Communication - Over reading or testing behavior?

[lp12468]

Hi, I wanted to get all of your thoughts on decoding communication. Am I correct to say that women, especially if from a broken background (e.g. daddy issues), test constantly? Recently I have pulled back in the relationship and the tests have gone up 10X. They are also surrounding infidelity themes but indirectly (e.g. talking about a story where frat guys gang banged a girl and then later describing her apartment like a frathouse (one of her female friends said who is married), or talking about a sex swing randomly after very indirect jabs at poly sex with taken men and their partners). I also found it odd how her new friend's husband was renovating his home and then talked about copper, she has a copper IUD. Prior to that and through that conversation he had her finger near her lips looking at him. There are not supporting behaviors or actions, just words I must say. Should I be getting at something here? Are words ever a reliable means (indirectly of course) of whether or not someone is cheating? Donovan Sharpe has ******** (blurring out but woman ease) which does cross into the lines of decoding communication, but my interpretation was it had to do with communication tied to action (e.g. oh I just saw my coworker again). I'm also not sure how much Rollo would agree with woman ease like that.

 

[lp12468]

I always try to use Rollo's framework as there is a lot of other nonsense out there. I feel that if you go off the deep end with some forms of red pill ideology you're constantly over analyzing and paranoid, like myself. I just want to make sure whether I'm off base with that or not (e.g. she is just testing).

 

[KevinRyman22]

Women experience vast abundance, aka they dont need any new guys attention--ever. Thery can simply go on instagram DMs, fb dms, tinder and pick and choose who they want like a wealthy man looking at a watch collection in his closet.

When they test you or you are getting tested often 1) they are showing they dont care 2) they thnk you're a player and want to see u work for it ... IN either case, its not worth it.. especially if youi have to go to a forum and ask-- it just means its not for you brother.. Focus on wealth and hobbies.

 

[lp12468]

Interesting, so by showing they don't care can you explain more?

 

[lp12468]

Also I'd like to clarify this is in the context of an LTR.

 

[KevinRyman22]

I want you to understand this piece of information and plaster it on your forehead so you dont forget:
NEVER IGNORE RED FLAGS IN WOMEN. YOu are a fool to and it shows you have no boundaries if you choose to be with a woman with terrible red flags.

The woman you mentioned sounds like shes been emotionally damaged and lost all her innnocence a long time ago.. now shes a nympho and sex addict. possibly also has had SA in her past (sexual assault)..t hese women become demons.. just run bro.

 

[lp12468]

Yes but how engrained is this with Rollo Tomassi's theory? He mentions how the medium is the message, in other words what she does versus what she says. Isn't there a good chance that she is extremely toxic and testing? I am just trying to understand for future reference.

 

[lp12468]

I am familiar with the ideology but not the practice.

 

[retardedautist2020]

Also I'd like to clarify this is in the context of an LTR.

Run for the hills bro. Trust your gut, ignore Rollo the boomer who married a 35 year old and decided to write “red pill” books to cope with the fact that he married a wh0re.

 

[Clockwerk50]

The main way women communicate in relationships is through **** tests and comfort tests. There are multiple websites that explain what these tests are and how to pass them.

**** tests occur when you are not taking care of yourself, your responsibilities, or the people around you, causing her to question your leadership and competence. Comfort tests happen when she feels she is no longer part of your world and wants to reassess her place in your life. She wants to know that she still matters to you, that she can count on you, and that she remains an important part of your world. Comfort tests can arise when you become unaffectionate or inattentive, making her question your interest in the relationship.

Unless there are other suspicious behaviours, I wouldn't interpret these comments as signs of infidelity.