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[BPH]

Back by (somewhat) popular demand, although there was no lay this weekend...a Field Report.

If you guys like reading these and the LRs, I might revive the journal or something to keep it all in one place. Anyway, this took place Thursday through Saturday, so I'll break this into separate nights:

Night 1

Thursday night was expected to be the first busy night back, with the first day of classes being next Monday. I work remotely on Fridays, so I decided to get a feel for things, plus I thought my buddy would be bartending, and he always hooks me up.

I get there, and am a bit surprised there's no line. Inside, it's quite busy, but not throughout the entire bar like I'm used to. There also wasn't a bartender working the very back bar, so everybody was congregated around the main bar by the front. My buddy actually wasn't bartending until tomorrow night, but I thought to make the best of things and see how the night goes.

There wasn't a whole lot to report tonight. The vibe was mostly that of almost every girl having an "OMG I missed you", rather than a "let's hook up" kinda night. Somehow, there were already some couples fighting - one involved this guy apparently hitting on his girlfriend's roommate, which was funny to overhear.

At one point, I was having a conversation with one of my friends who works there when a drunk girl came up to us both and started making small talk. She was cute, but not quite to my standards, so I tried to set her up with my friend. They exchanged numbers, he texted her, thanked me for the layup, and I went on with my night.

By closing time, I hadn't really talked to these girls. There were lots of cute girls, but very few knockouts - lots of 5s and 6s, some 7s, maybe 1 or 2 8s. One such 8 I started talking to at the bar. She had a blonde friend with her, sitting in this other guy's arms, who I'll assume is the boyfriend. But my girl was single, and we hit it off. We made some small talk, took a shot together, and I got her phone number, which I couldn't confirm at the time, since she had lost it at some point that night. I asked her what she was doing afterwards. She told me she was probably just going to sleep. I asked her if she'd like some company. She seemed interested enough, but told me she couldn't tonight, and "maybe tomorrow night".

The bar closed, I left, but she stayed in trying to find her phone. While that's happening, an extremely liberal-looking group of girls starts talking to me, and says their friend thinks I'm cute - it's quite an unattractive, bigger girl. So I lie and tell them I have a girlfriend, and point out it's the girl I just met who was inside, looking for her phone.

I'm waiting for my ride, and soon afterwards, while I'm checking my phone, I see the hot girl I just met follow me on Instagram. She leaves the bar with her phone, we talk for a little bit, and have a short "goodbye makeout" once my ride arrives. She goes into the same 7/11 as the liberal group, so I text her that they hit on me and I said she was my girlfriend, and to play along if they ask her. She sends me a bunch of laughing emojis. I ride home, and that's the end of this first night. This girl will come into play later.

Night 2

Went back to the same spot Friday night because this time my buddy was definitely working. Unlike the night before, there is a HUGE line. Luckily, I'm very good friends with all the staff, including the bouncers, so I'm able to skip right through that. I beeline it for where my buddy is bartending, and he hooks me up all night.

Similar to the night before, there's a lot of decent girls, but I'm really not seeing anybody so hot that I NEED to go up and meet them. I still talk to maybe 2 or 3 that I think are cute. They were all in relationships or had an "it's complicated" going on - but one asked me if I came here often, and said she would definitely let me know if things didn't work out.

I end up seeing someone who I THINK is the girl I'd met that first night. I text her asking where my gorgeous fake girlfriend is, and she responds to my question the night before, about where she found her phone, but doesn't tell me whether she's out or not tonight. So I go up to this girl and start talking to her like I know her, and she has no idea who I am. I'm thinking she just may not remember meeting me or something, so I lean in and remind her that we made out. She promptly pulls back in disgust and says she has a boyfriend - of whom she shows me a picture of them together as her phone wallpaper.

I'm extremely confused, so I walk away. There's not much else to describe this night, and nobody else I really wanted to meet.

 

[BPH]

Night 3

I had initially planned to stay in. Back-to-back hangovers weren't particularly fun, and I had quite a busy day catching up on everything that didn't get done Friday after work. That said, one of my friends is on a really long dry spell and wanted to go, an older friend of mine was already there, and both my bartender buddy and the worker friend from the first night were there...so I decided I'd come out.

