Best way to ask this girl out

[OngBak]

There’s this one girl in one of my courses that I find very beautiful. The problem is, I’m not used to asking girls out, usually it’s the other way around. And that part hits way harder for me than the whole getting-to-know phase. After the initial stage I do very well, but it’s almost always the start where I struggle.

She doesn’t even know my name yet, but there’s just something about her that pulls me in. We worked together in a group and I actually really enjoyed it. I could tell there are things she can genuinely relate to in the way I think, which for me is a huge huge plus. She’s already kind of operating on my frame and probably curious to learn more about me, also figured this one out since she was basically referencing few things from me on Social-Media, which one of my friends told me. I also know her friend is very attracted to me, which kinda boosted her attraction too, even though she was already interested before, but that’s not really the point here.

Honestly, I wouldn’t even be writing this, but she’s probably the first woman in a long time that actually makes me genuinely nervous. That’s not something I usually deal with when it comes to women. I do think there’s chemistry and potential for something deeper, something meaningful. But to actually find that out and validate it, I’d have to ask her out and I’m really nervous about it. I have class with her tomorrow.

I don’t know if I should just stay in my usual masculine frame like before, or actually show more passion because I genuinely want this to happen. I’m kinda confused.

I could ask her out over MS Teams, basically first asking for her number there or I could do that in Person. Either way, Im too nervous to clearly think. Please help me out guys, a Date with her would mean a lot to me.

 

[BPH]

I could ask her out over MS Teams, basically first asking for her number there or I could do that in Person.

This type of question has been popping up a lot lately, but I'm not sure you guys are reading the answers.

So let's work backwards instead...

Do YOU think the best way to ask out a hot girl is from behind the screen on Microsoft Teams?

 

[OngBak]

This type of question has been popping up a lot lately, but I'm not sure you guys are reading the answers.

So let's work backwards instead...

Do YOU think the best way to ask out a hot girl is from behind the screen on Microsoft Teams?

I’m kinda mentally cloudy right now because I’ve had a lot going on lately, which explains my absence + she makes me nervous, so that’s why I feel like I need some guidance otherwise I don’t think I’d make the best decision.

So I honestly, dont know, I once asked another one out through Ms Teams, messaging her few months ago and got her Number, so based on experience, It didn't do harm

 

[Bible_Belt]

Isn't your semester almost over? It seems like it would make sense to wait until it is.

 

[OngBak]

Isn't your semester almost over? It seems like it would make sense to wait until it is.

Unfortunately not. After this semester I’ve got one more left, so I don’t think waiting would be a good idea. She’s as I said, very beautiful, and I should also add that she comes from a rich/wealthy background. Something to add as well, she doesn't even know me as Nervous guy, it would be very surprising for her probably to see me nervous

 

[BPH]

I’m kinda mentally cloudy right now because I’ve had a lot going on lately, which explains my absence + she makes me nervous, so that’s why I feel like I need some guidance otherwise I don’t think I’d make the best decision.

So I honestly, dont know, I once asked another one out through Ms Teams, messaging her few months ago and got her Number, so based on experience, It didn't do harm

Just ask her out and get your answer, rather than sitting here wondering what the answer would be.

"Hey, listen, I think you're gorgeous and would love to grab a drink outside of class. Are you free Friday night?"

I wouldn't wait like @Bible_Belt suggests, because she might meet a guy who doesn't wait.

 

[OngBak]

Just ask her out and get your answer, rather than sitting here wondering what the answer would be.

"Hey, listen, I think you're gorgeous and would love to grab a drink outside of class. Are you free Friday night?"

I wouldn't wait like @Bible_Belt suggests, because she might meet a guy who doesn't wait.

How would you suggest me to ask her out based on Place and Timing? Should I do that when she is in class and with her best friend? Should I ask her to come with me, isolate her and then ask. Things that never crossed my mind before

 

[Bible_Belt]

Just ask her out and get your answer, rather than sitting here wondering what the answer would be.

"Hey, listen, I think you're gorgeous and would love to grab a drink outside of class. Are you free Friday night?"

I wouldn't wait like @Bible_Belt suggests, because she might meet a guy who doesn't wait.

The semester for them should end in 2-3 weeks. He's been waiting months already.

Colleges today kick you out as soon as one girl complains. He's in a high level graduate program with too much at stake to risk.

 

[BPH]

How would you suggest me to ask her out based on Place and Timing? Should I do that when she is in class and with her best friend? Should I ask her to come with me, isolate her and then ask. Things that never crossed my mind before

It really doesn't matter. You're overthinking this.

If you approach her with her friend around, she'll probably think you have balls, but may also be concerned with the friend judging her response.

If you approach her without her friend, you'll probably get a more genuine response, but you don't know when that moment will come.

Just do it, get your yes or no, and move on with your life.

