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Could be, if not spinning plates for sure prospecting. If I'm honest all this months of no contact I didn't even blink at the possibility of contacting her, but it is now that I see she's with another dude that I don't like the situation. I think is my ego whats hurting, but I'll take the loss...

I agree with you, however if I have done something right during these years is to take responsibility for what happened in my relationship and use it to improve myself. That is the reason why I was able to turn around a situation that seemed hopeless and get my girl to be back hell over heels in...

You are right, I think she got a dude that is esy avalible and willing to commit but of course I'm not sure. Anyway, I definitely could do better and avoid the emotional attachment next time dating multiple women. If I enter a serious relationship at this point of my life of a fear of losing...

It's inspiring to have men like you guys pointing the bigger picture problems (mindset and feminine conditioning) of my approach and not focus on the quick fix and general solutions to "get back with her" as popular culture does. I think I definitely needed a situation like this to accelerate my...

Hard pill to swallow but I see that I am in the feminine mind frame. I will learn from the experience. Thanks

Yeah, I suppose I rationalize and idealize her because of all the time we spent together. She grew up without a father figure (the guy had alcoholism problems) and I think that could have also had created some emotional baggage against men. Deep down I think I knew I could not have a good...

True. I'd say I am familiar with the Red pill, not the same as have taken the Red pill. My fault. We both are from the same small town and are here for vacation. Friends in common let me know that she was with another dude. Could be. Maybe I say that to myself to feel better. No I'm not. I...

If it weren't for game, I'd have lost her much sooner.

That wasn't the first time she did something like that, she is a poor communicator, instead of explaining what bothers her, she goes silent. Besides, she did it just when a relative of mine had just died and I found that disrespectful so I wasn't gonna get involved in that game.

Agree. Also, I think the reason that I didn't want to commit was that I didn't trust her again after that period in which she treated me like sh*t for not having my act together. That made me wake up and realize that there was no "unconditional" love.

I just got home. First of all, thank you all again for the comments, many of you have opened my eyes, but I do not agree with some of them. I think that in order to understand this case well it is necessary to explain a little more how our relationship was. The year in which this girl started...

I will update as soon as I get home. Thanks to everyone for taking the time to respond

That's exactly the thing. It is not just the sex it's like she texted me 5 times a day, wanted to see me every day... It looked like she couldn't live without me and then she turns off her feelings like a switch and she's gone with another dude who doesn't make her feel the same way at all. So...

Agree. But in my experience with this girl when I compromised something the relationship didn't have the same spark, the sex lost quality and more drama emerged. Also, I had less time to invest in my career, hobbies, family, and friends who been there since day one and never left because some...

Not "crushed", "bothered" I need to change that fvcking word. This morning I was in the gym listen to a song called "Crushed" by Parkway Drive and I believe that is why that was the first thing that came up to my mind :mad:. I lost that girl before for months and I had no clue if she was gonna...

I never said that she was that special, I suppose I have her somewhat idealized because the time I spent with her and the fact that she is now with another dude. I am bothered not crushed, my fault. Man, I wish I could have somebody like you as a big brother to kick me in the ass when I am...

Agree, but I feel it would hurt a lot more in the long run if I compromise. Who knows. "It hurts cuz u have history and familiarity." Totally. I can get hotter women in a week, but with her I have a long history so it is way different. I like to talk to you guys. I don't have a lot of...

Yeah, crushed it may no be the word. I am from Spain and that was the first English word I came up with to describe my situation. But I agree it is not an accurate one, maybe "bothered" would be. Nope, 20 might be a lot. She is hot, she was into me like crazy for the past three years...

I know she had enough of waiting, and I also kind of expected that, but I did not want a committed relationship because I know familiarity destroys the chemistry and also I feel like I would be compromising to make her happy. The thing I don't get is how she could be with a guy that has no...

Totally agree. But I think I did a pretty good job keeping her for 3 years mad in love with me without committing to a serious relationship. What I don't know is what I could have done different