fat thoughts make you a slob - think thin thoughts. I have reduced my weight down it ideal size by doing just that. My near 36" waist is back down to a trim 32" and my overall size has reduced from a large to a medium. Do I go to a gym, exercise, jog or go on a diet - nope, just eat what I wanted and thought myself thin. Reduced all the wrinkles around my eyes the same way too without all that expensive creams - just ask for less wrinkles and thought of myself with less wrinkles. Try it, and see....

Well thats good. You're proof at what you can do by changing your thoughts about yourself. :up: I've great proof of the LOA working too and I'm using it for new goals etc.


The secret was a good introduction or the dummies guide as you call it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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