Minimalism is healthy but not attractive

[jhonny9546]

I’ve always found more resilience and peace of mind in having less rather than more.


But many women aren’t willing to compromise for that. They want a man who can at least appear to have resources.


That’s why you’ll often see many minimalist men staying single and content, rather than keeping up a façade just to prove they have wealth, especially when it feels hollow inside or like a race to impress women.

Not only about material status.
Just a lifestyle.

 

[NiHaoMike]

Perhaps the solution might be to be a minimalist except in a few key areas?

 

[Fortune_favors_the_bold]

Minimalism is a firmware on male brain while completly alien to the female one.

Minimalism allows you to optimize your resources and keep control of the ones you have which is basically the opposite of what women do where they base their spending and wasting not according to effectiveness but availability.

You dont see rich women living in the same house with the same furnitures for too long for instance.

Minimalism also saves mental effort and grants peace of mind since it reduces the need for attention and surveillance.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Please stop talking in absolutes. They are usually not true and highly biased based on personal experiences and nothing more.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Do you know what's even less attractive than minimalism?

Making life decisions based on how attractive to women you think they'll make you.

Attraction as an instinct evolved long before people could acquire shyte to show off their wealth.

 

[plumber]

one of the pillars of peace is to have more resources than you choose to consume, have a surplus at all times. this does nothing to impress women or men. it is all about inner peace. minimalist as long as your showing less power than you have.

women usually are attracted to what is showing, even if it is barrowed. it is how they are wired. not good or bad, just how it is.

 

[Manure Spherian]

I’ve always found more resilience and peace of mind in having less rather than more.


But many women aren’t willing to compromise for that. They want a man who can at least appear to have resources.


That’s why you’ll often see many minimalist men staying single and content, rather than keeping up a façade just to prove they have wealth, especially when it feels hollow inside or like a race to impress women.

Not only about material status.
Just a lifestyle.

I don't blame women for not wanting to get with a man who is fine living in an apartment with a TV and a bed and no decor.

like a race to impress women.

Though I do not think men should be gynocentric red pillars, if they don't want to impress women, they shouldn't expect one. Same goes for women who don't want to impress men.

Loads of b-tching about women on here while at the same time trying not only to get them, but to get lots of them. And also outrageous analysis of trying to crack the female attraction code, which if done past 30 years old, is a very bad sign.

 

[RickTheToad]

Perhaps the solution might be to be a minimalist except in a few key areas?

This.

 

[tksniper]

I would preach the middle way. I know someone who tries to ban himself from Amazon because he couldn’t stop buying everything on sale. I also know someone who tries to save used napkins. He once hosted a party and everyone was disgusted with his behavior.

Now when we are talking about great men who have minimized the need for choice, I wouldn’t put it in the same breath as minimalism.

For example, Obama was known to have the same hundreds of white dress shirts just because he couldn’t spare 1 free brain cell deciding what to wear as he was focusing on world politics. Steve Jobs wore the same brand turtle neck and new balances for his entire tenure at Apple.

Extremely successful people have been known to not give a damn about frivolous things that we normal folks care about. But I wouldn’t call it minimalism. I’d call it erasing any state friction that prevents you from being totally immersed in your passion and purpose.

This is actually a well known tactic in the book “atomic habits.”

 

[NiHaoMike]

Now the question is, in what areas is it worth spending more to be more appealing to women? There's the classic example of a new luxury car, but that's quite expensive especially nowadays. (And Teslas aren't too impressive anymore...)

I'll name a few things that I'm very much not a minimalist in (in some cases, very much the opposite) as well as how much I think they would appeal to women.
* Tool collection, includes common household tools like drills, saws, and wrenches as well as more specialized stuff for electronics. Probably not appealing to most women, except the ones who enjoy DIY.
* IT setup, I have a pretty involved setup with multiple APs running OpenWRT, 2 home servers, and 2.5G "backbone". Well, so long as I keep it maintained, she's not likely to complain about the Wifi performance! Or running out of storage on her devices - just provision a share and configure her devices to use it.
* Solar power setup, with battery backup. The ones who remember the infamous 2021 ERCOT breakdown would see it as a big plus! But otherwise, not much appeal until the next time the neighborhood loses power...
* A home theater, that I rebuilt with up to date hardware 3 years ago. Probably the most appealing on the list, as most women enjoy music, movies, and/or video games. As long as it's intuitive to use, that is...

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Another massive over generalization by you as you tend to do.

 

[MatureDJ]

Please stop talking in absolutes. They are usually not true and highly biased based on personal experiences and nothing more.

 

[BaronOfHair]

I’ve always found more resilience and peace of mind in having less rather than more.

But many women aren’t willing to compromise for that. They want a man who can at least appear to have resources.

Foregoing electricity and the indoors, in favor of living in a tent on the banks of The Tiber, just may be overdoing minimalism a bit, hoss. Same way J. Dahemer's strategy for putting Milwaukee back in the spotlight proved "effective" in some rather unflattering ways

 

[jhonny9546]

Great ideas guys!