IWillReturnSoon - Great minds think alike Bro!
Actually, about 3-4 years ago, I was asking on this forum, where can I learn "The Cube" and other routines.
Decided that routines and gimmicks and such weren't for me. They weren't genuine, real, didn't do anything for me as far as becoming a better person, so I went in a different direction, which was the original goal of this place.
And that was, to become a "DJ"
Not a PUA, a DJ
I wonder how many people here even know the difference between the two, or how many people here remember what the difference is, and why this place was created?
I've gone to a more "Natural" style, based somewhat on "Direct" (Shark, Badboy, Razorjack) method, but tweaked to my strengths and weaknesses, and not adhering strictly to any particular rule or rules.
I do what works best for me, but it also has to feel right, and it has to be right. When I look in the mirror, I have to be able to look at myself, review my actions and not have any regrets, and part of that requirement was to have ethics.
Imagine that - an "ethical" PUA :crackup:
But in order to do that, I had to be honest with myself.
Being honest, genuine, direct, no treating people with disrespect. No taking advantage of women, or people in general. Being honest with not only others, but especially with myself. Taking responsibility for everything that happens in my life, good or bad. No lies, no excuses, no BS, no fakery, no games, no being vindictive, or "getting back" at people for the perceived wrongs they've done me.
Doing the right thing, taking responsibility for my actions, even if there will be negative consequences for doing so. Standing up for myself, and for others if they can't do so for themselves, but not being a "Captain Save-a-Ho". And not being a "Hater"
Don't mistaken my critcism of MM for being a Hater. I personally like Mystery, but just don't like the deceitful elements of his methods and will point it out to others. They can make their choice from there, but they should be given as much info as possible before making that decision.
For example, 3 or 4 years ago, I was going to take an RSD bootcamp/workshop. Had I not read some of the posts about RSD on this and other forums, I would have made IMO a huge mistake taking an RSD seminar, which I ended up deciding against.
Ironic that you mention "Mode One" by Alan Roger Currie, as I just checked out his ebook and not only is it pure gold, it makes a ton of sense on numerous levels, and it is also the direction I was already headed, so maybe it was just fate or whatever, but again I have just done a quick read, but like I said, it's next in the natural progression of where I'm heading so it makes sense. Have you read it and if so, give me your thoughts on it.
As for "abcd_z" this isn't about "my way or no way" it's about sharing my experiences with "the community" and the various characters and techniques in the community I've come across, and posting them, and trying to help others.
I don't come here and brag about the HB9 I banged the other night, or whatever. There was a time when I did, but I moved beyond needing validation from not only anonymous strangers on internet forums, but also from women.
Yes, there was a time when I used to seduce women more so for the validation I would receive from the encounter, and maybe a little bit, I still do.
After all, getting together with a HB 9 or 10 sure does a lot for the ego, but much like rejection, it matters far less what some HB9+ thinks about me than what I think about me.
Whether they reject me or accept me is low on my list of priorities. Again, it's not important what they think about me, it's about what I think about me, about how I feel when I look in the mirror, and ultimately, when my time is up, how I lived my life.
I believe that's part of the maturation process and about becoming the type of person that not only women are attracted to, but it's about becoming the type of person I wish to become. I've come a long way, but still have a ways to go. Self-Improvement never ends.
Again, there was a time 3-4 years ago when I was asking where I could find routines such as "The Cube" and others. I then spent time out in the field, and came to the conclusion that routines and gimmicks were not only deceitful and unethical but they were a waste of time, didn't contribute to my own personal growth, and the time spent learning them could be far better spent on learning other things that I would better benifit from, both personally and professionally.