Recent content by Joseph Defranza

A) a good man I know lost half his retirement in addition to paying alimony cuz of his divorce. That would have happened with or without children involved. That is the kind of deep level financial compromise I am speaking of that I want no part of. B) “broken children” usually come from a home...

so the consensus I’m getting here is expect every girl to bring up marriage and don’t be surprised if it’s a deal-breaker for her. That sounds objectively correct, it’s a shame that it’s the case though

my desire for children and marriage are very different. I 100% want children in the future but I don’t want to sign a contract that puts me into a financially compromising position. There is no need for me to be a husband In order to be a good father, the only reason girls want to get wifed up...

Being coerced into a marriage would be my worst nightmare. Followup question though: do you guys think if you're high value enough, a girl will let it slide that you don't wanna get married? For example, I think Andrew Tate has a girlfriend he's been with for awhile and he said in an interview...

I like that response a lot. Makes you think how many marriages are held together purely because "it's cheaper to keep her", or there's a scarcity mindset. I also agree that her relentlessness to get married is about selfish needs. Everything a girl wants, we can give without marriage (children...

Assuming that she does bring up the topic though, how should I reply?

I recently saw a clip from a show/movie where a girl broke up with a man during dinner because she realized he had no intention of proposing. He was confused as to what her issue was with this proposal-anxiety, and she replied something along the lines of "I'm a 28-year-old girl, this is what we...

Agreed. They do what they think is just good enough, and then complain. Getting jacked is key because when a woman looks at a man's shredded physique, it triggers a primal arousal in her brain. In many cases, it bypasses a lot of steps other men otherwise would have to take to get laid and...

I think the aesthetic bodybuilding movement (Zyzz, Jeff Seid, etc.) has proved that once you're shredded, girls are way easier. If you're jacked, the only thing that can really hurt your dating life is a lack of game.

I recently started Muay Thai and after only my THIRD practice I feel a pain in my right hip near my oblique to where a fast kick will hurt and so does a cough. I believe its a strained hip flexor. How can I train around this? Any tips to speed up the healing process?

To start, I want to learn Java. And yes, I'm aware that I'll get nowhere in this field unless I build a portfolio of work using the language. But first I need to find the most efficient way to learn it. What's the best SELF-TAUGHT way to go about it? Any online courses/certifications I should...

To those asking why I’m joining: I’ve always wanted to join the military, since high school. I was in ROTC shortly in college. So the way I see it, I’m picking back up where I left off. I’m either joining cyber operations or intelligence, neither of those involve a ton of killing. You’re...

I'm joining the Army (reserves) pretty soon. So that will be around 42 weeks of training. Then when I'm back home I'll have to report to base one weekend a month. I'm also going into OCS (officer candidate school) so I'll come out of training as a second lieutenant. I got a 94 on my ASVAB and I...

Why would we have to do that for a relationship?

What exactly does "lowering standards" consist of in this context?