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I say girlfriend for ease of sake, we’ve been out a few times & it’s casual but she’s moving pretty fast for my liking. I don’t know what it is? We’ve agreed we’re not with anyone else though. I’d talked about something else a few days earlier with this other girl, we talk occasionally. And I...

@stringpuller & @manfrombelow exactly! I don’t ‘just’ want sex, but I ‘do’ want to have sex with her (or at least I would if we were single!), I’d rather state my intentions and be honest than get stuck in the friend zone. So what if she ‘puts me on blast’! Nothing wrong with respectfully...

To be honest it was more how was the best way to react is all? I wanted to get across ‘ we’re both with someone so I’m not interested now anyway, but yeahin general I don’t see you that way’ in case we were single again in future. And wasn’t sure if I should a) Say “yeah but friends don’t want...

Of course I don’t know enough about women, that’s why I’m here, to learn :lol: I thought that was obvious mate! I’m not sure what help saying I was a pvssy is though, I mean I know that I’m trying to make sure it doesn’t happen in the future! @CAPSLOCK BANDIT we DM each other occasionally, it’s...

Haha! Not at all, this is another reason why I wasn’t sure how to word it (as I say I have Asperger’s, so I struggle to express myself clearly sometimes) I don’t want to do anything with her at all now, because I’m with someone and so is she. I respect that. It’s just if we both became single...

@manfrombelow hey it wasn’t for lack of trying! She said she was really uncomfortable going any further than me going down on her / her giving me a BJ, which is what we did, because it was a first date and from what I could tell, she had a few hang-ups. I mean, we both came, she had an issue...

Got it! Cheers guys, this is gold. I couldn’t have done anything different at the time, with all the family things I had going on I’m glad things were all handled as well as they were. I’ll just ignore her message completely. @oldmanofthesea it was never about ‘calling her out’ so to speak...

Guys, this is perfect thanks! It got weird as we slept together the first time (well we went to bed, got naked & did everything ‘but’ sex), then she went cold for a while. I assumed it was me (I had a lot of family issues, my brother had recently tried to commit suicide so I had a lot going...

I went out with a girl a few times the other year, it all got a bit weird and we didn’t go out for a while. Flash forward to now, she’s with someone and so am I. I made a comment on something teasing her on IG DM’s earlier about how I was avoiding women (including her) for a while & she said...

I totally see where you’re coming from Max, & in most normal situations I’d totally agree with you. My thing is we didn’t end on bad terms (at least I don’t think so!), but I had a lot going on outside my relationship at the time (my oldest sister got sick, my brother got AIDS, really heavy...

Not sure if this is the right place to put this, but split up with my GF (well, she split up with me :lol:) a year ago. We hadn’t been going out long, but I was in a bad place at the time due to family problems (my brother had attempted suicide, but I couldn’t tell anyone as he made me promise...

Thanks SO much for this, these are all great reminders and just what I needed to hear. The fact I’m in lockdown and can’t see the rest of my family is making it even harder, but it’s genuinely a help to remind me to grieve for her. And I’m so relieved you said that about my ex as well! I was...

Thanks for the advice guys, kinda what I thought but deep down you always want to hear what you want to be told, you know. It’s rather ironic as one of the women I’ve dated since used to date one of the biggest pop stars in the UK (& a former England football captain, till she found out he was...

Hey, you’re right I suppose it could be that. I mean I never got that impression when we went out, in fact she seemed pretty keen but she had just started a new job as well and was working away, she genuinely seemed pretty busy. And even when we weren’t going out in December/Jan she was still...

So I’ve been doing this myself (I decided to give myself 6 months before I even saw this thread) as a choice since my last girlfriend split up with me. Bit of background... We’d been going out several months, got on great & the sex was amazing. Looking back now, I can see the problems were: A)...

Thanks man, I don’t want to drag the conversation down here but I think there’s a lot of upheaval going on everywhere right now, your advice is wonderful though and I’ll be sure to put it all into practice more once the world starts up again!

Thanks man, this is a great reply! Sorry I’ve just seen this (had a family bereavement and not been on here) but there is some gold in this! Hopefully others in a similar situation see this as I feel it’d really help them as well.

This makes PERFECT sense, thanks for this! You basically just come off like you’re trying to hard. I agree, it does look desperate. Basically be yourself, but just amplify your best qualities. I think some people forget that others can see how you treat those below you (be it at work, on the...

Thanks mate! I can’t say it’s ever helped my dating life haha, but it’s definitely not harmed it. I can’t speak for everyone who has it, & maybe it’s how confident you are telling others (I don’t care who knows, to me it’s not a big deal at all & I don’t feel it’s some shameful secret to be...

Thanks for the warm welcome guys! And I feel bad only writing a paragraph or two here after all you’ve put, but this is GOLD and after a year or so of drama, is exactly what I needed to be reminded of & get me back on track thanks! I’ve saved this (along with the other tips I’ve got here) and...