@samspade your not going downhill. What happened is from my personal experience from ive recently just stated. You have pretty much reached the end of 1 part of your "personal journey" you have realised. You do not need a female. Or attention or validation. Which means you no longer have a EGO. Which is alpha as f*ck! You dont care if no girl talks to you or validates you. Because at the end of the day its you that validates you. And no woman can knock you down a notch. Because your frame is now so strong. That even if she tried screwing with your frame she cant. Because in simple terms. You do not care. Lol. About her attention or validation. Its kinda like subconsciously saying "you either with me or you not"
Haha, thanks. I was being tongue-in-cheek about going downhill. People are always saying "Sosuave has gone downhill, it's not the place it was." Nobody ever stops to think that maybe they've changed.
The ego part of it is, well, it's the whole thing. You're right, it's the first part of the personal journey. I think a large part of my adult life was building confidence and making mistakes. But with confidence-building comes ego. It gets in the way. It's kind of like cooking something...inevitably there is byproduct like fat or grease that you need to skim to get the right balance. If you leave it in, it will come back to haunt you, either on the tongue or in digestion. If your ego festers, it too will haunt you.
Once I achieved great confidence, there were two questions: 1) Who was I and 2) Where was I going?* I knew my regular life wouldn't cut it. I knew that simply having a good job and/or being with a woman wouldn't make me happy in and of itself. And I think when a man ponders these questions, and finds answers, the process begins to chip away at the ego...because he must surrender it to embark on the journey. For a lot of people this can be a religious experience (giving yourself to God), but it works regardless of faith because the one true fact is we will all die one day.
It's all about creating your purpose. Not "finding your purpose." It's not hiding. Create it. It may change over time, but as long as you're true to yourself, you'll see the forest for the trees and stay on your path.
So basically you want to be passive and have women do the work for you. You haven't really learned much apparently. Men take action, not sit around and wait. You have traded in one feminine action for another.
I understand your response, but that's binary thinking. I challenge you to dig a little deeper with your sentiments here. What actions are you taking?
*If you're a 'Sopranos' fan you'll especially appreciate those two questions.