"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Between these two men, who is the mature one and the nice guy?

tesla8520

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1) He usually uses tactics to keep women glued to him. The woman might want something from him, like children, marriage, or living together, and he plays the game by pretending to be uninterested in these requests (which he actually does want), and makes her do all the work to get them.
This carries over into his daily life, even in the smallest things.
(Just for example, she texts her, "It's late, come to dinner," and he doesn't respond even after seeing the message, knowing it will worry her, even though he's actually driving home.)
As mentioned, he uses tactics, and sees outburst and emotional high and lows as a reason to use even more tactics "to win the game," so he won't walk away, even when boundaries are crossed, but rather sees those as challenges.

2) This man, when his woman makes requests, discusses them and follows through.
If the woman asks for children, he might ask if they're currently financially equipped to have one, but then he goes ahead with it.
If the woman asks for something else in the relationship, he accepts or disagrees, but he gets it done.
He doesn't use tactics and if he's disrespected, he points it out, sets a limit, and if it's crossed, he'll walk away.
He guide, in the sense that his focus in life isn't on tactics or the game, but rather on having a direction, goals, and wanting to achieve them, and he's clear about this; he hides nothing.
 

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I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

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No man really goes that straight or a route. We're all a little bit of both in my opinion, but if you want peace of mind, take a lot of the second route and use a little bit of number 1 to spice up the relationship or marriage.
 

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No man really goes that straight or a route. We're all a little bit of both in my opinion
As are the examples in the OP, IMO. They're both a mix of both. As you point out, that's more like real life.
 

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@tesla8520 "...if he's disrespected, he points it out, sets a limit, and if it's crossed, he'll walk away"

He's using tactics, in other words, yet pretending to he's "authentic"
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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