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Master Don Juan
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The GUT is programmed off of your past experiences and then measured against your current beliefs to produce a feeling.
If you were to travel abroad and drive on the left hand side of the road against incoming traffic, your Gut may feel this is unnatural. Yet in certain countries, this is the correct lane to drive in.
The Belief System is very challenging and requires great discipline to change. It takes extreme pain in one direction of thinking to desire another. Even when a decision to change is put forth, the Gut fights against it until the belief is actualized. It is a Pull-Pull.
For example, if I were to have many failing relationships with women; enough PAIN may accrue in me to WANT to make a change.
The problem is when the CHANGE suggested goes against our Gut, we experience a Cognitive Dissonance. This is a feeling that feels very uncomfortable. In fact, so DIFFERENT we might revert back to our old way of thinking because it is Cozy. After all, we are wired to take the path of least resistance.
Example,
John is told if a girl disrespects him to walk away. John has never previously walked away from any woman. This is very unnatural to suggest. His whole life has been in desperation and chase.
“I CANNOT lose her”, he proclaims. No matter what John is told, his GUT suggests he NEEDS her. John has made her the center of his life and Feels he cannot lose her.
He has not incorporated a cardinal DJ rule of making himself, his own center. He therefore needs validation of another to complete him.
His Gut screams “Call Her!”. John fights his GUT initially and then surrenders. He calls her and to his surprise she is not accepting of him.
“How could she do this to me. Next time I will walk away”, he sobs. Little does John know he will never likely walk away. His GUT is still the same.
What John must do to change his Gut feeling is to retire his old belief and replace it with a new one. If he adds a cardinal belief, for example, that he comes first and NO woman will make him compromise his self respect or character; his Gut will adhere to this new belief. In the above scenario, his Gut would suggest to walk away.
This is the classic mistake often repeated.
One SHOULD often take a look at his Gut to make sure it is in congruence with his planned direction
.
The AFC with the scarcity mentality will often experience a Cognitive Dissonance when engaging in multiple non exclusive relationships. After all, his life has been strings of exclusive relationships. The very premise of Multiple goes against his Gut.
First step, the AFC must change his belief that all relationships must be exclusive. Next, he needs to accept that multiple non exclusive relationships can exist without compromising his character. Once this belief is understood, he must act on it.
He will experience a mild cognitive dissonance initially. In time, the abundance mentality will feel natural to him. It will be the scarcity thinking that feels unnatural.
Take Inventory of your GUT. It will determine your direction.
If you were to travel abroad and drive on the left hand side of the road against incoming traffic, your Gut may feel this is unnatural. Yet in certain countries, this is the correct lane to drive in.
The Belief System is very challenging and requires great discipline to change. It takes extreme pain in one direction of thinking to desire another. Even when a decision to change is put forth, the Gut fights against it until the belief is actualized. It is a Pull-Pull.
For example, if I were to have many failing relationships with women; enough PAIN may accrue in me to WANT to make a change.
The problem is when the CHANGE suggested goes against our Gut, we experience a Cognitive Dissonance. This is a feeling that feels very uncomfortable. In fact, so DIFFERENT we might revert back to our old way of thinking because it is Cozy. After all, we are wired to take the path of least resistance.
Example,
John is told if a girl disrespects him to walk away. John has never previously walked away from any woman. This is very unnatural to suggest. His whole life has been in desperation and chase.
“I CANNOT lose her”, he proclaims. No matter what John is told, his GUT suggests he NEEDS her. John has made her the center of his life and Feels he cannot lose her.
He has not incorporated a cardinal DJ rule of making himself, his own center. He therefore needs validation of another to complete him.
His Gut screams “Call Her!”. John fights his GUT initially and then surrenders. He calls her and to his surprise she is not accepting of him.
“How could she do this to me. Next time I will walk away”, he sobs. Little does John know he will never likely walk away. His GUT is still the same.
What John must do to change his Gut feeling is to retire his old belief and replace it with a new one. If he adds a cardinal belief, for example, that he comes first and NO woman will make him compromise his self respect or character; his Gut will adhere to this new belief. In the above scenario, his Gut would suggest to walk away.
This is the classic mistake often repeated.
One SHOULD often take a look at his Gut to make sure it is in congruence with his planned direction
.
The AFC with the scarcity mentality will often experience a Cognitive Dissonance when engaging in multiple non exclusive relationships. After all, his life has been strings of exclusive relationships. The very premise of Multiple goes against his Gut.
First step, the AFC must change his belief that all relationships must be exclusive. Next, he needs to accept that multiple non exclusive relationships can exist without compromising his character. Once this belief is understood, he must act on it.
He will experience a mild cognitive dissonance initially. In time, the abundance mentality will feel natural to him. It will be the scarcity thinking that feels unnatural.
Take Inventory of your GUT. It will determine your direction.
