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Life derailed by a BPD? Yep, I've been there as have many others here. The cure is NC and working out why she could mesmerise and manipulate you. I really do sympathise though as I can recall being right where you are. Giving it too you straight.

Boys play games, men don't.

Just WTF are you on about?

^ True. Or you can just avoid the inevitable drama and just fvck her straight off.

LAR nailed it straight up. Run, full NC. Don't piss around the edges with the slow ghosting.

I personally just freely express my lack of belief when the question of religion comes up. Admittedly it's not too hard to do in Australia as it's not taken seriously by most of the population, thankfully. What helps is that in the past few years various religious organisations have been found...

I just read the back story and have to agree that it's time to say goodbye. Your're acting way too needy and weak, don't make this mistake again.

Welcome to sosuave Op, and thanks for sharing your story. I experienced the exact phases in a 3 month period as well. She gave me a little hint when she told me she "had a fear of abandonment". I googled that very phrase and ended up here. The lightbulb came on at the same time my jaw dropped...

I'm currently dating a single mum and have been for close on 3 years. My experience has been good but I definitely think it's an exceptional situation. She runs her own sucessful hairdressing business, very independent, from a good family and has huge respect for her father. No sh1t tests and...

The generalisations that are sprouted on this forum are fvcking ridiculous sometimes and if you buy into them you're an idiot. Qualify her on a range of criterior, how quick she gives it up is only a small part of that criterior.

In my experience 27 fits. It was about this age that my first LTR (of 8 years) told me she wanted babies or she was out. I don't do ultimatums well so I let her go. She was a good woman though and if I had of known what I would encounter later I probably would have reconsidered this move. Never...

Too much obsessive reading mate. Continuously focusing on how fvcked up they are doesn't help. Time to just accept she is how she is and use your time to sort your own sh1t out. Keep going like this and you'll soon be seeing borderlines everywhere. Not all women are borderlines. Forget dating...

I'm absolutely sure she did. Mr Unfaithful is now happily married and doing well. Mr Suicide was their neighbor while she was living with Mr Abusive (who was helping her raise Mr Unfaithfuls child). I wouldn't be surprised if she was fvcking Mr Suicide behind Mr Abusives back and that's what...

Not a surprising outcome Infern0. Mine had a tale of an ex that went into full blown mental breakdown and attempted to off himself. She also had an unfaithful ex and another that was extremely abusive. Of course she told me all this on our first date and framed it in a way that she was the...

Hey OP Just wanted to throw a little more support behind you as someone who has also been through the BPD wringer. I was only with one for 3 months but even that was enough to put me in an emotional tail spin, I really pity those that have gone years.... For what its worth here's my advice...

I think the OP did well,he listened to his gut and nexted what would most likely have been a nightmare woman. I think these type more so than healthy women are harder to get out of your mind. They tend to have a certain allure and with the quick,deep attachment it fools many into thinking...

My response was directed at the OP's question and reading up on BPD may provide some answers. Yes it gets thrown around a lot but in this guys case there are a lot of traits pointing towards cluster B. If you're clueless about it it can't hurt to inform yourself.

You absolutely did the right thing getting her out of your life, don't look back and maintain no contact. A borderline personality disordered woman is my thoughts on what you were dealing with. Lots of us here have been through the wringer with one and found this site looking for answers in the...

Sounds like a self absorbed wanker to me. If he sat down beside me sprouting some of this crap I'd walk away.

Assuming it turns out to be yours and you choose to be involved, which I would strongly recommend as this child could turn out to be best thing in your life. Forget about a relationship with her for the moment and just provide support, do this via emails, inquire about the progress of the...