“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Some say: "Don't let your GF tell her problems and cry on your shoulders. It'll create negative association and will turn you into a friend"

The others say: "It's your job to listen to your GF's problems"

So which one should I follow? I often get in a situation where my GF is feeling sad. What should I do? Ask her what her problems and try to give her a solution? Or just console her no matter what?

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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Women, in general. do not look for solutions - they seek comfort in their misery!
 
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'Active listening' is what is supposed to be done. As a boyfriend, you are able to listen without looking like an emotional tampon. If you portray the boyfriend role model (Kino, sex etc) and listen then you'll be fine. If you were listening and there were none of the other components there i just mentioned, then that would be a different story.

Communication is the biggest factor in a relationship, and by her feeling comfortable and confident in confiding with you, that's a good thing.

Build up the communication, and master the sexual components of a relationship- and you will be a quality boyfriend.

Don't be yourself. Be your 'better' self...
 
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you're missing the big difference between a girl you're trying to game and a "girlfriend"

someone you're trying to attract, you don't let them vent on you too much. you let treat you like an emotional tampon, all you're doing is subcommunicating that you have nothing better to do with your time than let a girl you don't know dump her problems on you. definately not attractive to her, definately a waste of your time, definately counterproductive if you're trying to hook up with her. and yeah, she'll anchor those non-sexual emotions to you if you let it happen enough times

someone who's your girlfriend, you should care about her enough to wanna make her feel better. you guys are further into the relationship and you should've already attracted her. in that case, you SHOULD listen. and I agree with the active listening and not trying to solve their problems all the time. some girls just wanna vent so they feel better
 
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the problem with my GF is that she rarely willing to tell me what her problems are! she always say, "nothing, it's okay". although it's clear that something's on her mind. it makes me feel that i'm not being trusted. like she doesn't she me as her BF. sometimes it makes me frustrated. what should i do about this? because i really want to know what makes her sad. if she's sad, i feel sad too.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Fela Kuti said:
the problem with my GF is that she rarely willing to tell me what her problems are! she always say, "nothing, it's okay". although it's clear that something's on her mind. it makes me feel that i'm not being trusted. like she doesn't she me as her BF. sometimes it makes me frustrated. what should i do about this? because i really want to know what makes her sad. if she's sad, i feel sad too.
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that's understandable. have you told her all this?
 
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yes, i told her more than once. she said, "if i'm having a problem, i usually don't feel like telling it to anybody. so don't feel disrespected, ok?" or "i don't tel because i just want to forget about that. if i tell you, the problem will come back into my mind and make me down again."
 
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Fela Kuti~ We don't want you to FIX our problems, just listen while we rant and rave for a while. Nodding and saying things like "Hmmm." and "I see" are acceptable. Once we throw the problem down on the floor, we can usually see a solution for it. If we can't, we'll ask you directly:"How do I fix this?"

Ready123's advice was right on the money. (Oddly enough, so was LMS!)
 
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Fela Kuti said:
The others say: "It's your job to listen to your GF's problems"
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Who the hell said that? It's never a man's "Job" to listen to anyones problems.
 
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ok, i don't intend to fix her problems anyway. my concern is, she doesn't even want to tell me what her problems are! it makes me think, "helloooo, i'm your boyfriend! why hide something??"
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Women, in general. do not look for solutions - they seek comfort in their misery!
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+1 :yes:
 
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so what should i do about my gf keeping secrets from me? i believe that secrets like this can destroy a relationship.
 
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There's a difference b/t your g/f and girl you're trying to seduce. Girls you're trying to fuk, avoid being their emotional tampon. However, if it's your gf, then you can listen to her bityching and give feedback.
 
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Fela Kuti said:
so what should i do about my gf keeping secrets from me? i believe that secrets like this can destroy a relationship.
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I don't think she's hiding secrets - she just doesn't know how to be an open book to you. She doesn't like the feeling of being vulnerable. You could try to be patient and slowly teach her to open up. Psychologically, sharing is therapuetic, but she doesn't know that yet.

How you would go about doing that though, I don't know.
 
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well, last night i communicate this subject one more time to her. she said that she's sorry for being an introvert, then proceeds to tell me her problem from earlier that day. i'm pretty surprised to discover that she's an introvert. because if you know her, the last thing you'd say about her is that she's an introvert.

so, how to deal with an introvert kinda girl?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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An "intovert" is simply a Person who tries to HEAL looking In ward.

An "extrovert" HEALS by going to others, by going to the Out ward.


Introverts need space and confort to heal.

Extroverts need you to listen to them vent.
 
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Interceptor said:
An "intovert" is simply a Person who tries to HEAL looking In ward.

An "extrovert" HEALS by going to others, by going to the Out ward.


Introverts need space and confort to heal.

Extroverts need you to listen to them vent.
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Not everyone is an extreme, most are in between and this requires space and comfort.
 
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Fela Kuti said:
well, last night i communicate this subject one more time to her. she said that she's sorry for being an introvert, then proceeds to tell me her problem from earlier that day. i'm pretty surprised to discover that she's an introvert. because if you know her, the last thing you'd say about her is that she's an introvert.

so, how to deal with an introvert kinda girl?
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be patient, and GENTLY give her space to open up each time you feel like she got something on her mind

it's gonna take a while for her to feel like she can tell you anything
 
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she said, one of the things that make her doesn't want to tell is that there's something in my attitude that make her uncomfortable to talk. but she won't tell me what it is.

so anyway, we made a promise. that keeping secrets is not allowed from now on. what do you think?
 
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she cried on the phone when we talked about this. maybe she felt pressured. i feel bad now. should i apologize?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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