What would you do if your new wifey put you on a once-a-month "limit"?

[MatureDJ]

I'd be:

 

[obelisk]

It would be grounds for divorce. Such a unilateral decision against one of the fundamental pillars of a healthy relationship would be breaking the social contract on some level. Handle it with ruthless action. I might suggest this is different than a dead bedroom or sexless marriage. Those might be salvageable with therapy and work. One really has to question what the relationship actually is if one party is unilaterally making such a decision.

 

[Gamisch]

I don't know if this is real....dude came back viciously, becoming a sexy mechanic within one month.

In the real reality most men might get to such a point, but it will take them probably years of dead bedroom. In reality most men will go through years of this dynamic. And in reality she'll be the first to find another d1ck to hop on while making you her ghey best friend who gets to pay her bills. This story was way to " feel good". Probably written by an angry man to make other men feel good.


I get the moral of the story tho; as I always say, as soon as a woman pulls something like this its beyond time to leave.

This is why you:
- shouldn't lead with your wallet and/ or life style.
- and definitely shouldn't get into relationships just to flex to other people. Why getting married or do an LTR with someone who clearly stated you are not attractive enough.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

It would be grounds for divorce. Such a unilateral decision against one of the fundamental pillars of a healthy relationship would be breaking the social contract on some level. Handle it with ruthless action. I might suggest this is different than a dead bedroom or sexless marriage. Those might be salvageable with therapy and work. One really has to question what the relationship actually is if one party is unilaterally making such a decision.

We see these scenarios and say oh I'd walk away etc but i don't think we realize if a woman does something like this she has likely already been poison-dripping the man for months and chipping away at his defenses. No woman would do something like this without having first worn down the man until he is a shell of his former self. It's the whole give them an inch and they take a mile thing. Women are RELENTLESS like this.

If the relationship ever reaches this point, it sort of implies things have been already been bad for months if not years - this sort of thing doesn't really just come out of nowhere. I suspect many women now who get married already had total control over the relationship before the wedding day even occurred.

 

[RoadKing_Rabbit]

This means that you haven't been occasionally informing her about tacit "go-aheads" the barista, the waitress, or the lady at the parts counter were giving you on a particular day. Or it just means she is relationally stupid. It exists. Any woman who does this has either lost interest, she's been asexual since day one and feigned interest until you made a deal that's hard to welch on or she just doesn't understand that when you don't do it, men go kookoo and most men can't deal with it. They can't deal because they either don't know how or they're trying to do the "right-honest-faithful" thing.

Any man finding himself in this situation he needs to ask himself HONESTLY about how it became this way. And then he needs to leave the relationship. 99.99999% of the time, setting a REQUIREMENT for sexual frequency is just as damning to a relationship as a woman setting LIMITS for sexual frequency. If it's always planned or scheduled, there's no suspense, no urgency, no thrill, no fun. If you're horny, grab that ass and pull her hair, make sure she 'feels you' and say "You really should have known, wearing that around the house." Or just stare at her from across the room and say "Yeah horny! Yeah-fvcky!" You'd be surprised what little effort it takes to 'get things going' when it's never planned.

If it escalates, great. If it doesn't, you try later. If it never does escalate though, you've got something to discuss and quite possibly something to get away from.