The Chicks who wants you if you’re my age and a normal dude, can you relate?

[Travel memoir21]

Okay Im 39 years old and from the trends that I’ve been seeing as of late, the women that’s been giving me hardcore 101s when Im out and about in public are either Cougars or chicks who are married or in relationships. Wow, a bunch of chicks who wants to get their egos stroked by a much younger looking man and the other wants some sort of forbidden bad boy dynamic with me. I don’t want to be with any of these women, Id rather be with a woman who is 21 and up with a low body count. As you know, Im a Man of faith whose not into illicit sex but open to courting multiple women until I find the right person. I hardly do any cold approaches as Ive been meeting and arranging dates off my Tinder account, so that stuff keeps me entertained. Anyone here can relate to my situation? This totally telling me the nature of women who is highly influenced by a self gratifying culture in a nutshell.

 

[BaronOfHair]

As you know, Im a Man of faith whose not into illicit sex but open to courting multiple women until I find the right person

You're behaving like Dakota Johnson's character in Materialists, and Paula Patton's character in Baggage Claim, then expecting that sort of feminine energy to get the panties a' peelin', in other words

Chances of that approach succeeding may actually be weaker than convincing The IDF and Hamas to lay down the rifles, in favor of hugging it out

 

[Travel memoir21]

You're behaving like Dakota Johnson's character in Materialists, and Paula Patton's character in Baggage Claim, then expecting that sort of feminine energy to get the panties a' peelin', in other words

Chances of that approach succeeding may actually be weaker than convincing The IDF and Hamas to lay down the rifles, in favor of hugging it out

lol I can get women interested in me with this approach if the girl has the same values and morals. Im just having fun right now dating and making friends with multiple women and avoiding drama and intangible consequences at the same time. You do what works for you man, Im secure with myself and my masculinity that Id rather weed out the rotten apples from a detached, laidback and spiritual approach. It’s not the conquest for me as it is the shared connection, bonding to raise a good family and having that cool friendship element just as much as an infatuated one.

 

[BaronOfHair]

lol I can get women interested in me with this approach if the girl has the same values and morals

When you say you're opposed to "illicit sex".... You're opposed to being intimate before marriage altogether?

 

[Travel memoir21]

When you say you're opposed to "illicit sex".... You're opposed to being intimate before marriage altogether?

Mostly yes, due to my faith and religious beliefs, I believe in cultivating friendships with everyone around me not just women and far too often when you get involved and physical with the wrong type of women, you get in the wrong type of clouded mindset, you start pushing your Dude friends away, if she’s hot you might start believing your better than other people, time with her might interfere with you doing noble acts like volunteering or charity work etc…when you delay all that and wait for the right girl, you’re coming from the right frame that this relationship is based on spiritual connection, delayed gratification and working something that can benefit your community like starting a family, promoting healthy relationships based on God Consciousness and Love.

 

[SW15]

The typical late 30s/early 40s man who is seeking sex and relationships struggles to get sex and relationship from women substantially younger than he is. The typical unattached guy in his late 30s/early 40s becomes a pussie beggar who settles for whatever woman he can get near his own age.

Most late 30s/early 40s men will be having pre-marital sex in their interactions.

 

[The Duke]

when you get involved and physical with the wrong type of women, you get in the wrong type of clouded mindset, you start pushing your Dude friends away, if she’s hot you might start believing your better than other people, time with her might interfere with you doing noble acts like volunteering or charity work etc…when you delay all that and wait for the right girl, you’re coming from the right frame that this relationship is based on spiritual connection, delayed gratification and working something that can benefit your community like starting a family, promoting healthy relationships based on God Consciousness and Love.

Regardless of if you wait to have sex with a woman or not, the more you become connected to one the more of your time they will take up. I'm not talking about alienating your friends because you found some girl that rocks your world, thats what a chump does. But you won't be spending as much time with friends I guarantee it. It happens to everyone in a committed relationship with the opposite sex.

