"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Things are starting to look up on sosuave
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
LiveFreeX
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Colossus
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Do you guys want to be part of a forum where a handful of members go around flaming the p!ss out of whoever they want, whenever they want? I doubt it. It brings everyone down and turns away guys who need help.
If you guys think the forum is going downhill, why dont you try to make it a place where you'd like to be?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Danger,Danger said:
A few of us provide value to the boards. If we we're to go banning everyone who made smart remarks the main culprit posting on ss who'd need to be banned would be playherman. Yet it's allowed to stay after multiple attacks on various posters because it provides comfort to the groupthinkers with axes to grind against women.
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Legit trolling and crying MISOGYNIST in every thread is hardly "value".Thumpy said:
This is the "guy" I hope you mods are starting to keep a close eye on. I know I'm not the only one to notice the trend every time zarky posts.
PlayHer Man
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You need a tougher skin Zarky / Thumpy. :crackup: :crackup:Thumpy said:
I don't really "attack" people as much as I tell the truth. If you call a fat girl fat.. is that an "attack" or is that just the truth?
Does it help the fat girl to lose weight and get healthy if everyone enables and supports her gluttony and sloth? Me thinks not.
TillTheEndOfTime
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Totally agree. Down Low was an a$$. Totally agree with the ban. He brought nothing but negativity to every post he commented on.Colossus said:
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
disgustipated
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I wouldn't have banned him. But I'm no mod so my opinion is just that. It takes all kinds, and occasionly those types can challenge ya. The danger is if in the off chance they do inspire someone , it reinforces the annoying behavior.
I mean I started tuning out dudes that talked disrepctfully after I got over my fathers tired ****. I always wondered why guys would think that attitude flies. Ahh well.
Bahaahaha that's funny. Burroughs, (.)(.), and several others have contributed nothing but flames since I've been here. And they're still going strong, no sign of change.Colossus said:
I love it how the mods ban like 3 people and think that suddenly the board is going to be awesome.
PM me and I'll give you a list of a dozen more posters who should be banned. Then maybe some real discussion will take place, not just a bunch of omegas calling each other "faggot."( . )( . )
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Ok my original post was deleted so I'll try keeping this one user friendly. If you honestly wanted change try mixing it up then sweetheart. Instead of whining about how awful and misogynist the manosphere is with passive agressive snark, try saying how awesome it is, or at the very least how awesome I am.Zarky said:
There's only so much covert male shaming your going to get away with before someone says something. You honestly think myself and others enjoy telling you to stfu? Believe you me it's painful.
If I may offer some constructive criticism:
Your trolling consists of either shouts of "YALL CAN"T GET LAID" (which btw is odd coming from a 38 year old "man") or your continual endorsement of POF (also strange for a 38 year old "man" at a site aimed toward better puzzy and better self). Occasionally you'll give some "game" advice to save your ass getting banned and to plug your blog but it always seems to have the stench of FemImp cheese all over it.
Am I right? Of course I am. Why not try doing the above less?
Oh and your gloat thread here on DownLows banning under the guise of "sosuave improving" is weak .
Now if you don't mind I'm off to watch game of thrones.
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To be fair to the mods I likened zarky's gloating post of DownLows banning here with that of a bpd chick who deliberately taunts her fella until he snaps and punches the stuffing out of her then gloats as the authorities take him away.Danger said:
I may have thrown the odd C word in here and there and a few other unsavoury words aswell. There's probably something in the sosuave rule book against that.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
Mods are selected based upon a personality that displays restraint and a careful consideration of all factors before taking action. Emotion has to be completely out of the picture, and there are factors we must consider that might not be readily apparent. That being said, we're taking a close look at the troll situation and looking to clean things up.
I've been on forums where the mods are trigger-happy, and in most of those situations they start banning guys for hurting their feelings or challenging them in some way. This is something we need to avoid at all costs. I truly hate to see a guy who may be a little weird or even a little abrasive get banned, just on those factors alone. Sometimes those guys stimulate useful dialog from others. And a lot of the weird guys are here because they're weird, socially under-developed, and are trying to change. But rules are rules and MUST be enforced. Rest assured that I (and others) are taking a harder look at obvious trolls and rule-breakers and will take appropriate action.
typical
Master Don Juan
No matter how much anyone here gets on my nerves or I find their belief or view "stupid" or "narrow minded", they do bring up certain points that are interesting to read and think about.
I totally disagree with this. Flame posts make a discussion forum look really trashy. There's no better word to describe it.typical said:
Imagine you were on a science board and saw this conversation:
Person 1: "If the two angles are equal, it follows from SAS congruence theorem that the two triangles are congruent. Since they are congruent, angles A and A' have the same measure. And, angles A' and A'' are the same because they are vertical angles. So since A and A' are the same, and A' and A'' are the same, it follows that angles A and A'' are the same."
Person 2: "Dude you're an idiot and a fag."
Person 1: "No dude, you're the fag."
Person 3: "You're both a couple of fags."
How seriously would you take that science board? And if you wanted to discuss science, how long would you stick around?
The reason SS sucks sooo bad these days is exactly because of this. The few people who come here to have somewhat interesting conversations are soon frustrated by how ridiculous many posters are. And those people leave and post elsewhere.
If the mods truly want to get SS out of the rut it's in, they have to ban personal attacks. First attack, one week ban. Second attack, one month. Third, you're out.
You can attack ideas all you want, but ad hominem attacks are the mark of a small mind, and this place has far too many small minds on it to be taken seriously as a PU forum.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.