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41 days in now. It's still rough sometimes, but at least I feel like I can approach most days with a sound mind, and I can look at things logically. Sometimes people can surprise you, and then you spend a lot of your time trying to rationalize what they do in your own mind. A lot of times the...

29 days, and it's getting better and better. I still have my low moments, but overall I feel like I'm getting back to my old self. I have a date with an absolutely beautiful girl tonight, and another Friday night. That helps a lot. Stay strong, brothers!

I'm no expert, but it seems like a bad idea for two reasons: 1. Making a proposal like that could make you look desperate to keep her in your life. She will think her pvssy is solid gold, and you can do no better. 2. You are too attached emotionally. Sex with her will just reignite any...

Oh, I know it's over. I could never trust her again. As for avoiding them, I do the best I can as it is, but occasional run ins are inevitable. It shouldn't even bother me, and I shouldn't really be mad at him. After all, she's gorgeous and he's just doing what guys do. Doesn't mean I wouldn't...

Day 23. I'm having a bit of a relapse today. I had a dream about her last night, and followed that up with catching a glimpse of her and her new man (we work in the same building). I really hope that isn't always going to be something that sets my healing back, because I always run the risk of...

Day 21 Staying strong...which is aided by the fact that I have discovered that there is a "good" kind of stress. To those of you who think there is no such thing as good stress: spinning 4 plates at once= the good kind of stress. :)

Day 18 Woke up early this morning to see that she had sent me a text last night. It said "You would be so proud of me. I finally have my own place and it feels so good." Wtf? Lol. I would be PROUD of her? Why the fvck would I even care? Smh. Delete.

Well, it could always be worse. I work in the same building as her AND him, and everyone knows that she dropped me for him. Right now I just stay away from places at work that I might run into them. The occasional sighting is inevitable though. It's tough. I hate going into work now. I hate the...

Day 14 for me. I'm in a pretty sound frame of mind today, but I've had good days before and I'm not stupid enough to think there aren't more bad days ahead. I just try to remember that the pain is temporary and the good days will start coming more and more, with less bad days. I've really...

I know it's hard man, because I do the same thing, but you need to concentrate more on using this time to detach yourself rather than focusing on how she reacts. Banking on her to react the way you want her to isn't a safe bet, and it can result in you getting hurt worse down the line. I know...

Day 13 This isn't getting any easier. I won't contact her, as she is with someone else, but I just wish the pain would stop. I'm spending the day with family today, but it's not helping. I can't get her off of my mind. Shouldn't I be starting to feel at least a little bit better? Trying to man...

Day 12 (again) Dear God in heaven, I am a fvcking idiot. This is the third time I've attempted no contact. I've let that stupid b***h reel me back in twice, and I'm here to tell you: One and DONE. Don't let them do it to you again and again. Don't do what I did and sacrifice your self respect...

So it's been like two and a half weeks of no contact. Today I was on a little bit of an emotional roller coaster, but I had a unique moment, almost like an epiphany. It was the first time the thought actually entered my mind that I would be ok without her, and that my life could actually be...

Amen to that, brother. Great outlook.

I can personally attest to that last part. I've failed at NC more than once, and the day that you break it is always, without question, even worse than the fresh break up. I'm a slow learner I guess, but I'm making it now. Eventually we all have to realize that as bad as letting go hurts...

2 weeks of NC. Today she texted a buddy of mine at work to ask how I was doing. I was pretty proud of him for how he handled it. He said "I don't know. He's been busy and we haven't talked much, and when we do you haven't come up." She said, "Oh ok. Well I hope he's doing good." Haha. Taking the...

So, I saw her this morning. It wasn't intentional, and it was from a distance. I didn't make eye contact or anything else, but it still ****ed me up for some reason. Oh well. Gonna be one of those days, I guess. I'm going to have to learn to deal with seeing her once in a while. We work in the...

Thanks for that Yorkex! I'm already starting to hate the guy I was a week ago! The pain is still there, but I have the strength to continue. I consider all of this a test of manhood, and when I come through it I'll be the man I was always supposed to be.

@ Romezu. I sent you a PM. I hope that will solve your problem with PMing me. If not, we can work something else out. @ Mauser96. Great advice bro. It's hard advice to follow in the beginning, and sounds harsh, but I have no doubt it's true. Hope everyone who is a novice at this no contact thing...

I know it's hard, because I fight the same thing, but it's better if you don't try to figure out what's going on in her head. You'll never figure it out anyway. I feel better on the days when I don't try to "crystal ball" what's going on in her life. We never really know anyway, right? Even if...