"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Are people in general less happy then they were 20 years ago?

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For several reason i am less happy than i was 20 years ago. I feel more on edge

i think others are also. The one that is similar between then and now is that despite having my own anxieties i have some friends who are even more neurotic than I and thats not a good thing for me
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Alcohol and tobacco consumption rates are down, and everyone is miserable, even though we're living to heretofore unprecedented lengths. You all do the math on this subject
 
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More so 30 years ago, because it was pre 9/11 and the economy was great, and by that I mean great for normal people. Jobs grew on trees. At 23, I had a nice condo, 2 cars, no debt, and 50% disposable income.

20 years ago was the sweet spot for technology. There was Internet, but no social media. There were cellphones, but no I-phones. The only thing I can think of that has gotten better are televisions. Everything else just improves corporate profits with each new advancement.
 

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much better now than in the past. most problems solve themself if i just allow it.

others around me complain... but that is the same as always.

over time integrity will give calm, and knowing that being perfect is not possible.

there is always a biggest problem.

our journey ends in the same place... no need to rush.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The Duke

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For several reason i am less happy than i was 20 years ago. I feel more on edge

i think others are also. The one that is similar between then and now is that despite having my own anxieties i have some friends who are even more neurotic than I and thats not a good thing for me
I think mental health is at its lowest I've seen in my time on earth. Statistics back that up as well.

Too much stress, selfishness, rage, anxiety, social media. Lots of people isolate themselves causing more issues. Not enough believers out there.
 

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I know one reason i am less happy is that i have always been sensitive to the moods of others and i also always try to help people if they need it

I have become a better listener but that means people call me or text me with problems constantly. I think its the constant communication that wears me down and i need to become a little less accessible to people, but i feel guilty from when i was leaning on others for support too when i had issues.
 

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I know one reason i am less happy is that i have always been sensitive to the moods of others and i also always try to help people if they need it

I have become a better listener but that means people call me or text me with problems constantly. I think its the constant communication that wears me down and i need to become a little less accessible to people, but i feel guilty from when i was leaning on others for support too when i had issues.
I hear ya on the constant communication thing. I feel like I am controlled by my phone and get annoyed whenever it goes off. To manage that, I don't always return calls or text back like I used to. I get 20 calls a day, lots of texts, and way too many emails.
 
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