"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Harridans are considered by employers to be "challenging" to manage

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As the researchers wrote in Harvard Business Review, “One college leader described how some search committees chose not to hire women in their late forties because of ‘too much family responsibility and impending menopause.’ Other search committees declined to hire women in their 50s because they have ‘menopause-related issues and could be challenging to manage.’...Yet the jobs were given to similarly aged men.”
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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“As they do grow older and more mature in their careers, [women] lose some of the fear of speaking their mind. And certain men don’t like that,” Diehl said. “Men will allow women into the workplace ... and will be supportive of women in the workplace to the extent that women are compliant, supportive of the men, and they don’t push back.”


I'm not surpised. It's the same thing in dating.
 

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... and will be supportive of women in the workplace to the extent that women are compliant, supportive of the men, and they don’t push back.”


I'm not surpised. It's the same thing in dating.
There's "pushing back"/dissenting with specific dimensions of what someone else has said

Vs


-Going out of one's way to be a grade A pain in someone else's ass, just because you aren't particularly fond that individual


Quite a few gals of all ages mistake the latter mode of operating for the former, and this isn't even a new phenomena... When Anne Of Green Gables first became a bestseller in The 1900s, legions of readers(most of them women)began imitating her behavior faster than 90s kids started chanting "F-ck The Police" after hearing NWA say those words

This has re-occurred several times over the proceeding decades, whenever AOGG gets a fresh TV miniseries
 
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