"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Just came across this film last night, does anyone remember it? It's from 1981, I think I may have rented it years ago but anyway... William Hurt was mesmerizing, I think this may have been his BEST performance!

You guys talk about cold approach? Here's a clip of him (as Ned Racine) initially approaching Matty Walker (Kathleen Turner)... I think his delivery is what makes it (and him) so mesmerizing though. You be the judge....

 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Not too shabby, except for offering to buy her something
 

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I'm not saying "Don't buy her something small early on". Offering to do so verbally often comes across weak and desperate
Sometimes it can but certainly not in the way Ned did. And the way he sugued into buying the out-of-town husband a drink too and the rest of it?

Perfect! I watched the movie three times already since renting it two nights ago. Lol

I may have to purchase it. It was that good and I've been getting bored with most films lately.

It's a remake of a old film noir Double Indemnity which I've never seen and will have to stream that one too.

William Hurt was mesmerizing though, what a great actor. I'm gonna have to check out his other films from the 80s.
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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This type of suave banter in my opinion would rarely work in the real world. From experience you need a real friendly, friendship brotherly type of vibe as if you knew her and ‘ been there, done that’ with her. Just act real comfortable and the sparks are going to fly.
 
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