"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I swore I would NEVER do this again after a horrible experience. But fate doesn't agree.

They just hired some new people, and one of them happens to be a HB. Who will be working my same crazy hours. Who will be sitting right across from me all night every night. And we will be alone. And she made it a point today to let me know she is available.

I'm already contemplating ways to ask her out in my mind. How can I resist?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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If you don't want to learn from the first time, what will make us stop you from doing it a second time?

If you've got any evil ex's from your past, make it a point to imagine how it would be working right across from one of them, looking at that b1tch's face day in and day out, remembering how she screwed you over. Then realize that this is how it could possibly turn out for you.
 
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Desdinova said:
If you don't want to learn from the first time, what will make us stop you from doing it a second time?

If you've got any evil ex's from your past, make it a point to imagine how it would be working right across from one of them, looking at that b1tch's face day in and day out, remembering how she screwed you over. Then realize that this is how it could possibly turn out for you.
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It's not that I don't want to learn, it's that certain variables are different now. The last time I dipped the pen in company ink (See thread "Does no contact really work?") it backfired because I was a fool and an AFC.

I have matured since then. This chic seems cool and it's not a career, it's a job. What's the harm in letting her buy me breakfast? :D
 
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MacAvoy said:
Live and learn. Do it again, maybe the second time, it will actually rub in.
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It's not like I'm going out of my way to get this girl like last time. She is basically being offered on a silver platter. I didn't even try to look at her, but now she will be sitting across from me all night long. I have no choice but to pursue.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If it is being served on a sliver platter, then you wait for her to pretty much make all the moves.
 
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I'm in a similar situation, although this will be a 1st time for me. My coworker found me on facebook, i got her digits, we went out drinking. She told me has had the hotts for me since day 1. Kissing, dancing, and she wanted me to have sex with her in public... that was last friday.
This monday, she avoided me, then on tuesday we went out for after work drinks. Kissed and laughed alot. Got a text from her later that night saying how much she enjoyed the evening.

Now I'm not sure if she is just worried she came off as slvt the first time, and is taking it slow. Or if she is losing interest, or what. The date on tuesday, it was like she was doing push and pulls, touching me one minute then pulling back another.

I'm not sure what to make of the situation.
 
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Vlad the Impaler said:
I swore I would NEVER do this again after a horrible experience. But fate doesn't agree.

They just hired some new people, and one of them happens to be a HB. Who will be working my same crazy hours. Who will be sitting right across from me all night every night. And we will be alone. And she made it a point today to let me know she is available.

I'm already contemplating ways to ask her out in my mind. How can I resist?
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You can't do it. It'll just cause problems. Instead try to see her as just a friend and ask her if she has any cute friends to hook you up with. Maybe you two can go to a club or something with her friends and your friends. Just whatever you do she's just a friend no more!
 
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I think she had a little ASD on Monday especially if you did go through with the sex in public thing on Friday. But I think you probably got her over it quite well when you went out for drinks on Tuesday.

Right now YOU ARE THE MAN in her eyes. Keep it up black. Sorry for hijack, vlad but I know you understand.
 
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I read an article that said a very high number of people date coworkers. It's not like it's a problem. The problem for you vlad is that you will see her very often. So if things don't work out (or even if they do) you will always have to see her. Now, if you don't have a whole lot of communication with her at work it's different.

I've been in a situation where a coworker basically threw herself at me. I was hesitant at first because I knew she was a coworker. But when she says she needs to repay me for favors and even suggests we go out for drinks then of course I wouldn't let an opportunity like that go by.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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It took 2 bad experiences for me to learn my lesson. NEVER again!!
 
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Nope, Grandma told me: Never go fishing off the company pier.

Wise words indeed.
 
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If you are happy in your job it's a big no, no...

If you don't give a **** about your job, nail that ***** over your ****ing desk, you will then find yourself looking forward to Monday mornings, also you will go to work with a spring in your step and a huge **** off grin on your face.......if it turns to ****, quit....
 
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If her tits are bigger than 36 C than FVCK THE JOB AND GO FOR IT BRO!!!

If not, forget about it. FUHGEDDABAHDIT

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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blackbelt2k said:
I'm in a similar situation, although this will be a 1st time for me. My coworker found me on facebook, i got her digits, we went out drinking. She told me has had the hotts for me since day 1. Kissing, dancing, and she wanted me to have sex with her in public... that was last friday.
This monday, she avoided me, then on tuesday we went out for after work drinks. Kissed and laughed alot. Got a text from her later that night saying how much she enjoyed the evening.

Now I'm not sure if she is just worried she came off as slvt the first time, and is taking it slow. Or if she is losing interest, or what. The date on tuesday, it was like she was doing push and pulls, touching me one minute then pulling back another.

I'm not sure what to make of the situation.
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you just got a notification saying "SHE ADDED YOU ON HER LIST"? then went for the number, then asked her out to go for a drink?
 
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I'm going with Francisco's advice and just be a cool cat around this girl when she starts up my hours. Make her laugh, attract her, get her interested, etc etc. But I won't ask her out and see how crazy I can make her..

It should make the long graveyard shift more interesting. It will be a good test because if I can get her interested enough she should do the chasing. Maybe if I play the cards right I can get her to ask me out.

But I gotta admit, it's going to be hard to stick to this plan. When the time comes and she is sitting there it will be hard not asking her out. Especially since we'll be walking out of the building together most likely.
 
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