What is wrong with "lifemaxing"

[tesla8520]

It seems as if people need to maximize themselves in all areas of their lives.

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Just look at something like this.

I've always thought that "maxing out" on certain areas of your life is ideal.
But really, we can't do it in "everyone" as we are told it is possible.


Basically, they are telling us to become the best at fitness, work, relationships, making money, being good fathers, etc.
But as people, we are limited, we can only choose a few of these!
Only a few..

I know men who are 100% dedicated to making money.
They were not good fathers, in the sense that they could not pay too much attention to their "relationships" or "study" to become good fathers. Not even good partners. They wouldn't even have time to be "too focused" on fintess.
So, they focused on 1 area of their life, and maximized them.


As men I really think we can only have very few areas of our lives that we could and should focus on.
We are lucky if these areas we focus on are currently some on the list of what makes a man of high value.

Take for example a man who decides to maximize himself in the business area. He will certainly be able to make a career of networking and making a lot of money, but maybe I will leave out the physical area.

Instead think now a personal trainer or fitness specialist not only manages to maximize an area that is considered to be of great value to men, but if he manages to make a career networking and money he has also taken the right path for his life.

So, for us men it's more about finding which areas make us high value and being able to make a profession out of them.

What do you think of this concept of lifemaxxing, what did our grandparents say about that?

 

[MatureDJ]

Whatever cope works for you.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

The idea is to be the best you can be, not to be better than everyone else. You want to maximize *your* potential, should you so choose, not become the most perfect human possible in every potential aspect. Tradeoffs exist and gurus, influencers, etc who are trying to sell you something will of course deny this.

 

[Mike32ct]

I use the juggling analogy. You can only keep a limited number of balls in the air without dropping some of them.

 

[BaronOfHair]

@tesla8520 "What do you think of this concept of lifemaxxing, what did our grandparents say about that?"

They'd first instruct whoever is uttering such jargon to communicate like an everyday schlub, then once said schlub resumed speaking in layman's terms, reply:

"Trying to move further up the ladder is terrific, whether we refer to such activity as "lifemaxing" or "upward mobility"... Just keep your goals pragmatic and specific. Ex.

Convincing the majority of Subsaharans to allow their albino kids to live past age 5, WITHOUT carving those poor tykes up in Muti rituals, is more of a fool's errand than persuading anyone to sit through an L Word marathon, instead of cutting right to the girl on girl

in each episode"

 

[The Duke]

Pick what matters the most to you, put in the time and effort and focus and you can achieve whatever result your are wanting. But you can't be great at everything. Life is all about compromises and give & take. I have some very career focused and highly successful members of my family but they paid the price in their personal lives in regards to relationships with their spouse and/or children.

I've had periods in my own life where I put a ton of strain on my significant others because of my desire to accomplish goals I had. Either you can support me or fall by the way side, it is what it is. They didn't build Rome in a day.