When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Regardless of age, a man has to rely on looks, money, and status to attract women who are in demand, and as he gets older, money and status become more important. That’s just how the system works, and there’s no easy way around it. Believing a woman will be interested in a 40-plus dorky guy with nothing to offer is just naive, fairy-tale Disney thinking.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Because that's the point of the data. The data is not saying that a 40-year-old man can never date or sleep with a woman in her early 20s. The data is just saying that, on average, people are much more likely to date someone close to their own age, and the bigger the age gap, the less common those relationships become.
and that’s all you need to know. that its possible. for sh1t and giggles i typed in how statistically likely is my own relationship with my gf and the data shows its 0.1% likely:
Ever heard of birds of a feather flock together? There are plenty of high energy types in their 40's that still have plenty of gas left in the tank. I've always been high energy and pack my schedule full every day at 50. In my 40's I quit doing things with people my own age because they were boring and had no energy. The reason you don't know anyone your age or older could have a lot to do with your own self. Just a thought, but we are out there. Try having a girlfriend that is 20 years younger. ;-)
The only thing that can be concluded from this study is that your odds of dating a younger woman are higher the closer in age you are to her. There is nothing in your argument that shows that a wider age gap leads to higher odds. An outlier example only shows that something is possible, not that it is common or that it improves your chances.and that’s all you need to know. that its possible. for sh1t and giggles i typed in how statistically likely is my own relationship with my gf and the data shows its 0.1% likely:
does that have any relevance to me? no and it shouldn’t to anyone here either bc ur here to be better than the average man.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
As has been stated several times on several different threads, being "average" is largely a choice, and this isn't a matter of celebrity. Fairly certain we can all name at least a fellas we know individually we are "older" yet remain studs
What would you describe as average and not average? The reason I don’t go out anymore isn’t because I am held back by my biological clock and oppressive significant other, it’s because I don’t fvcking want to lol. I’d rather eat glass then go to a fvcking club in my city lol.
For starters: Concocting "reasons" for not putting effort into oneself, such as:
Is that bad lol?
Anyone who finds HOTD appealing is suspect
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
why average guys stay average
My CEO watches HOTD, does that make him average?
if ur 40 years old, haven’t reached a point where u have status and ur looks aren’t that great, then u can’t complain ab not getting results that above average guys ur age get, if ur attitude is “i like tv”
I’d argue the guys struggling the most with women right now aren’t watching mainstream shows like hotd which leads to them being socially disconnected incels. Most women watch game of thrones, so it’s easy to integrate that in to an approach/conversation with a woman rather than tricking or alcohol.
a 40 year old man (the op) with no status or looks will get nowhere with prime young girls no matter what show he watches
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Not if he has money and status
You are looking at this from a woman’s perspective. Women peak in their 20’s because most of their value is sex. Men peak in their 40’s because most of their value is status and wealth.