Recent content by orly

I am reasonably fit, working out to be better ("jacked", so to speak). I have a good job, make good but not awesome money. Have my own place, good but not awesome car from a lux brand. Plenty of friends, including women (albeit not that many) from various walks of life ranging from the...

I joined this site 3 years go. I've changed a lot, and improved for the better (if I might say so myself). However I was a dateless virgin back then and I'm still a dateless virgin today. I think in my first post I mentioned something about trying to get a girlfriend by the end of the year...

I'm someone who would settle for the first remotely attractive girl who shows interest in me. So far that hasn't happened. If you are even slightly successful with women, I can see the viewpoint that you wouldn't want to be tied down to one girl. But if you are perpetually unsuccessful like me...

Simple, because no woman, ever, in my entire life, has ever shown any such signs towards me. And I'm pretty sure I'm not "missing" them, because I can recognize it clearly when they're being directed to other men. Difficult to believe? Yeah, I find it difficult to believe too, but what can I...

I can identify with nonameok also, and have likewise gone through periods where I wanted to be asexual. Me, I think I'm ok physically. I'm short (5'6"), but I don't let that get to me. What does get to me is that I'm boring. I just don't connect with people well - both men and women, but...

Serious topic. And seriously, no "just go shave your head" replies please. I'm seeing some thinning hair in my temples at age 27. Assuming it takes at least a few months for thinning to start becoming apparent, the timeframe seems to roughly correspond with two events in my life: 1. I...

Been there, tried following the advice, got compliments, but as far as gaining female interest, didn't work. I have an awesome wardrobe now (I think), but I question whether it was worth it (in $$ that is). Still, a great, interesting site.

So how do I get to her feelings and emotions? Because apparently I'm not. I think you are ahead of the game here. Lasting 2 dates is a moot issue for me at this point, as I've never gone on a single date in my life with any girl, period. The point at which I am failing is not at getting a girl...

I'm repeating my story over and over, because it doesn't seem like people are getting the fact that I've tried a lot of the tricks in the book and none of them have worked. I've tried the confident angle. I've tried the passive angle. I've tried the pursuit angle. I've tried the aloof "I don't...

That sounds like the very antithesis of what this forum and other "pickup" boards espouse. But for what it's worth, no, I am not selfish. I'm actually afraid that I am/will be too unselfish with a girlfriend. AKA, put her on a pedestal. Sex is the last thing on my mind, otherwise yes, maybe I...

Alcohol got me over some of my social issues. Initially it let me become more talkative. Eventually, I "learned" what it felt to be talkative, and I was able to reproduce that ability even when sober without alcohol. I've actually cut back my alcohol intake significantly because of that...

Intelligence is only attractive when you are already attractive in other ways too. It definitely builds upon your existing foundation, but fails to be the foundation for attraction IMHO. Unless you've utilized said intelligence to become some hedge fund superstar, entrepreneur startup...

Years ago I bought a Lexus when most guys my age were driving their mom's Camrys and minivans. Nope, no girls ever flocked to me. Your mileage my vary. Maybe my mileage would have varied if I went with BMW? =P. Considering buying a Porsche in the not too distant future. I'll report back with...

Because they're attractive. They're doing something right. Even though you, the girls in question, the "loser" in question himself, and the world at large might not quite understand what exactly it is that he's doing right.

For me at least, I strongly feel if I experience success with ONE woman, that will be the catalyst that will propel me out of this ditch. It's been the case for a lot of things in my life. I fail, fail, and fail, but once I taste that first success, suddenly everything changes and I can...