jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
Hello friends!
I found this post on Rollo's blog, and I think sharing this knowledge with you is essential.
I think this knowledge may explain why:
- So many women "cheat" on their man
- So many men out there decide to enter a relationship with a single mom
- Single moms or Married women behaviour towards men they've exposure in their life (orbiters)
- How men fail to understand what/who they are in the market
The text discusses the social dynamics by which women choose men, and how men are placed in certain positions.
It is said that the ideal man has two characteristics: being a good father and having good genes.
These two qualities rarely coexist in the same male, and so women have developed strategies for choosing them.
Women must therefore secure a man as an "investment," while men have an imperative to "disperse" their seed as much as possible.
These methodologies conflict in practice.
In fact, for a woman to best ensure the survival of her young, a man must necessarily abandon his own method of reproduction in favor of the female one.
Furthermore, women always have the "prerogative to change their minds," and their behavior will always be socially excusable.
As for men, being both providers and excellent genetic material is truly rare.
So men can frame the entire dating market, selling themselves as a single product: either the bad guy, or the good father/man, or for the lucky ones, both.
Let's say that generally speaking, if you've been a good guy, but attractive, your entire life, and you actually manage to break out of that dynamic, become a man with backbone, and remain attractive while also becoming a good provider, then you become the complete package.
Exactly. We can all do it.
For us men, we need to figure out who we are: the bad guy or the good guy?
(In my case, the good guy, but attractive.)
At this point, we should figure out what we're missing to become the bad guy?
So find those elements, and figure out how we're becoming the complete package!
(I've always loved having a kind of checklist that, as a man, I can revisit from time to time, and I actually really like hoemath's https://ibb.co/9Hw2RfvF that lists all the qualities of a good guy and all the qualities of a bad boy.)
So, to recap, at this point:
Women
They are biologically driven to choose the ideal man early on, and they will have social conventions that will make them behave in certain ways toward these men, whom they consider an "investment." After, or even before, securing the investment, women might decide their strategy: that is, if they have children with a bad boy, they might cheat with a good guy who will offer protection to his offspring and to her; conversely, if they have secured the investment with a good guy, then they will look for a bad boy who can father her offspring, and they will raise her with this good guy.
So this could explain women's behavior after they become mothers: if they're trying to change their current situation/condition, we need to understand which of the two strategies she's trying to implement. So, if she had children with a good or bad guy, we can understand what role the next man will play.
(This literally opened my mind and gave me a better understanding of female nature!)
Men)
They respect their imperative to "waste" their seed as much as possible, even though, once they choose to invest with a single woman, men must contradict themselves to stay with her. It's their duty to try to understand who they are, and then work to become complete (bad guy/good guy).
For those further along, the market narrows with women with children. Trying to understand what kind of man you are, why you've attracted women, and what women are looking for from you is easy in that situation.
For example: if a woman who's already in a relationship, perhaps with children, with a stable, secure, and somewhat ugly man, is looking for you or wants to screw you, then you understand that you're playing the bad boy.
For a woman to have the best the Good Dad has to offer while also taking advantage of the best the man with Good Genes has, she must constantly invent and modify social conventions to maintain her biological advantage.
(We men should really be better at reading this, rather than her emotions.)
Now we come to the point where women want to ensure they have the best of both worlds. For this reason, they find it necessary to cheat, and it will mainly be done in two ways: reactively, in which she cheats on her current male provider, with whom she may already have children, sometimes not only to have better genetic material, but also to consider this new partner long-term; or, proactively, in which she will purposely get together with a man with better genetics, only to then abandon him and be alone, to seek a new partner.
A good father who will take care of the children
This scheme is meant to clarify or simplify, but it is said that women don't have this plan in mind; rather, they apply it unconsciously, based on their circumstances.
They are unaware, but still subject to its influence.
And what about us men?
They too fall into categories—the proactive and reactive ones—and can therefore choose whether to generate their own offspring investment with a woman or to take over from a single mother, taking into account raising, even if only to a minimal extent, another man's offspring.
It goes without saying that there is no shortage of men sexually disadvantaged enough to "see beyond" the long-term disadvantages and not only reward, but also reinforce, the bad decisions of a single mother.
In conclusion:
Women are, ultimately, solely responsible for the men they choose to mate with.
Men are undoubtedly responsible for their actions, but ultimately it is a woman's decision and judgment that determines her fate and that of her children.
(I want to emphasize that the text is not generated by AI, but I personally wrote this, summarizing and putting my observations from rollo's original post https://therationalmale.com/2011/08/23/schedules-of-mating/ and which I used Google Translate to translate from Italian to English)
I found this post on Rollo's blog, and I think sharing this knowledge with you is essential.
