"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Women are still playing games I see. ;-)
Oh yeah...and some of them don't even make sense...like the woman who thought I might secretly be gay, even though I offered to come over the night we matched, since the conversation was moving in an explicit direction.

I always wondered how the online dating advice would effect your chances with women.
Yeah...I'm probably going to stop doing that, actually. I've been at it for a little more than a year, and I haven't had a client outside of the forum. I've had guys want to fight me, women decide not to see me, and probably some stuff behind the scenes that I'm not aware of. I'm not a fan of the space, with how many guys fake their results, fake their clips, fake their pictures...all to get somebody to buy into the fantasy that this could be them in a few months.

I'm happy to continue helping guys who listen, but attaching my name and face to it outside of this forum has not been productive, and I think I have to be realistic, given my results thus far.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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That 'seems to have unmatched' happened a LOT, or they just went cold. Post 2020 I never met anyone face to face off of an APP. If I'd have done cold approaches night and day game with as many attempts as swipes on those time vampires, I'd probably be sick of fvcking. lol
 
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Oh yeah...and some of them don't even make sense...like the woman who thought I might secretly be gay, even though I offered to come over the night we matched, since the conversation was moving in an explicit direction.
Well, that was a sh1t test obvs?

Hey did you delete your Insta & Tiktok already? I cant access your stuff...
 

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Well, that was a sh1t test obvs?
I'd have agreed if she only did it once...but then it became an excuse for why she was becoming less responsive.

Hey did you delete your Insta & Tiktok already? I cant access your stuff...
Everything's been deactivated or hidden, though not deleted. Like I said earlier, I was getting tired of having it affect my personal life when it was barely getting me paid.
 

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I'd have agreed if she only did it once...but then it became an excuse for why she was becoming less responsive.



Everything's been deactivated or hidden, though not deleted. Like I said earlier, I was getting tired of having it affect my personal life when it was barely getting me paid.
yes . I would have keep all of that well hidden from any ch1ck tbh. It’s not hard for them to make the leap to googling your intials and finding LRs on SoSuave….

I guess you will have to wait now for google to drop the results out of a search for your name as it’s still showing me thumbnails of your Insta videos etc

and Dating Coach is a side hustle or hobby job at best afaics.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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