taiyuu_otoko
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Fight fire with fire.
Low key, funny.
Don't ever, ever, ever, take anything seriously.
Let it run off your back like water off a duck.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Should I quit my job for a lack of respect?
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Low key, funny.
Don't ever, ever, ever, take anything seriously.
Let it run off your back like water off a duck.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
rambambram
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Don't worry about HR. They will back down the moment you CC them in an email (from your personal email address) to the legal department and ask legal if you should lawyer up in this case? Then you explain the case.
Play a little dumb, don't get personal (although one would be tempted if colleagues/management also get beyond professional), have plausible deniability ("I'm just asking if I need a lawyer for this. I don't know any of this!!?"), stay f*cking neutral in your wording of that email (don't give them any little emotional nook or cranny to grab their dirty fingers/tongue on).
Companies - especially bigger ones - have an hierarchy. Your boss? Also just has a boss! Who doesn't want 'trouble' from his/her employee (your boss, not you). A couple of times have I emailed a CEO (somewhere in another city in their HQ) of the company I worked for, because of this same sh1t. Never ever did this lead to trouble for me. Most of these times everything worked out, I stayed there, did my work, had nice social contacts with most of the crew, and the little b1tches from management/colleagues got nice and respectful or hated me in silence (I rather have them hate me in silence than mock me in the open). Other times it didn't feel right for me afterward, and then I left.
You don't do this for revenge, you do this for your own peace of mind. I sense you are not willing to brush your described situation off as just a little joking, which signals to me that it is about a flavor of disrespect in these interactions (which I understand is something you want to fix). The above solution lets them know - in a plausible deniable way (so you increase the chance of still having your job) - that you are able to f*ck harder with them and you can touch them where it hurts. The thing about this disrespect is that people are trying you, and if they sense they get away with it, it will come back at some moment, probably a little nastier even. And in the meantime you constantly don't feel good about it. It's better to nip it in the bud quickly.
I don't know where you're from, but where I'm from we have pretty good labor law and everybody in management knows that. If you signal that you also know (or that you're thinking of lawyering up, whether you actually do that or not), they think twice about messing with you.
Don't apply this advice as is. I'm not you, and you're not me. If you think you can deal with this by focusing on positive stuff and ignore the disrespect, by all means try that. I tried that sometimes, but it just didn't work for me. You might be different. I do know about people who honestly can deal with disrespect like that, while also sincerely staying positive about that workplace. I'm not one of them, I can't stay positive if that sh1t happens around me.
Play a little dumb, don't get personal (although one would be tempted if colleagues/management also get beyond professional), have plausible deniability ("I'm just asking if I need a lawyer for this. I don't know any of this!!?"), stay f*cking neutral in your wording of that email (don't give them any little emotional nook or cranny to grab their dirty fingers/tongue on).
Companies - especially bigger ones - have an hierarchy. Your boss? Also just has a boss! Who doesn't want 'trouble' from his/her employee (your boss, not you). A couple of times have I emailed a CEO (somewhere in another city in their HQ) of the company I worked for, because of this same sh1t. Never ever did this lead to trouble for me. Most of these times everything worked out, I stayed there, did my work, had nice social contacts with most of the crew, and the little b1tches from management/colleagues got nice and respectful or hated me in silence (I rather have them hate me in silence than mock me in the open). Other times it didn't feel right for me afterward, and then I left.
You don't do this for revenge, you do this for your own peace of mind. I sense you are not willing to brush your described situation off as just a little joking, which signals to me that it is about a flavor of disrespect in these interactions (which I understand is something you want to fix). The above solution lets them know - in a plausible deniable way (so you increase the chance of still having your job) - that you are able to f*ck harder with them and you can touch them where it hurts. The thing about this disrespect is that people are trying you, and if they sense they get away with it, it will come back at some moment, probably a little nastier even. And in the meantime you constantly don't feel good about it. It's better to nip it in the bud quickly.
I don't know where you're from, but where I'm from we have pretty good labor law and everybody in management knows that. If you signal that you also know (or that you're thinking of lawyering up, whether you actually do that or not), they think twice about messing with you.
Don't apply this advice as is. I'm not you, and you're not me. If you think you can deal with this by focusing on positive stuff and ignore the disrespect, by all means try that. I tried that sometimes, but it just didn't work for me. You might be different. I do know about people who honestly can deal with disrespect like that, while also sincerely staying positive about that workplace. I'm not one of them, I can't stay positive if that sh1t happens around me.
BackInTheGame78
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Maybe you should figure out why this is occurring first because it seems like this would just result in it happening again elsewhere.
Cheeky_James
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Like @taiyuu_otoko said.
This is just office politics and power dynamics in action.
Look into verbal frame control Lit and prepare some verbal comebacks to such situations.
The best you can do is hold your ground /show a backbone and don't let them one-up you too much.
But as they are mgt, you are still subordinate. So know that..
Btw it not isolated to your office/workplace. Its in every workplace.
This is just office politics and power dynamics in action.
Look into verbal frame control Lit and prepare some verbal comebacks to such situations.
The best you can do is hold your ground /show a backbone and don't let them one-up you too much.
But as they are mgt, you are still subordinate. So know that..
Btw it not isolated to your office/workplace. Its in every workplace.