Spinning 3 plates is overwhelming

[Hal9000]

Yeah, I second this...

Not saying it's impossible, but @Hal9000, the only time when a plate has been content with such a short visit was in college, where everything was within walking distance. Even now, I probably wouldn't make the drive for such a quick f*** unless she was really closeby and/or I was on a dry spell.

I suppose I understand your incredulity but thats how it was. I had weeks where I'd have sex with five different women in five nights, nights where two women both wanted to come over and they both ended up coming over for a threesome, etc. I had a **** room in my house where most of them wanted to be restrained, spanked, etc and they apparently had a hard time finding guys to do these kind of things to them (including their hubbies if they were married). And when they had a newly single friend they'd introduce them to me and maybe want to join in since most of them were bi. It was a very intoxicating, although tiring, thing for a while but eventually I needed to get out of that scene because it was impacting my work and ability to find regular gals who weren't into every kink imaginable.

 

[Solomon]

I suppose I understand your incredulity but thats how it was. I had weeks where I'd have sex with five different women in five nights, nights where two women both wanted to come over and they both ended up coming over for a threesome, etc. I had a **** room in my house where most of them wanted to be restrained, spanked, etc and they apparently had a hard time finding guys to do these kind of things to them (including their hubbies if they were married). And when they had a newly single friend they'd introduce them to me and maybe want to join in since most of them were bi. It was a very intoxicating, although tiring, thing for a while but eventually I needed to get out of that scene because it was impacting my work and ability to find regular gals who weren't into every kink imaginable.

5 different women 5 nights a week sounds exhausting but having dealt with some "kink friendly" women myself this sounds par the course. Perosnally I rather find one girl that matches my box then 5 at this stage in my life. I could do 5 but how good would the quality be? sex once you get it especially regularly loses it luster and eventually you are seeking other things that are important to you\

I'm also curious how did you get in the swinging community, where you not afraid of STDs?

 

[BPH]

I suppose I understand your incredulity but thats how it was. I had weeks where I'd have sex with five different women in five nights, nights where two women both wanted to come over and they both ended up coming over for a threesome, etc. I had a **** room in my house where most of them wanted to be restrained, spanked, etc and they apparently had a hard time finding guys to do these kind of things to them (including their hubbies if they were married). And when they had a newly single friend they'd introduce them to me and maybe want to join in since most of them were bi. It was a very intoxicating, although tiring, thing for a while but eventually I needed to get out of that scene because it was impacting my work and ability to find regular gals who weren't into every kink imaginable.

I remember seeing your body count in the thread about it over on Mature Man.

Can you provide some background context? Are you like a wealthy, 6'3" Chad living in the middle of Los Angeles or something?

 

[Hal9000]

5 different women 5 nights a week sounds exhausting but having dealt with some "kink friendly" women myself this sounds par the course. Perosnally I rather find one girl that matches my box then 5 at this stage in my life. I could do 5 but how good would the quality be? sex once you get it especially regularly loses it luster and eventually you are seeking other things that are important to you\

I'm also curious how did you get in the swinging community, where you not afraid of STDs?

Well it wasn't five every week but it did happen. And you're right. It was fun at first (and great for my confidence as I'd been married a long time and needed to get comforable around women again) but honestly it got boring after a while as there needed to be more of a connection than just sexual compatibility after a while. I know that kind of sounds like something a female would say but it was true for me as well. As far as STDs were concerned I'd get tested every few weeks and luckily never had any issues.

 

[Hal9000]

I remember seeing your body count in the thread about it over on Mature Man.

Can you provide some background context? Are you like a wealthy, 6'3" Chad living in the middle of Los Angeles or something?

Actually I am 6'3" and was around 190 when I was involved in all of that. Mid 40s with a full head of hair, so an above average looking guy (but I wouldn't say Chad level looks) for my demographic for sure. Not in a huge city like LA but a top twenty size city that had an active LS scene. Not really wealthy but I am financially secure so never had an issue with making things happen when I needed to although, as I said above, most of my encounters were at home or close by which probably helps when you have a nice home, car etc which puts the ladies at ease.

 

[BPH]

Actually I am 6'3" and was around 190 when I was involved in all of that. Mid 40s with a full head of hair, so an above average looking guy (but I wouldn't say Chad level looks) for my demographic for sure. Not in a huge city like LA but a top twenty size city that had an active LS scene. Not really wealthy but I am financially secure so never had an issue with making things happen when I needed to although, as I said above, most of my encounters were at home or close by which probably helps when you have a nice home, car etc which puts the ladies at ease.

That level of degeneracy in your mid-40s is legitimately impressive, assuming these are good-looking women.

What is "active LS scene" though?

 

[Hal9000]

That level of degeneracy in your mid-40s is legitimately impressive, assuming these are good-looking women.

What is "active LS scene" though?

Well I was making up for some lost time from my previous marriage. And I am a kinky MFer for sure so I did really enjoy getting to explore just about anything I was interested in for a while. By active I mean there were LS clubs, house parties social groups, etc that made it relatively easy to get in front of women that were predisposed to be into all of that. Single guys never really have it easy as there are 100 of us for every 1 single female but it does make it easier if you're near an area where theres a lot of activity. And once you're with a couple of women and they enjoy themselves words seems to get out quick and I was off to the races.