By your logic you think you can keep adding friends and that won't take time away from these noble acts you do? Wait until you have a wife, those noble acts you do like volunteering will be far less. She will have you doing noble acts for her and you'll do them. There is only so much time in the day. You do less noble acts or spend less time with friends. Something has to give. Always.

 

[Travel memoir21]

Regardless of if you wait to have sex with a woman or not, the more you become connected to one the more of your time they will take up. I'm not talking about alienating your friends because you found some girl that rocks your world, thats what a chump does. But you won't be spending as much time with friends I guarantee it. It happens to everyone in a committed relationship with the opposite sex.

By your logic you think you can keep adding friends and that won't take time away from these noble acts you do? Wait until you have a wife, those noble acts you do like volunteering will be far less. She will have you doing noble acts for her and you'll do them. There is only so much time in the day. You do less noble acts or spend less time with friends. Something has to give. Always.

Relationships are unselfish and all about teamwork. A quality wife would allow you to have male friends and gentlemen peers you can bond, sit down, maybe have a few drinks and pipe smoking sessions with. As far as charity and volunteering? Why not do them with your wife or girlfriend? If you marry or hook up with a feminine woman with noble character, you can use that time to volunteer together and foster that bond you may have. Yes, your girlfriend or wife may have some complaints, but you can’t neglect your identity and role as a dude in society and giving back to your everyday dudes out there who needs help. One of the things you can do to get that sense of inner peace going is to get involve, join a motorcycle club, join an mma dojo or join a cycling group amongst Men, etc that sense of camaraderie and giving back to your community is intangible quality to your warrior essence.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Not sure what you’re implying here, but blaming culture and society is an easy way to avoid self-reflection. The reality is that the attention you’re getting comes down to who you personally attract based on your presentation, fitness, grooming, and overall appeal. From what I have seen on your YouTube channel, the donut poems, the weight, the crooked teeth, the short height, and the hair loss, it’s not hard to understand why the women showing interest are the ones they are.

If you want to attract the 21-year-olds with the religious compass, you need to look at what they actually value and what signals you’re sending rather than blaming society.

 

[Travel memoir21]

Not sure what you’re implying here, but blaming culture and society is an easy way to avoid self-reflection. The reality is that the attention you’re getting comes down to who you personally attract based on your presentation, fitness, grooming, and overall appeal. From what I have seen on your YouTube channel, the donut poems, the weight, the crooked teeth, the short height, and the hair loss, it’s not hard to understand why the women showing interest are the ones they are.

If you want to attract the 21-year-olds with the religious compass, you need to look at what they actually value and what signals you’re sending rather than blaming society.

Thanks for your constructive criticism, Im working on the weight loss by doing Yoga and taking morning walks, with the hairloss, Im thinking of growing a beard or an all out stache and goatee to make myself presentable, not much you can do about the height but Im taking girls out on dates shorter than me, with the grooming I’ll stick with my flatcap beanie, polos and khaki pants. As far as attracting 21 year olds, I prefer a late 20s chick or early 30s with low body counts. I’m just thankful for what I have and the amount of women I’ve been able to take out on dates out here in South East Asia, some are in their late 30s, mid 30s, cute single moms who are good hearted, etc Im just thank ful to have a rotation going. We go out to the beach, bbq with the guys and sing karaoke with a few chilled out drinks. Im just taking it one process at a time through self improvement man, I go back to the states in October and Im gonna upgrade my Gym membership and sign up for a Men’s muay thai class and looking forward to the camaraderie and good times. Ultimately I don’t want a hot women I can brag and show off to feel like I got some conquest going on, but ultimately maybe a moderately cute modest chick, mid 30s, who is humble, down to earth and god conscious and who I share mutual connections. Im a simple man, as long as she let me spend time with my guy friends to go fishing and mma sparring on a Saturday night, that would be a blessing. With the moderately cute laid back women Im seeing right now, I think I can ultimately accomplish that goal because this is a chilled out, conservative culture where Im at where the women are feminine and radiant. And oh yeah, my Youtube channel is not to attract women, it’s to help Men have productive lives by incorporating some spiritual, esoteric principles and practical advise. Im not in it for the pvssy but to help a few gentlemen around the globe out, hope to make more videos soon.

