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Even if your end goal was to get her back, you went back to her wayy to easily as soon as she wanted you to. It just lets her know that she can always have you; its unattractive. Any anxiety she may have had about going separate ways from you, you calmed. I've been there before with this. Girls...

I agree with Zinc. I think that saying well "good!" seems immature and inauthentic. Being real, saying along the lines of what zinc stated "wow i didn't expect that, but if its what you really want..." you are showing a bit of vulnerability which is NOT always bad, but you're also showing that...

Cheap motel for a few hours. Get some drinks first.

I don't get why you contacted her so long after the fact when she is obviously in a good place in life. It kind of seems like you were looking to stir things up, no? I'm not trying to be a dxck, just something to think about what you true intentions really were - whether you realized it at the...

You haven't won her over, she's not completely interested and is thinking about if she really "feels" like hanging out. My advice would be to move on. No one is too busy to return a text. She might have some other drama going on. Not worth it.

It sounds like she is somewhat curious about the way you disappeared and haven't tried to contact her again. Maybe she dated some more AFCs, got bored of them, and you came back into mind and she's testing the waters to see if there's still any interest on your part. If your main goal is to heal...

I appreciate the advice. To UPDATE: She contacted me on Friday (yesterday) asking how everything was going. I chose to respond, and she ended up telling me that she had no plans for Friday night. We hung out, went out to dinner, I slept at her place and we did not hook up. This morning we went...

JK, Have you read The Game? By Neil Strauss - do it. For now, don't initiate contact, look really good, and play it cool for now. You have to play it off to her like its allll good in your life. Put up a picture on facebook with a hot girl. Watch the prying begin, and the interest go UP. If you...

Damn, yeah, I was trying to be vague but she kept asking questions. This is the thread I read that pushed me in that direction: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/archive/index.php/t-100447.html

Good Idea to Use Jealousy Plot? A girl who I have a long history of on again off again hooking up recently ended things with me, stating that she wanted to be my friend, continued contacting me every day and making an effort to be really nice. I was initially responsive but would not initiate...

You don't know that she hasn't developed feelings for you either. Maybe that is HER plan, to grow on you and play it cool! You never know! I think you should make it known to her in some way that you are starting to have feelings for her and see how she responds. If you don't get the answer you...

I am in somewhat of a similar situation and I am just wondering how exactly you went about ending things with her? Did you tell her you have feelings for her?

I've been feeling down about my oneitis too and I know I have to get back into a good work out routine. You have inspired me, Meast. Nothing beats looking amazing the next time you see her. Kudos. Reading is also good for loneliness and to take your mind away from repetitive thoughts. I am...

Its definitely the time of year that can make ya feel lonely. Jumping into a relationship with anyone to fill a space isn't the answer either, though. Make sure to do things to keep yourself feeling confident and looking good. Being happy on your own sets you up for a healthy relationship, and...

At this point I am going to stop initiating any contact. If she contacts me, I am going to play the "I'm doing just fine" card and not try to hang out or be readily available. We do have some mutual friends, so we are bound to see each other eventually. In response to telling her I was on a...

Over the past 3 years I have been have been hooking up with this girl who I have secretly wanted to be with the whole time. She is highly desired, so to get myself in with her I started out in a friendship-type way. (Also note we were hanging around with the same group, so this was a way for me...

It sounds like you are down about your life in general and idealizing the past. Pull yourself up by your boot straps, be healthy, find a job and watch the way you feel improve. She isn't going to come back to you when you are down in the dumps anyway, its like a slap in the face. When things...

In response to your original problem with this girl sending you mixed signals, and then shutting you down once you hung out, I think that she was probably romanticizing about the past and then when she saw you and you were TOO nice to her, reality hit that she could have you when ever she wants...

It sounds like it may be more complicated than I can understand on here. Is there anything you do [are aware of] that may make other people feel uncomfortable (girls or guys)? Do you identify as either an extrovert or introvert? Is there any other reason your peers may be treating you like an...