jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
Hi everyone! Johnny here.
I've honestly lost count of how many times I've experienced this.
Looking back, I've noticed a recurring pattern in my dating life. In my personal experience, some women who weren't particularly interested in me at first suddenly became interested once I started receiving recognition or public attention.
It made me wonder why this happens... even if that could be obvious.
One thing I've observed is that social media has become a kind of "status radar."
Women pay attention to who's gaining visibility, recognition, or influence. Whether it's through social media, local newspapers, television, sports, business success, or community achievements, public recognition.
But, there is a key difference in how men and women approach success.
Many men focus primarily on the process. If a man wants to become a professional football player, he doesn't start by dreaming about newspaper headlines or television interviews. He trains every day, improves his skills, competes, and works toward becoming better. Recognition is a byproduct of the effort, not the goal itself.
In contrast, I've sometimes felt that certain women focus much more on the outcome than on the work behind it. They seem attracted to the visibility, success, or social status, without necessarily appreciating the years of discipline and sacrifice that made those achievements possible. I've seen this happen several times.
For example, one of my relatives became successful in business, and during that period his partner loved appearing in public with him, posting pictures together, and mentioning him frequently. When his business later struggled, you can imagine her being so passive / turned off by him.
I've noticed similar situations elsewhere. Whenever a man started receiving public recognition, winning competitions, being featured in local news, getting attention within his community, or becoming professionally successful, women who had previously shown little interest often reappeared. It felt as though they had been quietly keeping track of his progress and only reached out once they perceived that his status had increased.
Let's say Kate is married to John, but Kate had interest in many guys back than, so she still get updates from Nick, Jack, Claude, etc...
Nick won first place for his MotoGP tournament, and She see a pic of him in TV, holding the throphy near two beautiful women. You can imagine that Kate will go straight into Nick dm's. She doesn't care about John.
But this is not to say that Kate is not in love or that doesn't respect John.
Kate is a woman and she had that biological urge to contact Nick because of his success.
At first, I assumed this was something limited to people with unhealthy personalities.
But I may be wrong.
As an artist, I've experienced this firsthand. When my work is exhibited, when I sell artwork to influential collectors, or when I appear in newspapers or on television, I receive noticeably more attention from women. Some women from my past usually contact me again after years of silence.
GIven this, I think it's important for men not to lose sight of what actually matters: the process.
Recognition comes and goes. Public attention fades. Success isn't permanent.
The work, the discipline, and the personal growth are the only things we truly control. If we become too focused on chasing attention or validation, we risk losing the very mindset that created success in the first place.
But, this actually tell how women see it: they like winners, not because the hard work they put in, just because of the result. Just because they can be with him in that moment, enjoy that emotions and celebrate.
I'm curious to hear other people's experiences.
I've honestly lost count of how many times I've experienced this.
Looking back, I've noticed a recurring pattern in my dating life. In my personal experience, some women who weren't particularly interested in me at first suddenly became interested once I started receiving recognition or public attention.
It made me wonder why this happens... even if that could be obvious.
One thing I've observed is that social media has become a kind of "status radar."
Women pay attention to who's gaining visibility, recognition, or influence. Whether it's through social media, local newspapers, television, sports, business success, or community achievements, public recognition.
But, there is a key difference in how men and women approach success.
Many men focus primarily on the process. If a man wants to become a professional football player, he doesn't start by dreaming about newspaper headlines or television interviews. He trains every day, improves his skills, competes, and works toward becoming better. Recognition is a byproduct of the effort, not the goal itself.
In contrast, I've sometimes felt that certain women focus much more on the outcome than on the work behind it. They seem attracted to the visibility, success, or social status, without necessarily appreciating the years of discipline and sacrifice that made those achievements possible. I've seen this happen several times.
For example, one of my relatives became successful in business, and during that period his partner loved appearing in public with him, posting pictures together, and mentioning him frequently. When his business later struggled, you can imagine her being so passive / turned off by him.
I've noticed similar situations elsewhere. Whenever a man started receiving public recognition, winning competitions, being featured in local news, getting attention within his community, or becoming professionally successful, women who had previously shown little interest often reappeared. It felt as though they had been quietly keeping track of his progress and only reached out once they perceived that his status had increased.
Let's say Kate is married to John, but Kate had interest in many guys back than, so she still get updates from Nick, Jack, Claude, etc...
Nick won first place for his MotoGP tournament, and She see a pic of him in TV, holding the throphy near two beautiful women. You can imagine that Kate will go straight into Nick dm's. She doesn't care about John.
But this is not to say that Kate is not in love or that doesn't respect John.
Kate is a woman and she had that biological urge to contact Nick because of his success.
At first, I assumed this was something limited to people with unhealthy personalities.
But I may be wrong.
As an artist, I've experienced this firsthand. When my work is exhibited, when I sell artwork to influential collectors, or when I appear in newspapers or on television, I receive noticeably more attention from women. Some women from my past usually contact me again after years of silence.
GIven this, I think it's important for men not to lose sight of what actually matters: the process.
Recognition comes and goes. Public attention fades. Success isn't permanent.
The work, the discipline, and the personal growth are the only things we truly control. If we become too focused on chasing attention or validation, we risk losing the very mindset that created success in the first place.
But, this actually tell how women see it: they like winners, not because the hard work they put in, just because of the result. Just because they can be with him in that moment, enjoy that emotions and celebrate.
I'm curious to hear other people's experiences.
