"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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You've essentially been asking(albeit not directly and explicitly):
"Are male model looks all that's required to snag cooter?"

And I've more than once replied:
"Nope... Looks are only one weapon in a fella's arsenal"

There's nothing either myself or anyone else can say that'll convince you otherwise, hombre. Your current thought process is the male equivalent of chicks believing: "If my A Cups become Double Ds tommorow, men would be lusting after me more fiercely than they do Sydney Sweeny, even though I've declared a moratorium on shaving my underarms, and believe Pauly Shore the pinnacle of comedic brilliance"
This.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You've essentially been asking(albeit not directly and explicitly):
"Are male model looks all that's required to snag cooter?"

And I've more than once replied:
"Nope... Looks are only one weapon in a fella's arsenal"

There's nothing either myself or anyone else can say that'll convince you otherwise, hombre. Your current thought process is the male equivalent of chicks believing: "If my A Cups become Double Ds tommorow, men would be lusting after me more fiercely than they do Sydney Sweeny, even though I've declared a moratorium on shaving my underarms, and believe Pauly Shore the pinnacle of comedic brilliance"
no , ‘are male model looks all that is required ’ is was never my assertion.

Female attraction is primarily Looks based is my assertion. His Looks & Status (assessed via a guys ‘’Look” / thin slice.. in a few seconds)

And that a guys ‘game’ …in his conversation/personality plays a very minimal role in his getting with a woman initially.

For the early stages of any relationship (assuming they get together quickly)

That’s what I’ve been saying.

Plus - pointing out that the members of this forum. For the majority… underrate guys looks on the 1/10 scale …thereby Downplaying the Looks factor in how they actually got women.

that’s my acfual position and opinion.
As a very experienced guy with women .
 

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And that a guys ‘game’ …in his conversation/personality plays a very minimal role in his getting with a woman initially.
Continue on thinking and behaving as you have then. Your prospects for greater success with the ladies than you currently enjoy are mightier than those of the upstart gangster, who really believes that speaking and acting just like Joe Pesci in RL* is a surefire path towards becoming the kingpin some day


*Even though the fella JP portrayed didn't last long https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thomas_DeSimone outside the realm of fiction
 
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no , ‘are male model looks all that is required ’ is was never my assertion.

Female attraction is primarily Looks based is my assertion. His Looks & Status (assessed via a guys ‘’Look” / thin slice.. in a few seconds)

And that a guys ‘game’ …in his conversation/personality plays a very minimal role in his getting with a woman initially.

For the early stages of any relationship (assuming they get together quickly)

That’s what I’ve been saying.

Plus - pointing out that the members of this forum. For the majority… underrate guys looks on the 1/10 scale …thereby Downplaying the Looks factor in how they actually got women.

that’s my acfual position and opinion.
As a very experienced guy with women .
A common phrase you see everywhere now in regards to cold approach is that you have to meet her personal 'looks threshold' if you want a romantic chance with her. Without meeting it, your ability to flirt isn't relevant to her. If that's all you're essentially saying, I don't think that's contentious tbh
 

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no , ‘are male model looks all that is required ’ is was never my assertion.

Female attraction is primarily Looks based is my assertion. His Looks & Status (assessed via a guys ‘’Look” / thin slice.. in a few seconds)

And that a guys ‘game’ …in his conversation/personality plays a very minimal role in his getting with a woman initially.

For the early stages of any relationship (assuming they get together quickly)

That’s what I’ve been saying.

Plus - pointing out that the members of this forum. For the majority… underrate guys looks on the 1/10 scale …thereby Downplaying the Looks factor in how they actually got women.

that’s my acfual position and opinion.
As a very experienced guy with women .
Guys really struggle to rate other guys on looks, if only because guys look at other guys by the metrics that they would use to rate women. Except women are looking at completely different things in what they consider attractive than a guy would think.

This was highlighted most with my late wife, I got that "gigachad" filter as a joke and pushed that as the ideal version of my look. Think the squarest of jawlines, and facial angles that look like they could cut glass. She really didn't grasp why I saw that as some ideal.

Point being; whatever a guy might rate another guy has little connection with how women would rate that guy.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Guys really struggle to rate other guys on looks, if only because guys look at other guys by the metrics that they would use to rate women. Except women are looking at completely different things in what they consider attractive than a guy would think.
not quite sure how this could be the case mate.
As men don’t generally look like women ya know.
We don’t have hourglass figures. tits and nice peachy asses?
And the other obvious differences of the face and hair.
Makes no sense this statement tbh.

This was highlighted most with my late wife, I got that "gigachad" filter as a joke and pushed that as the ideal version of my look. Think the squarest of jawlines, and facial angles that look like they could cut glass. She really didn't grasp why I saw that as some ideal.

Point being; whatever a guy might rate another guy has little connection with how women would rate that guy.
Seems to be the case on this forum.
That’s for sure.. lol.
some member on this thread disputed that George Clooney is top tier.

Y’know, that guy.
The global male sex symbol with the nickname ‘Gorgeous George’ :rofl:

LMAO.
the truth is out there fellas ..just open your eyes:rolleyes:
Trust and believe. .

Ps btw I’d like to see the gigaChad version of your face for the lols. :up:
 
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A common phrase you see everywhere now in regards to cold approach is that you have to meet her personal 'looks threshold' if you want a romantic chance with her. Without meeting it, your ability to flirt isn't relevant to her. If that's all you're essentially saying, I don't think that's contentious tbh
that’s a more concise way of saying it yeah.
The part I am trying to debug in my own game currently is this ‘oersonality’ assessment bit. That next bit that comes after a dude passes the looks threshold and her first screen.

that bit I would argue is not ‘personality’ per se.
It’s a dudes status on the totem pole of ‘Alphaness’.
His belief of entitlement and his power frame.

IMO This is the ‘feeling’ that amplifies her attraction and desire ..and seals the deal for a guy to get the chick into bed.. it’s the ‘feeling’ that he is above her.

and actually ..that he doesn’t care that much about her . He’s ‘IDGAF ‘ about her. And is superior . That puts her in the chaser frame, which is where she wants to be ‘feelings’ wise.

I don’t think all of the above equates to ‘personality’. It’s moreso she feels he has Power. (High status)

it’s moreso a power dynamic thing.

And I reckon this can be set up with a game strategy and key behaviours in the first few minutes.

that’s my thoughts.
@BaronOfHair fyi on above also.
Ironically, you’re not far off with your Pesci /Goodfellas analogy actually. :D
But I’m stating the exact opposite of your opinion re the success of that kind of persona ;)
 
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But I’m stating the exact opposite of your opinion re the success of that kind of persona ;)
You may find a gal or two who finds a man who feign curiosity, then desperately attempts to prove everyone who challenges his pre-existing beliefs "wrong" to be extremely sexy

Same way there are probably at least a couple of viewers out there who deem Hilary Duff "The 21st century's most underrated thespian"
 
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