Just like the night before, we skipped the line and got the hookup from my bartender buddy. My older friend has been there since 8PM, so he's absolutely hammered, shamelessly hitting on any remotely cute girl who looks in his direction. He's a very good-looking dude, but he's also 48 years old and completely blasted, so he's not doing himself any favors. My other friend and I both know he's not going to last the full night.

Now, I see the girl from last night and Thursday again...but I'm seeing 2 of them...so I realize that I might've talked to a different girl on Thursday than I did on Friday. Seeing them both in the same place, one is slightly taller and bustier, but they have almost identical faces, skin tone, hair, and everything else. So I go up to the hotter one (the one I hit on the first night who turned out to actually be the girl I made out with) and ask her if she has a twin - non-jokingly, mind you, I'm completely serious.

She and her friend look at me, laugh, then walk away. My friend witnesses this, and I give him the backstory, and tell him that I'm super confused, and what I think just happened.

I might've approached 1 or 2 girls, but I don't remember them, and if I did, nothing came of it. The girl whom I tried setting up with the coworker friend was there, so I told her where he was and that she should say hi to him. She was not as drunk as that first night, and was curious about how old we were. I'm 31, and the other guy is older than me, so that seems like it might've turned her off.

The only real highlight was my friend I came with. He had been on a dry spell for about 12 months now. He's a black dude with dreads, a little shorter than me, decent-looking, and weighs about the same as me. He lifts, but he's not quite as lean as I am, just to paint a picture. The whole night, I'm trying to get him to talk to girls. He keeps disqualifying them (somewhat reasonable, they're not knockouts), and saying he'll approach one when he feels like it.

This group of 2 walks through, and they're both cute. They stop in front of us to wait for their drink, and I keep nudging him to approach. Which he finally does. Things seem to be going well, so after a few minutes, I walk over to occupy the friend. She's cute, too, but she has a boyfriend as well, so we make small talk until my friend finishes talking to her friend.

They leave, and I ask him how it went. He says it went well, they kissed twice, and he has her number. I ask if he texted her his name. He shows me his phone - he literally just texted her his name, with zero context. So I take his phone and send a text on his behalf, something to the effect of "Name, the really hot black dude with the dreads". She texts him back something along the lines of "of course I remember you silly haha". Later in the night, he shows me she's still texting him, but his responses are like friendly bullsh** to keep the conversation going. I tell him what he should be texting her, since he's been dry for so long. Instead, he starts handing me the phone each time she responds, so I can text her on his behalf.

Initially, she was talking about how nice it was to meet him and that they should hang out again "real soon ", but that she was going to bed. But then he comes up to me and tells me that she's inviting him over, and that he was planning to push it to another night since he was my ride. I told him I would Uber home, but that if he doesn't get laid that he's paying for my Uber. He leaves to go meet her, but unfortunately, calls me back, asking if I'd left yet, because apparently she had fallen asleep while waiting for him.

I told him to make plans for as soon as possible and to take her on a late-night drink date. He seems not to have taken my advice fully, thinking he knows better, because he set the date for Wednesday at 7PM. Hopefully he doesn't find a way to f*** this up...I'll find out soon enough.

There was one approach near the end of the night that pissed me off...it was a group of 3 - 2 girls, 1 guy, all sitting at a table. I pull up a seat between the guy and the hot girl and sit down. I politely ask the guy how he's doing, then turn my attention to the girl. I told her that I thought she was really cute and wanted to come say hi, before turning to the guy and asking if she was his girlfriend. She says nothing. He says no. The friend says yes. Then the guy takes the hint and changes his answer to a yes, while the girl I'm interested in now speaks up and says, "Oh yeah...yeah, he is my boyfriend". Now I could've just walked off, but I was drunk, it was the end of the night with nobody else I wanted to approach, and this pissed me off a little, so I stayed and tried to create a teachable moment...

