How to gain social proof

[crowolf]

It seems that many guys who get into pickup, red pill and all of that, are "lone wolfs".

This applies to me as well. And one thing I've noticed that has held me back is the lack of social proof (mainly online).

I don't have many pictures with friends, groups, women, etc. I barely upload pictures of myself anyway, but that's not relevant here.

The issue with this is lack of trust. You can do everything right, bring massive value, but if people don't trust you - nothing will happen.

Don't get me wrong. In real life most of the people who spend time with me (especially 1 on 1) find me likable. Most people tend to feel good and safe around me. I am definitely not some grumpy fella with bad intentions. Quite the opposite.

The interesting thing about social proof is that it has this snowball effect. Months ago I posted on LinkedIn, and I noticed how it accumulates when more and more people resonated with my posts. You know that the algorithm there shows if someone reacted on your post.

This applies to women as well. Probably more than we imagine. I got many numbers from cold approach, and I texted them from an app (like WhatsApp) where I don't even have a picture. This creates some mystery and probably can work in my favor, but it can also come off as not very trustworthy.

I know the power of preselection when it comes to attracting women. Lately I started being okay with befriending women. Even attractive ones. So maybe this is one step towards social proof.

The thing is, I tend to live life my own way, even if that means not fitting in somewhere. I stay away from the mainstream, and I am comfortable being by myself or doing solo activities of all kinds.

But this sometimes creates a wall between me and the groups. So I want to figure out how to overcome this wall without sacrificing my authenticity. And mostly - how to start being seen as someone trusted, preselected, and someone who has social proof.

Do you have any advice on how to build/display social proof?

 

[Manure Spherian]

Do you have any advice on how to build/display social proof?

Get into a sex-mixed clique. If you manage to do this, you will likely not have to upload any mixed-sex pictures online.

Unfortunately social capital is easiest built at very young ages, even going back to twelve years old. I believe a leading cause of womanlesness is men not catching the train before it left the station. You usually don't see highly socialized teenagers go on to wonder where they are going to meet women and eventually screw, date, and marry them.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

Use a fake live streaming app -> and get girls to join you -> more social proof -> get more girls

 

[Clockwerk50]

Your question is really broad and, due to the amount of information that can be provided, a book could literally be written about it. However, all I can say is that social proof is usually the byproduct of the life you build rather than something you should try to manufacture.

As an example, you can start by sending birthday messages to friends and family on social media, liking their posts, congratulating them on their achievements, and keeping those small social connections going. Don’t make the mistake of thinking that isolating yourself and being completely independent will automatically make you more interesting or valuable. Being different can be a strength, but humans are social creatures, and trust is often built through familiarity, shared experiences, and relationships.

 

[tesla8520]

As an example, you can start by sending birthday messages to friends and family on social media, liking their posts, congratulating them on their achievements, and keeping those small social connections alive.

I was just about to tell you this.

Nowadays, you may need to use social media to like others, comment on their photos, and their stories, not so much because you actually want to see their content, but rather because you understand that doing so keeps the connection alive with those people who "speak well of you."

It's as if you've created a small circle of people who love you.
It's clear that outside of that circle, you're nobody.

It's also true that if you, as a man, start doing this—becoming "supportive" and "loving"—there's a real risk of being constantly friendzoned.

Furthermore, the thing I hate most is seeing new "updates" and photos from friends because it creates cognitive dissonance in me.

If I see their results, I don't care about my own.

Instead, I need to stay focused on my own life.