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Don Juan
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I will try to make this short.
Yesterday I was at an event. It was about art and literature. Saw a cute girl there. She turned a couple of times to my direction, walked near me, and was by herself. Soon enough I decided to approach her on the bar while she was eating a piece of cake and drinking wine. We started talking about basic stuff like work, studying, where are we from, etc.. This turned into an instant-date kind of thing for almost 2 hours in total. We switched spots, discussed all types of topics, even deeper ones that show vulnerability and build connection. We had a lot of common values, interests and views on life. But I also challenged her on a few topics. My vibe was ****y/funny, I teased her often, and I believe she went through a range of emotions during the time we spent together. She showed a lot of IOIs - smiled, laughed, brushed her hair with the palm facing outside, leaned into me, stayed close, followed my lead and frame all the time, no resistance to kino touches on the shoulder, mentioned a couple of times that she is kind of grateful that things happened in such a way that we met that day.
The main part of the event ended, and the bar started playing some music. We decided there is nothing else to do here, so I proposed to find a place to eat, and she accepted. However, she said that she will hang out with her friends soon (around 9 pm; while it was 8:40 at the time we left). We proceed to the nearest mall, took a quick tour inside to see if there is a good place to eat, but there wasn't really what I was looking for, and I told her to forget it, I will eat at home (as she wasn't hungry). So we leave, and soon her friends call her to arrange their meeting. Then we go to the metro, and sit there to wait for the train. I asked her something about her childhood. She said that she was a freaky anti-social kid. Around this situation, she made a little worrying facial expression, which might have been caused by her seeing my face scars (now that we are in a lighter area) or something else, I don't know. It could just be the childhood question. We had to pass 2 stations until we split up. In the metro we exchange numbers and then she mentions that she is a stalker, and can find all my social medias. I challenge her to do so, and we put up a bet about this. We agreed that she has 1 week to find my profiles, and if she does, I will buy her a drink or something. Then I reach out to do a "pinky promise" with her about this challenge. We hold it for like 30 seconds. It was a very intimate type of kino which I didn't do before, and I enjoyed it.
After we reach the destination, it turns out that we are in opposite directions for the exit. She puts her hand in front of her, smiles (I believe), and says "it was nice meeting you". I was disappointed with this gesture as if we are doing business or something. So I slightly reach with both of my hands facing her shoulders, proceeding to give a hug. She accepts it, and I hug her properly for around 3 seconds. Then I let go, we part ways and say "bye". I am not entirely sure, but I think the hug might have made her uncomfortable, as she seemed to have made a slight face in the last memory I have of her.
So, today I text her around 3 pm, and she still hasn't responded. I don't understand where did I fucc'up. I shared this story to other people and someone said "just don't take it personally". But at least I want to know what is my mistake, so I don't repeat it. I am now spending time analyzing this situation because of that, and doubting myself and my "game". Is it possible that I was too invested/gamey/pushy/aggressively leading? I wonder what you guys think about this scenario. Would it be lame or creepy to call her on Sunday, knowing that she purposely decided to not text me back?
Yesterday I was at an event. It was about art and literature. Saw a cute girl there. She turned a couple of times to my direction, walked near me, and was by herself. Soon enough I decided to approach her on the bar while she was eating a piece of cake and drinking wine. We started talking about basic stuff like work, studying, where are we from, etc.. This turned into an instant-date kind of thing for almost 2 hours in total. We switched spots, discussed all types of topics, even deeper ones that show vulnerability and build connection. We had a lot of common values, interests and views on life. But I also challenged her on a few topics. My vibe was ****y/funny, I teased her often, and I believe she went through a range of emotions during the time we spent together. She showed a lot of IOIs - smiled, laughed, brushed her hair with the palm facing outside, leaned into me, stayed close, followed my lead and frame all the time, no resistance to kino touches on the shoulder, mentioned a couple of times that she is kind of grateful that things happened in such a way that we met that day.
The main part of the event ended, and the bar started playing some music. We decided there is nothing else to do here, so I proposed to find a place to eat, and she accepted. However, she said that she will hang out with her friends soon (around 9 pm; while it was 8:40 at the time we left). We proceed to the nearest mall, took a quick tour inside to see if there is a good place to eat, but there wasn't really what I was looking for, and I told her to forget it, I will eat at home (as she wasn't hungry). So we leave, and soon her friends call her to arrange their meeting. Then we go to the metro, and sit there to wait for the train. I asked her something about her childhood. She said that she was a freaky anti-social kid. Around this situation, she made a little worrying facial expression, which might have been caused by her seeing my face scars (now that we are in a lighter area) or something else, I don't know. It could just be the childhood question. We had to pass 2 stations until we split up. In the metro we exchange numbers and then she mentions that she is a stalker, and can find all my social medias. I challenge her to do so, and we put up a bet about this. We agreed that she has 1 week to find my profiles, and if she does, I will buy her a drink or something. Then I reach out to do a "pinky promise" with her about this challenge. We hold it for like 30 seconds. It was a very intimate type of kino which I didn't do before, and I enjoyed it.
After we reach the destination, it turns out that we are in opposite directions for the exit. She puts her hand in front of her, smiles (I believe), and says "it was nice meeting you". I was disappointed with this gesture as if we are doing business or something. So I slightly reach with both of my hands facing her shoulders, proceeding to give a hug. She accepts it, and I hug her properly for around 3 seconds. Then I let go, we part ways and say "bye". I am not entirely sure, but I think the hug might have made her uncomfortable, as she seemed to have made a slight face in the last memory I have of her.
So, today I text her around 3 pm, and she still hasn't responded. I don't understand where did I fucc'up. I shared this story to other people and someone said "just don't take it personally". But at least I want to know what is my mistake, so I don't repeat it. I am now spending time analyzing this situation because of that, and doubting myself and my "game". Is it possible that I was too invested/gamey/pushy/aggressively leading? I wonder what you guys think about this scenario. Would it be lame or creepy to call her on Sunday, knowing that she purposely decided to not text me back?
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