 

[The Duke]

Relationships are unselfish and all about teamwork. A quality wife would allow you to have male friends and gentlemen peers you can bond, sit down, maybe have a few drinks and pipe smoking sessions with. As far as charity and volunteering? Why not do them with your wife or girlfriend? If you marry or hook up with a feminine woman with noble character, you can use that time to volunteer together and foster that bond you may have. Yes, your girlfriend or wife may have some complaints, but you can’t neglect your identity and role as a dude in society and giving back to your everyday dudes out there who needs help. One of the things you can do to get that sense of inner peace going is to get involve, join a motorcycle club, join an mma dojo or join a cycling group amongst Men, etc that sense of camaraderie and giving back to your community is intangible quality to your warrior essence.

so how does it work for your father with your mom? I assume they are still married?

 

[Travel memoir21]

so how does it work for your father with your mom? I assume they are still married?

so how does it work for your father with your mom? I assume they are still married?

Yes 30 plus years, it’s not a perfect marriage, but my dad still make the majority of the decisions and lead, goes off to have a few drinks and smokes with his buddies on a good day and an active member in his community. My mom is argumentative at times but that’s normal, but she looks to my dad to make the important decisions.

 

[Vanderdonck]

Okay Im 39 years old and from the trends that I’ve been seeing as of late, the women that’s been giving me hardcore 101s when Im out and about in public are either Cougars or chicks who are married or in relationships. Wow, a bunch of chicks who wants to get their egos stroked by a much younger looking man and the other wants some sort of forbidden bad boy dynamic with me.

Those are just the women who will put themselves out there because they have more deniability.

A hot 22 year old is not going to put herself on a platter and risk rejection even though she may find you attractive. Stop waiting for IOIs and talk to them.

Guys should keep in mind that cougars, Rubenesque women, the married, and the gay tend to say what the other women are afraid to say. If these people are flirting with you, rest assured you are attractive to plenty of babes.

 

[SW15]

If @Travel memoir21 was back in his home area of the Rio Grande Valley in Texas, the women near his age would mainly be Hispanic single moms. Some of these Hispanic single moms would have kids with more than 1 man and were never married to their Baby Daddy.

A 39 year old never married, childless man and a 35-39 year old single mom would be an awkward fit. Their life experiences would be difficult. It's a challenge to see the commonalities they would have that they could discuss during early stage dates. How would attraction be built?

 

[MatureDJ]

If @Travel memoir21 was back in his home area of the Rio Grande Valley in Texas, the women near his age would mainly be Hispanic single moms. Some of these Hispanic single moms would have kids with more than 1 man and were never married to their Baby Daddy.

A 39 year old never married, childless man and a 35-39 year old single mom would be an awkward fit. Their life experiences would be difficult. It's a challenge to see the commonalities they would have that they could discuss during early stage dates. How would attraction be built?

Attraction would be built by:

This is the only chick that would spread her legs for me.

 

[sevbucmash]

 

[Travel memoir21]

If @Travel memoir21 was back in his home area of the Rio Grande Valley in Texas, the women near his age would mainly be Hispanic single moms. Some of these Hispanic single moms would have kids with more than 1 man and were never married to their Baby Daddy.

A 39 year old never married, childless man and a 35-39 year old single mom would be an awkward fit. Their life experiences would be difficult. It's a challenge to see the commonalities they would have that they could discuss during early stage dates. How would attraction be built?

Lol yeah there lots of single moms out here and it’s quite prevalent. A good social circle hook up off a buddy’s sister or your neighbor’s bbq gathering is looking more enticing these days. I think ya gotta have some sort of clout going for you these days, could be a star point guard at a Men’s Basketball league or an Art organizer at a renaissance festival at your local community college lol whatever gets those attraction triggers rollin.