"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Single, Happy, but little to no sex

Bokanovsky

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When you're at peace with yourself, living well alone, but missing sex, what do you do?

After 30, especially at that stage, most women are busy, focused on having children.

Everyone wants LTR, so it's impossible to find one simply to maintain a relationship, each in their own home, no cohabitation, just fun and sex, with exclusivity.

In this case, how do you find such a woman?
Remember those memes where you can only get 2 out of 3? (i.e. Smart, Attractive, Sane - pick two). Unfortunately, life is usually like that. Sounds like you already have your 2 out of 3. Nothing will mess with your inner peace and ability to live well alone like a woman. So you have to decide what's more important to you.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Cheeky_James

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Try OLD apps like Feeld.
Or Hinge and select “casual dating”.
There’s a % of women out there that want a FWB situationship.

otherwise pay for it at Massage parlours with Asian chicks.

otherwise get into the kink / swinger community.. and doubleteam some dudes wife.

Obvs paying for it is the most straightforward and time effective way.
 

Pumax

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I go hustle up some talent. Fire up the dating apps. Hit the bars. Go to parties. Be Social. Hang out with people. Whatever it takes. Stop over thinking it. Boots on the ground son! If she is hot and fun, then you are down. Worry about the fall out later.



And no, not everone wants a LTR. You are putting the horse in front of the cart, thinking too much. First she has to prove herself. You shut that down right when she starts that talk.



And you have to stop with this after 30 women are focused on children b.s. I have spent half of the last 30 years living by myself with all the perks women can provide and that's another manufactured road block you have created in your head.



The women that are the easiest to get for the type of relationship you are talking about are women that are divorced house wives who get a fat check from their rich exhusbands. Also the more independent women who have high level careers and make good money are always down for this type of relationship. A few nurses who work a lot of hours are good choices too. I've had all 3 types. Seek out strong, independent types that have their own stockpile of financial security. They will tolerate less commitment and more independence for longer periods than the weaker, sweeter, more submissive types that aren't flush with cash.



A lot of you guys aren't aggressive enough. You don't take the risks. Afraid to live life on your own terms. Risk takers and boundary pushers get rewarded most often with money, power and pu$$y.



More testosterone, less estrogen. You guys are killing me reading all of this drivel.
Interesting, why don't you tell us more where you met these women, and what kind of relationship you had with them?
It may be helpful to share more closely your experience of what you did with them and what kind of boundaries the relationship had
 

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Or Hinge and select “casual dating”.
This is a curiosity, I always thought that by simply putting "serious or short relationship" you would have more matches, compared to the party girls you can meet if you only put "casual dating"
 
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