 

[Solomon]

Well it wasn't five every week but it did happen. And you're right. It was fun at first (and great for my confidence as I'd been married a long time and needed to get comforable around women again) but honestly it got boring after a while as there needed to be more of a connection than just sexual compatibility after a while. I know that kind of sounds like something a female would say but it was true for me as well. As far as STDs were concerned I'd get tested every few weeks and luckily never had any issues.

Totally agree, eventually sports smashing gets old for various reason but mostly if you can get it like that, what's next?, especially if you're a man who values intelligent discourse or more of a connection, there is nothing like that raw lust sex but eventually after you smash the same chick time after time what else is there? cause even the hottest of chick you'll eventually get bored of smashing if you smash her enough

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

I've never met a woman that would be ok with coming over for sex for an hour or two and then going home. You must be amazing!

Asian women sure are

 

[CornbreadFed]

Asian women sure are

Any Chad can get away with having women over like that.

 

[darksprezzatura]

Plates spin themselves.

 

[LucianoM]

And no, you do not need to keep them all content.
You just need them to value you enough to follow your schedule.

This is forumville talk, in the real world if you don't give a hot girl priority she will jump ship eventually.

 

[LucianoM]

I ended up keeping girl B as my main with girl A in the background and cut out girl C completely.

 

[HaleyBaron]

This is forumville talk, in the real world if you don't give a hot girl priority she will jump ship eventually.

I've had a hot girl wait on me for two months. When I returned, she jumped my d*ck.

 

[Clockwerk50]

This is forumville talk, in the real world if you don't give a hot girl priority she will jump ship eventually.

It depends. Attraction doesn’t disappear right away just because someone isn’t given top priority. What matters is how the distance is handled. If the absence is due to real responsibilities like work, travel, or obligations, and it’s communicated calmly and confidently, it can keep someone interested and even hopeful. It is the main premise on how to build a harem.

That said, not every woman will accept low priority forever, but many people stay emotionally open when the connection feels pleasant, respectful, and well-framed. If it doesn’t, she’ll eventually move on.

 

[MatureDJ]

And PlateCels like Yours Truly are supposed to feel sympathy for you?

 

[Silver Surfer]

Well, the first problem is men shouldn’t be spending a weekend with a chick. If it’s due to the work schedule maybe. Other than that, the weekend is for the man to explore more options.

I prefer dates during the week because the time is more limited. I got things to do.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

I have 3 plates that I spend weekends with, they usually come friday and leave Monday. So that means I see each one every 3 weeks. That isnt often enough to keep a girl happy and not risk losing her. Especially when you count the times I've had to cancel plans due to unexpected visit from another one, etc.
I cant even spend back-to-back weekends with one girl. None of them can see me as much as they want. Seems like trying to juggle all three will make me lose all three. How the hell do you guys spin 3+ plates and keep them all content?

This reminds me of when an NBA basketball coach had stated that his team was so good, he was having a difficult time rationing out playing-minutes to the players.

He also stated that, despite this issue, it is a good problem to have as a coach because it is testament to how great the team is, and now good the players are.

So, the fact that you have a nice rotation is indeed a good thing..although it can be overwhelming to keep them all content.

I'm also going through a similar situation, so I can relate.

And as much as I love the company of women, I also value my "me"/"alone" time.

Sometimes, I just want to be at the crib, alone, unbothered..peace, and tranquility.

Instead, I gotta deal with responding to phones calls, texts...requests to come over or workout together...when sometimes, I JUST WANNA BE LEFT ALONE!!

I get a text from a chick asking me to come over...and I gotta find a way to tell her "Nah, I'm in for the night"....and I can't tell her I'll see her tomorrow, because I got plans with another one tomorrow.

It can be overwhelming...but nevertheless, are still good "problems" to have.

The solution is...

1. Keep the rotations to a tolerable minimum (whatever the # is that'll keep you from being overwhelmed).

Or..

2. Set some "I'll reach out to you if I need you, until then, don't bother me" boundaries.

My issue is; old puzzy gets old, and my constant quests for new puzzy is nonstop, unavoidable...so #2 seems to be the best option for myself.

I'm glutton for punishment, but it's still fun.

 

[HaleyBaron]

Venom is spitting truth. It's a good problem to have to be overwhelmed. The easy way to deal with it is to just not care about the girls. You'll get to them when you can. I still remember the story of a guy in high school who gave out cellphones to girls he wanted to **** and if they didn't pick up when he called, he took it away. That's the extreme of plate management, but it's the ideal.

 

[Gamisch]

Seems like there are levels to this.

Level1. No women . Women collectively decided you are not good enough and you get zero play. You're an incel

Level 2 you ought to be happy with ANY womanb(sub hb4) and sometimes higher but it will ALWAYS be from a position of male scarcity. She will run circles around you and make your life hard.

Level 3 is where it gets interesting: you can get multiple women but all of them FEAR you will upgrade/ take advantage of opportunities aka play them whenever you can and thus pressure you to fully commit. This is where most men will peak. Simultaneously you are NOT yet " great " enough to pull Level 4 shyte, because YOU are still quite replaceable. Spinning plates will be stressful as all of said plates will FEEL your attention is leaking elsewhere..

Level 4: you're a top-tier man who can be honest and open about the other women. You can say you won't ever commit and she is part of a rotation. Some will temporarily be okay with this.

Level 5 will be similar but you're status and or financial abundance is so strong that some women will actually stay. You basically got yourself a true harem. Congratulations.