I think this knowledge may explain why:
- So many women "cheat" on their man
- So many men out there decide to enter a relationship with a single mom
- Single moms or Married women behaviour towards men they've exposure in their life (orbiters)
- How men fail to understand what/who they are in the market
The text discusses the social dynamics by which women choose men, and how men are placed in certain positions.
It is said that the ideal man has two characteristics: being a good father and having good genes.
These two qualities rarely coexist in the same male, and so women have developed strategies for choosing them.
Women must therefore secure a man as an "investment," while men have an imperative to "disperse" their seed as much as possible.
These methodologies conflict in practice.
In fact, for a woman to best ensure the survival of her young, a man must necessarily abandon his own method of reproduction in favor of the female one.
Furthermore, women always have the "prerogative to change their minds," and their behavior will always be socially excusable.
As for men, being both providers and excellent genetic material is truly rare.
So men can frame the entire dating market, selling themselves as a single product: either the bad guy, or the good father/man, or for the lucky ones, both.
Let's say that generally speaking, if you've been a good guy, but attractive, your entire life, and you actually manage to break out of that dynamic, become a man with backbone, and remain attractive while also becoming a good provider, then you become the complete package.
Exactly. We can all do it.
For us men, we need to figure out who we are: the bad guy or the good guy?
(In my case, the good guy, but attractive.)
At this point, we should figure out what we're missing to become the bad guy?
So find those elements, and figure out how we're becoming the complete package!
(I've always loved having a kind of checklist that, as a man, I can revisit from time to time, and I actually really like hoemath's https://ibb.co/9Hw2RfvF that lists all the qualities of a good guy and all the qualities of a bad boy.)
So, to recap, at this point:
Women
They are biologically driven to choose the ideal man early on, and they will have social conventions that will make them behave in certain ways toward these men, whom they consider an "investment." After, or even before, securing the investment, women might decide their strategy: that is, if they have children with a bad boy, they might cheat with a good guy who will offer protection to his offspring and to her; conversely, if they have secured the investment with a good guy, then they will look for a bad boy who can father her offspring, and they will raise her with this good guy.
So this could explain women's behavior after they become mothers: if they're trying to change their current situation/condition, we need to understand which of the two strategies she's trying to implement. So, if she had children with a good or bad guy, we can understand what role the next man will play.
(This literally opened my mind and gave me a better understanding of female nature!)
Men)
They respect their imperative to "waste" their seed as much as possible, even though, once they choose to invest with a single woman, men must contradict themselves to stay with her. It's their duty to try to understand who they are, and then work to become complete (bad guy/good guy).
For those further along, the market narrows with women with children. Trying to understand what kind of man you are, why you've attracted women, and what women are looking for from you is easy in that situation.
For example: if a woman who's already in a relationship, perhaps with children, with a stable, secure, and somewhat ugly man, is looking for you or wants to screw you, then you understand that you're playing the bad boy.
For a woman to have the best the Good Dad has to offer while also taking advantage of the best the man with Good Genes has, she must constantly invent and modify social conventions to maintain her biological advantage.
(We men should really be better at reading this, rather than her emotions.)
Now we come to the point where women want to ensure they have the best of both worlds. For this reason, they find it necessary to cheat, and it will mainly be done in two ways: reactively, in which she cheats on her current male provider, with whom she may already have children, sometimes not only to have better genetic material, but also to consider this new partner long-term; or, proactively, in which she will purposely get together with a man with better genetics, only to then abandon him and be alone, to seek a new partner.
A good father who will take care of the children
This scheme is meant to clarify or simplify, but it is said that women don't have this plan in mind; rather, they apply it unconsciously, based on their circumstances.
They are unaware, but still subject to its influence.
And what about us men?
They too fall into categories—the proactive and reactive ones—and can therefore choose whether to generate their own offspring investment with a woman or to take over from a single mother, taking into account raising, even if only to a minimal extent, another man's offspring.
It goes without saying that there is no shortage of men sexually disadvantaged enough to "see beyond" the long-term disadvantages and not only reward, but also reinforce, the bad decisions of a single mother.
In conclusion:
Women are, ultimately, solely responsible for the men they choose to mate with.
Men are undoubtedly responsible for their actions, but ultimately it is a woman's decision and judgment that determines her fate and that of her children.
(I want to emphasize that the text is not generated by AI, but I personally wrote this, summarizing and putting my observations from rollo's original post https://therationalmale.com/2011/08/23/schedules-of-mating/ and which I used Google Translate to translate from Italian to English)
Last edited:
