"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Insecurity in Men ( male friendships)

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It is very difficult to find a person that is comfortable in their own skin. A lot of men are so inherently insecure so that they cant have genuine friendships. So lets give women a break. Finding a man ( or woman) that is well adjusted is difficult.

I am middle aged and 50% of my small friend group are great. Ive known these guys since I was in my early 20s. Many are richer than me, cooler than me, have families etc but I genuinely love them. They inspire me and I would do anything for them.

The other 50% are insecure and are snakes in the grass.

I really don't have much to be envious about but some people still find a way to secretly envy you. The envy leaks out in weird ways. You can tell when someone is not really your friend. Its a palpable ackwardness in the interactions.

I understand why women don't respect men. Its because we are not much better than women.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You can spot the vibe a mile away and the way to diffuse it is to be humble and talk stories about an unfortunate event happening to you and a general discontentment about life. Just vibe with them and relate according to their situation.
 
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