"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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So, this chick on Myspace asks me to be a friend, and I oblige. She says she new in town, and she's looking for new friends. She said she had a boyfriend. So, I became an acquaintance. No need to move in on the girl because I have plenty of other options.

Anyway, 2 weeks later she asks for a ride on my motorcycle, and I said sure if her boyfriend didn't care. She immediately responded with "What boyfriend". So we chat for a minute, and then I left for the gym. I got back home and checked my messages and she said, "I wish I could spot you, hell I just wish I could see what you look like in person". So, I tell her about being single and enjoying it, and she begins to try to build her herself up.

So, I ask her to go get a drink and she says it's her birthday, but hell yeah. So, I called her that night for a bit, and she told me someone was throwing her a birthday party. She ended up saying she was going out with a guy last night and a guy tonight, but didn't know if there would be anyone else (huh? she said it was a birthday party).

So, today I got a message saying her party was canceled and could we uncancel our plans. I simply told her that I made other plans.

Oh, she also told me that her boyfriend called the previous night trying to kill himself. Pathetic! Anyway...

More to come because I'm going to have this girl eating out of my hand...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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If she was on MySpace in the first place she won't be eating out of your hand.
 
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youngwilliam said:
If she was on MySpace in the first place she won't be eating out of your hand.
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What, do you think she might be into tossing salad? That's a plus!
 
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Wow... sounds like a crazy Myspace chick you have on your hands there!

A friend of mine ended up bedding a few myspacers, they were all pretty crazy, must something that attracts them to the site. But, saying that, you should have a good time with them anyway.
 
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What, do you think she might be into tossing salad? That's a plus!
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I think that's about as serious as you should take this situation.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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youngwilliam said:
I think that's about as serious as you should take this situation.
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Nah, just wait. She'll be back. She contacts me everyday. She wants da cack.
 
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More to come because I'm going to have this girl eating out of my hand...
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This girl sound wacked and she is making up stories as they come (if its a real CHICK at all). I think she is one of those chicks that just enjoy adding guys on myspace and tormenting them by playing games and entertain her while she is bored.

Honestly do you think you are special and the only guy she added on myspace and is playing games with?!
 
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This girl sound wacked and she is making up stories as they come (if its a real CHICK at all). I think she is one of those chicks that just enjoy adding guys on myspace and tormenting them by playing games and entertain her while she is bored.

Honestly do you think you are special and the only guy she added on myspace and is playing games with?!
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Nope, I'm not the only guy, but I am the only guy that doesn't give a sh1t about the outcome. The rest of them cling to her. I could care less if anything happens. That's why I told her I made other plans tonight. Girls want guys that are challenges, not hardd1ck desperados that are excited she talks to them. Just wait.

I'm a good looking guy with a good personality, and I'm not expecting anything. She'll chase me like all the rest of them that I've met since learning from this site.
 
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I would invest more of being a challenge to the girls who need that attittude. If she wants you, go for it. Making her wait means the next guy takes your place.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I would invest more of being a challenge to the girls who need that attittude. If she wants you, go for it. Making her wait means the next guy takes your place.
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Well, if that happens, she missed out. I lose nothing. :)

It's a good rule to not show that you are so available. If she cancels a date with me or you, it's a good idea to let them initiate the next one. If she tries to on initiate one for the next night and/or the one she canceled, it's far better to portray that you have a life and are busy than to just jump at the chance to be with her. She has plenty of those type of guys, and it sets you apart.

I'll continue this thread once things get rolling.
 
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Your pride and being a dj is sickening. If she wants it, give it. I don't understand the advice you're after, to not sleep with a girl, when she clearly wants you?
 
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It's not pride. Sh1t I'm not really trying to boast. I'm just trying to teach a good lesson.
 
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I wouldn't necessarily assume she's lying. It could be that she's in one those Rs where they breakup constantly...and he keeps luring her back in with his theatrics. She may want something new (and this is where you come in).

She wants a distraction. She wants to see if she can find something better. If she thinks that this "something better" is you, she'll dump him for good and latch on to you.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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I wouldn't necessarily assume she's lying. It could be that she's in one those Rs where they breakup constantly...and he keeps luring her back in with his theatrics. She may want something new (and this is where you come in).

She wants a distraction. She wants to see if she can find something better. If she thinks that this "something better" is you, she'll dump him for good and latch on to you.
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Dude, she told me flat out, without me even asking, that she's tired of obsessive, controlling men (AFC and the opposite of Don Juan). She said every single man she's met in this town is that way. So, here I am to show that she's about to fall for me. Why? Because I don't care. I'm not easily obtained and different from the other chumps.

It does not matter how many other men are lined up. If they aren't real men, then she ain't interested.
 
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youngwilliam said:
By posting here and not being in-between those thighs right now?
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Narrow minded. You're not looking at the big picture here. I can get laid. I can call up a booty call right now, but that is beside the point that I'm making.
 
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Your thinking is narrow minded. You're being a challenge to a girl you've haven't closed the deal with yet. As far as she knows, you're nothing.
 
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Your thinking is narrow minded. You're being a challenge to a girl you've haven't closed the deal with yet. As far as she knows, you're nothing.
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Ok. Doesn't matter to me. I have lost nothing.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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