I asked why they felt the need to do what they just did. First, I explained that I wasn't even talking to the friend, so I don't know why she answered for the girl I was talking to. Second, I asked the guy why he was going along with it when I was polite enough to ask him if she was his girlfriend before I started hitting on her. They committed to the story that they were together for a bit, then the girls thought it would be funny to further lie and say that they're actually lesbians and that they're together. I rolled my eyes and, at that point, got up and left. One said that it was nice meeting me, to which I replied "yeah, yeah, f*ck off..."

I'd seen an article recently that women are complaining that men don't have the balls to approach them anymore. Then I have an experience like this that gives me a lot of evidence as to why. It won't affect me, but I could see this deterring a guy who doesn't have the same experience or resilience when dealing with rejection.

On the way out, the hot girl from Thursday notices me waiting for my ride, and I guess she thinks I'm still trying to get closer to her. So she goes over to one of the off-duty bouncers and starts whispering in his ear while constantly looking back at me. Not wanting to wrongfully get a bad reputation at this place, I walk over to him and briefly describe who she is and why she's likely saying whatever she did. He doesn't want any part of it, so I leave it alone and walk away.

I've since deleted her number, but I texted her something along the lines of "Look, if you've changed your mind and aren't interested, that's fine, you don't have to be weird about it. I deleted your number and unfollowed you, have a good night".

And that was pretty much it. Try again next weekend.

On a side note, I saw something that pissed me off recently...there's a plate I used to hook up with who may or may not end up rejoining the roster. This last weekend, she posted on her Instagram about how on 2 separate nights, she had been taken to a Phillies game on a date. The second night, she bragged about how this other guy was competing with the guy who took her out the first night, because he had made sure to get better seats, then stated that the next guy might as well get seats next to the mascot if they want to one-up him.

I found this disgusting. I even texted her asking if that's what really happened. She confirmed, to which I only said "Wow". She might think I'm impressed, whereas I'm actually so disappointed...I would've felt so disrespected as that first guy, and seeing that, I would assume any other potential suitors would be turned off by the possibility of being called out if their date wasn't "enough" for her.

That's all for now.

 

[BaronOfHair]

By closing time, I hadn't really talked to these girls. There were lots of cute girls, but very few knockouts - lots of 5s and 6s, some 7s, maybe 1 or 2 8s

Are you anticipating the pickings to get any more abundant out there in The Blue Hen State, hombre? Hate to be a killjoy, nonetheless that may be less rational than mums in Soweto expecting that their toddlers will survive to adulthood, even as muti continues to enjoy Taylor Swiftian popularity in that corner of the globe https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.da...ered-body-parts-hacked-mutilated-killing.html

 

[BPH]

Are you anticipating the pickings to get any more abundant out there in The Blue Hen State, hombre? Hate to be a killjoy, nonetheless that may be less rational than mums in Soweto expecting that their toddlers will survive to adulthood, even as muti continues to enjoy Taylor Swiftian popularity in that corner of the globe https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.da...ered-body-parts-hacked-mutilated-killing.html

Are you a bot? Probably about 90% of your comments end with some sort of reference to something completely unrelated - in this case, for whatever reason, 2 young children being murdered and mutilated in South Africa 2 years ago.

I don't know what part of my post made you think of that, or had that article on hand to reference.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Are you a bot?

Nah... The blood coursing through my veins is often no less frigid than the calculations of a machine though. Back to my question, which more than a couple other fellas here have posed also:

Delaware has, in the past, produced some incomprehensibly sexy women(Teri Polo, Aubrey Plaza), great... Are you seriously expecting the overall selection there to ever be the stuff of legend though? The night you're describing sounds typical of most parts of the world that ain't major metropolitan areas

 

[Clockwerk50]

The only real highlight was my friend I came with. He had been on a dry spell for about 12 months now. He's a black dude with dreads, a little shorter than me, decent-looking, and weighs about the same as me. He lifts, but he's not quite as lean as I am, just to paint a picture.

I always knew you and @CornbreadFed went all the way back

 

[BPH]

Delaware has, in the past, produced some incomprehensibly sexy women(Teri Polo, Aubrey Plaza)

I can't tell if this is sarcasm.

Are you seriously expecting the overall selection there to ever be the stuff of legend though?

No, and that's why I approached only a few women, then went home alone.

