"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Westminster

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I had a Zoom meeting with a young (mid 30s Latina) woman at work yesterday afternoon. We sorted what we needed to deal with, which took about half an hour, and then the conversation broadened out and became quite flirtatious. I escalated a bit and she's playing with her hair, smiling, giggling at my corny jokes, being chatty, etc. I'm saying "I don't want to do any work, I prefer just wasting time with you". She's saying "yeah, me too. I like it".

We were at this for nearly two hours and she's telling me that she likes to cook, that she's thrifty with money, and that she likes wine but that she's not into getting drunk. So, I then quipped "OK, I'm taking notes because you sound like the perfect woman".

She then turned serious and said "you're not going to try to get me fixed up with a boyfriend are you, because I don't want a relationship. Not now, not ever. I want to be single, I like my peace too much". OK I said, "I like my peace too". We then made a little bit of small talk and left the meeting. It seemed like a slap down and felt a bit uncomfortable to be honest.

I've been mulling this over and I think it's pretty obvious what was going on - she enjoyed the flirting but decided to slap me down when she'd had enough. OK, fair enough, I can take the L. Do you guys agree?

BTW, I'm old but in good shape, decent looking and I've got aIl my hair. I run and do calisthenics, and basically got the body of a soccer player. I'm no spring chick but some women do still seem to like me and the woman in question has been slightly flirty with me before, most recently during an in-person meeting earlier this week. Or at least I thought she was being slightly flirty.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Clockwerk50

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When I was in my 20s, I was friends with a group of guys who partied a lot, talked to tons of girls, and whatnot. One of these guys, after getting some girl’s number, for some reason, ended up talking to her on the phone for hours at night, talking about multiple topics. This most likely went on for about two weeks straight. The guy, at the end of the day, ended up developing feelings for the girl, while the girl told him she did not feel anything for him.

Unfortunately, it has to be her idea to come to you, or she has to decide to be the one making the first move. Therefore, unless she is insinuating that she wants both of you to meet (you never come to my cubicle; you normally don’t go outside of the building to have lunch; we never see each other), or you lead and she follows, as in you ask her out and she accepts, this whole situation is just platonic at best.
 
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