"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What is my smv, where do I go from here and upscale apps

Jason9

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I am 36 and live in England, but I am very driven and ambitious. I am willing to work seven days a week and use my substantial savings to invest.

I am pursuing the self-employment route as an electrician or a plumber, starting as a subcontractor through a training company and utilizing their industry contacts. The plan is to earn £200 a day initially as a subcontractor, increasing to £350–£400 per day within three years as I gain more experience.

Alternatively, I may use my savings to go into property development, either independently or through a partnership.

Forex trading is another potential source of income, with the goal of saving up which I can of £50,000 of my savings to generate £4,000 to £5,000 a day.

Maybe put all my thousands of savings by 40 into investing, yielding money every week back from it.

On the personal side, I have tried the Bumble and Hinge dating apps. Bumble was hit and miss; I would get a match with an attractive woman about once a month and have a conversation.

I have also cold-approached around 200 women: only a few conversed with me, some smiled and said they were busy, and I managed to get two phone numbers total.

I am thinking that after turning 40, equipped with reasonable financial resources, I might try upscale dating apps.

I'll complete a masters degree on the side as a sense of achievement.

All in all, what is my SMV (Sexual Market Value), and where do I go from here? The money will be there as well as the assets, resources, qualities, etc the potential for wealth
 
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Cheeky_James

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Pm me a pic and I’ll tell you mate .
Your smv starts with your Looks tbh.
There is also a website called Fotor that will give you a rating from a selfie .
 

plumber

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your plan for being money and security make sense. if you do what your telling, it going to work out.

the old school way to meet a woman was.
-parents, relatives, friends
-school
-university
-church
-hobbies and sports
-anything getting people together....
-last that came was internet and apps.

don't forget all the other ways to meet. lots of guys now days have completely forgotten everything that's not a computer app. count the number of women in the apps you use. no way that is ALL the women.. those ones in the apps are really on display and hunting for the limited few men that have already done very very well; and look good. much easier to compete away from the apps unless your one of those special guys. there photo will be right next to yours on her screen.... she will not talk to you or move forward with you unless he is not available. off of the app you have the chance to be the best in view.

your plan to study for advanced degree may lead you to meet other like minded people. try to attend a live class instead of online if you can fit that in.
 

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Realistically it takes 5 years of hard work and study to learn a trade, and it takes overtime and bumping your head to master said trade.

Its great to be ambitious, but yiu also gotta be realistic. If you say electricity OR plumbing...those are two completely different skills. You'll have to start with an apprenticeship and that will oftentimes means doing the dirty jobs, sweeping ,cleaning ect.

Again, great to be ambitious but both of those skills will have MASSIVE consequences when done wrong. You gotta find a mentor ,both for the bizz and the practical side of the job. You'll gain clients by actually doing a great job ,that makes people wanna hire you.

Regarding your smv; right now just think its low. That leaves plenty of room to grow and gain smv. A man's smv is a total sum of ALL aspects combined: the spiritual, physical, financial and emotional.



Pm me a pic and I’ll tell you mate .
Your smv starts with your Looks tbh.
There is also a website called Fotor that will give you a rating from a selfie .
I disagree. A man's smv depends on his overall value. Depending on a man's goal , looks might be the least important on the list.
 
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