 

[BaronOfHair]

I can't tell if this is sarcasm

Completely serious

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[BPH]

I told him to make plans for as soon as possible and to take her on a late-night drink date. He seems not to have taken my advice fully, thinking he knows better, because he set the date for Wednesday at 7PM. Hopefully he doesn't find a way to f*** this up...I'll find out soon enough.

Update: He found a way to f*** it up.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Update: He found a way to f*** it up.

What did the Cornbread look alike do?

 

[BPH]

What did the Cornbread look alike do?

It's hard to say, since he never showed me the text conversation between him and this girl, to help him out.

I know he didn't lead, because he told me she picked the day and time for their date (Wednesday at 7PM).

I know he talked too much because he said she keeps texting him back, so he was probably too available.

He told me they didn't have their date last night because she had some pre-party to go to, and didn't respond when he asked when she would be available next - so again, not leading.

He doesn't think it would've made any difference to know what their text conversation looked like, and believes it would've gone this way regardless. So I told him that I'm not going to bother helping him if he's being this prideful and defensive of my advice, especially when my advice is what almost got him laid that night.

I told him that I would just be focusing on getting mine from now on.

 

[ValiantMale]

OUCH man that third night sounds brutal... from the girls laughing in your face and walking away to that table just insulting your intelligence.

and idk man stop coaching your friends he clearly doesn't want your advice.. thats your friend not someone you try to act better than at pulling women lol.. gotta set ego aside with friends. he's prob right that not much would have been different.. gotta trust in your friends unless he's notoriously known at shi.tting the bag/selling hard.

I feel like you still got a way to go but at least ur out in the field doing it man.. in a few years you'll probably be ace. if I were you i'd 100% focus on moving out first and gettign your own place.. it will alleviate so much off your back from thinking where to take women to spending money on hotels, etc.. once you have a -target- , its much easier to reach it.. The target being taking the girl home at the end of the night.. FOr example, the girl you made out with-- that shoulda been a lay the same night.. Its no wonder when you ran into her again she was freaked out.. you missed your opportunity. Always strike when the iron is hot. Ofc it would have been that much easier had you had your own place once again.

 

[BPH]

and idk man stop coaching your friends he clearly doesn't want your advice.. thats your friend not someone you try to act better than at pulling women lol.. gotta set ego aside with friends. he's prob right that not much would have been different.. gotta trust in your friends unless he's notoriously known at shi.tting the bag/selling hard.

The thing is, he's my only single friend. But he's starting to be a buzzkill. He follows me around, does whatever I do, and just watches or waits when I go up to meet women - sometimes he'll even insert himself once they've warmed up to me, and that never helps.

He doesn't talk to women without a significant push, and the last time I went out with him and left with a woman, he got upset because I left him alone. I'd really like for him not to be so sh** with women that he's a detriment to my night, and not feel like I need to babysit him.

And now that he had a woman, whom I pushed for him to talk to...who I occupied the friend so he could have his moment...who I texted on his behalf until he got the invite to come over that night...NOW he wants to decide he knows better? The guy who hasn't been laid in a year. It just annoys me that he's so prideful for somebody who has no reason to be...so I might start going out solo more often. I used to be in my head about it, but it's nice not having to worry about somebody else.

FOr example, the girl you made out with-- that shoulda been a lay the same night.. Its no wonder when you ran into her again she was freaked out.. you missed your opportunity. Always strike when the iron is hot. Ofc it would have been that much easier had you had your own place once again.

I don't think there's a whole lot I could've done differently there. If the interest were high enough, she would've invited me over. School isn't in session yet, and most people haven't moved in yet, so it's not like she had a good reason not to invite me otherwise.

I'm not sure if I lost her because I hit on the other girl, whom I thought was her, and she saw it...or because she thought when I went up to her that 3rd night that I'd forgotten who she was, and the "twin" thing was a pickup line where I was hitting on her all over again.

 

[ValiantMale]

The thing is, he's my only single friend. But he's starting to be a buzzkill. He follows me around, does whatever I do, and just watches or waits when I go up to meet women - sometimes he'll even insert himself once they've warmed up to me, and that never helps.