The semester for them should end in 2-3 weeks. He's been waiting months already.

Colleges today kick you out as soon as one girl complains. He's in a high level graduate program with too much at stake to risk.

Asking a girl out one time and respecting her answer is hardly the same as sexual harassment. That's ridiculous.

 

[OngBak]

The semester for them should end in 2-3 weeks. He's been waiting months already.

Colleges today kick you out as soon as one girl complains. He's in a high level graduate program with too much at stake to risk.

Must you correct here, Im not waiting months though. Different courses, different professors, different students. So its the first time I have a course with her and we are not even halfway of the Semester. It was also the first time i talked with her since I skipped the classes before and I honestly do not see a problem with girls, because as mentioned before I already asked girls for their numbers.

 

[OngBak]

It really doesn't matter. You're overthinking this.

If you approach her with her friend around, she'll probably think you have balls, but may also be concerned with the friend judging her response.

If you approach her without her friend, you'll probably get a more genuine response, but you don't know when that moment will come.

Just do it, get your yes or no, and move on with your life.



Asking a girl out one time and respecting her answer is hardly the same as sexual harassment. That's ridiculous.

What do you mean with her friend judging the response?
When I ask, I could once when I see her, despite her being with her bf: hey do you have a sec ? then get her out of the classroom or wait in front of the class and then the same question followed by asking her out.

Those are the few scenarios I can imagine and built upon it..

 

[BPH]

What do you mean with her friend judging the response?
When I ask, I could once when I see her, despite her being with her bf: hey do you have a sec ? then get her out of the classroom or wait in front of the class and then the same question followed by asking her out.

Those are the few scenarios I can imagine and built upon it..

Ok, you know what? New advice.

I can tell you're gonna overthink the hell out of this thing.

Just ask her out next time you see her in person. Don't wait for a perfect moment, just make that moment perfect.

 

[sevbucmash]

I could ask her out over MS Teams

Beta.

What you do is you come from afar. Greet. Small banter. If the vibe is there, find out how she feels about having a few drinks with a hot guy. If she's down. Nail down the time and logistics. Meet. ****.

P.S. if she's under 21 and don't drink, think of something else before hand. Some girls don't drink., and in your case some are under the drinking age.

 

[OngBak]

Yeah Im gonna keep things natural, and ask her out the next Day and Update you guys here.

 

[Plinco]

Yeah Im gonna keep things natural, and ask her out the next Day and Update you guys here.

You got this! You have the confidence within you, you just need to act to bring it out.

 

[OngBak]

You got this! You have the confidence within you, you just need to act to bring it out.

Thank you man, I genuinely needed that.

 

[RoadKing_Rabbit]

I concur with the idea of not waiting. Why? It serves no purpose. You want to ask her out right? Then do it. Worrying about the 'correct way' be damned. So what if you stumble over your words? If she wants to, she'll say yes. No matter how odd you seem in asking her out. Some women find that cute and an indicator that you are actually wanting to go out with them. What ISN'T cute is being so shy you don't do anything or prefer not to stand in front of her, look her in the eye and tell her straight up.

Online communication or texting is ok if you're established. It CAN start things off, but my track record of this working out was between 2003-2013. It isn't as personal as it once was, IF it ever really was.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Must you correct here, Im not waiting months though. Different courses, different professors, different students. So its the first time I have a course with her and we are not even halfway of the Semester. It was also the first time i talked with her since I skipped the classes before and I honestly do not see a problem with girls, because as mentioned before I already asked girls for their numbers.

You haven't been here on this site very long. There was a young guy a few years ago who was so good with girls, he was a mod at age 18 or so. He got accepted to a great school and then got expelled because some girl soured on him in their relationship and made up some bs to the campus authorities.

Get your degree and get out of there. You'll have options. You don't need this one, but if you think you do, just send her a casual message after finals. The idea of being in a hurry is scarcity mindset and unattractive.

 

[Bible_Belt]

It really doesn't matter. You're overthinking this.

If you approach her with her friend around, she'll probably think you have balls, but may also be concerned with the friend judging her response.

If you approach her without her friend, you'll probably get a more genuine response, but you don't know when that moment will come.

Just do it, get your yes or no, and move on with your life.



Asking a girl out one time and respecting her answer is hardly the same as sexual harassment. That's ridiculous.

Look up his posts. He's going to make more money in a year than you and I will see in a lifetime. Fvck risking all that for some pvssy.

 

[BaronOfHair]

@OngBak "Honestly, I wouldn’t even be writing this, but she’s probably the first woman in a long time that actually makes me genuinely nervous"

Start by recognizing she doesn't create any emotions you're experiencing... Your own thoughts, beliefs, and the stories you tell yourself about her generates your feels. Modify your thoughts and beliefs into saner, more temperate ones, and you'll be more courageous and less timid