He doesn't talk to women without a significant push, and the last time I went out with him and left with a woman, he got upset because I left him alone. I'd really like for him not to be so sh** with women that he's a detriment to my night, and not feel like I need to babysit him.

And now that he had a woman, whom I pushed for him to talk to...who I occupied the friend so he could have his moment...who I texted on his behalf until he got the invite to come over that night...NOW he wants to decide he knows better? The guy who hasn't been laid in a year. It just annoys me that he's so prideful for somebody who has no reason to be...so I might start going out solo more often. I used to be in my head about it, but it's nice not having to worry about somebody else.



I don't think there's a whole lot I could've done differently there. If the interest were high enough, she would've invited me over. School isn't in session yet, and most people haven't moved in yet, so it's not like she had a good reason not to invite me otherwise.

I'm not sure if I lost her because I hit on the other girl, whom I thought was her, and she saw it...or because she thought when I went up to her that 3rd night that I'd forgotten who she was, and the "twin" thing was a pickup line where I was hitting on her all over again.

Man I totally feel you about your friend. I've had a friend like that in the past and it sucks man.. They're like dead weight at times, and other times they're all jealous and pissy when you get some and they don't. He was a horrible wingman too, he had almost no idea what to do in any nightlife setting.. It almost felt like I would be better off solo. He gained alot of confidence though going out with me.. At the time I wasn't like a mastermind at pickup or anything but I was leagues ahead of him in terms of social dynamics in general especially when it came to nightlife. and I totally get it now about how you feel about him.him being annoying now because he seems prideful. That's kinda how my friend was too when he started getting more successful with women.. However, after some time I stopped hanging with him as much and when we would hang again, he would try and praise me infront of everyone and talk about how I was the man and how I got all the ladies and all this stuff.. but it seemed so disingenuine.

Ofc in the world outside of the nightlife he was always pretty successful, super independant guy as long as I knew him, so he wasn't a complete moron or anything lol. It's just that he was bad at social dynamics also not the greatest friend, not super reliable or trustworthy.. After some time i decided its best for me not to continue hanging with him except for some rare occasions with other friends in the mix.

 

[Clockwerk50]

It's hard to say, since he never showed me the text conversation between him and this girl, to help him out.

I know he didn't lead, because he told me she picked the day and time for their date (Wednesday at 7PM).

I know he talked too much because he said she keeps texting him back, so he was probably too available.

He told me they didn't have their date last night because she had some pre-party to go to, and didn't respond when he asked when she would be available next - so again, not leading.

He doesn't think it would've made any difference to know what their text conversation looked like, and believes it would've gone this way regardless. So I told him that I'm not going to bother helping him if he's being this prideful and defensive of my advice, especially when my advice is what almost got him laid that night.

I told him that I would just be focusing on getting mine from now on.

At least you’re in a better spot with women now than when your pipeline dried up a few months ago.

 

[BPH]

At least you’re in a better spot with women now than when your pipeline dried up a few months ago.

I'll give it another shot this weekend.

Next weekend, the girl from my LR - 104 invited me to spend the weekend with her. She's super excited...wants to get dressed up and treat me to a dinner...shopping for lingerie, asking me which color I prefer...fun stuff.

And the girl I've been seeing in Philly will probably be available before that, either by coming home early during Labor Day weekend, or mid-week next week, before I go down to the beach for the other girl.

So I've got options, I just like the novelty of somebody new. And on some level, I think I enjoy the chase.

EDIT: I just thought it might be important to publicize that there's a lot of failure between the successes, and to not get discouraged by those.

 

[BaronOfHair]

It's hard to say, since he never showed me the text conversation between him and this girl, to help him out.

Regaling his current squeeze with tales of the many nights he's jerked it to images of Dakota Fanning in Man On Fire likely diminished his chances of bedding this chick, faster than Bill Maher finds himself triggered, after hearing any word which so much as rhymes with "Islam"

 

[CornbreadFed]

I always knew you and @CornbreadFed went all the way back

wtf lol

 

[Clockwerk50]

wtf lol

His friend has dreads, just like you! lol