Thinking of messaging a girl.

[AntoniousIV]

Dumb question but since I'm young I can be stupid.
There's a girl which I believe is outta my league (buffer I know). But she's bad, I wanna text her, but also dont wanna give free attention.

What do you think? (I'll prolly msg her)

 

[Divorced w 3]

How do you know each other? Have you spoken before?

 

[AntoniousIV]

How do you know each other? Have you spoken before?

never, i just saw she had "phr?" on instagram note

 

[Divorced w 3]

never, i just saw she had "phr?" on instagram note

What does that mean?

 

[AntoniousIV]

What does that mean?

"photoreply?"

 

[CornbreadFed]

There's a girl which I believe is outta my league (buffer I know). But she's bad, I wanna text her, but also dont wanna give free attention.

nvm, I thought you meant texting her not simping on instagram.

 

[AntoniousIV]

nvm, I thought you meant texting her not simping on instagram.

I do mean text with a date goal

 

[BPH]

I do mean text with a date goal

No, you mean DM her and hope she doesn't leave you on read.

Go meet women in-person dude, jeez...

 

[Clockwerk50]

Send the Instagram

 

[The Duke]

What do you have to lose here? Whatever you say needs to be different than what the typical guy sends her.

 

[Desdinova]

I wanna text her, but also dont wanna give free attention.

You plow forward until she tells you she's not interested. It's that simple. If she doesn't tell you that, then feel free to fvck her brains out.

 

[ValiantMale]

I'll give you the rundown on how to deal with a situation like this:

1) Give her the least bit of attention, but consistent attention---without asking for anything or implying you need or want anything in return. It helps to have her on social media to do this
What it looks like:
a) Liking her posts, stories, etc-- consistently so--
b) every so often, reply with a genuine compliment or something funny- but don't be a troll, be genuine. not in comments but story replies. Never add anything else to it.. if she says something, simply like her comment in response or don't create a conversation--just let it be

After a few months of doing this: She will appreciate the consistent validation/attention you are giving her.. It will fall in line with more consistency than most other guys if you stick to it.. Enough to warrant just enoguh appreciation to do your next move:

2) Simply ask her out-- don't worry if she says shes busy or flakes on plans.. Remember, you don't even know this chick and she's out of your league-- the effort can be worth it if you end upcapitalizing.. Let some time pass, try again. If you get the date, you already accomplished something.. The rest is up to you.

Why this works:
Girls notice their likes and replies.. However they don't bother to respond to most people an most guys fade into irreelvancy because their 1 or 2 likes sporatically don't do anything. Now consitently liking stuff she posts and seldom replying with a genuine compliment with a touch of humor here and there, if she's not super popular, it will stand out.. and create some level of appreciation for you-- as well as curiosity.

The major part that I didn't mention as it should be obvious: You need to have a presence, you need to have a personality and stand out as an attractive man, with value. If you don't have this part-- good luck on ever capturing her attention enough for her to care.


Yes its a bit harder since you never met her before.. and what works for myself may not work for you but its worth a shot. Now if you try and ask her out rightaway without knowing her, its almost certain nothing will happen.

 

[jhonny9546]

@ValiantMale
Social media has its own language, but some girls follow me, never like my posts, yet watch all my stories, (and they like me in person). If I messaged them directly, they’d hang out with me.

Likes are just modern validation; I rarely use them. I follow, but if I’m interested, I reach out.
Socials are for building your image, not fishing for attention. Women want your attention.

OP: Comment on a story to break the ice. If she’s interested, she’ll go beyond likes and games.
Like,if you see she posting a story of her eating gelato, you comment saying "I love gelato, I know a place that do that the italian way, I usually go there friday, after work!" then you test how she reply to this. If she is interested you ask her out, if she's not interested, you still ask her out.

So now you end all the story of "likings" "commenting" "thinking" about her.

 

[Divorced w 3]

I'll give you the rundown on how to deal with a situation like this:

1) Give her the least bit of attention, but consistent attention---without asking for anything or implying you need or want anything in return. It helps to have her on social media to do this
What it looks like:
a) Liking her posts, stories, etc-- consistently so--
b) every so often, reply with a genuine compliment or something funny- but don't be a troll, be genuine. not in comments but story replies. Never add anything else to it.. if she says something, simply like her comment in response or don't create a conversation--just let it be

After a few months of doing this: She will appreciate the consistent validation/attention you are giving her.. It will fall in line with more consistency than most other guys if you stick to it.. Enough to warrant just enoguh appreciation to do your next move:

2) Simply ask her out-- don't worry if she says shes busy or flakes on plans.. Remember, you don't even know this chick and she's out of your league-- the effort can be worth it if you end upcapitalizing.. Let some time pass, try again. If you get the date, you already accomplished something.. The rest is up to you.

Why this works:
Girls notice their likes and replies.. However they don't bother to respond to most people an most guys fade into irreelvancy because their 1 or 2 likes sporatically don't do anything. Now consitently liking stuff she posts and seldom replying with a genuine compliment with a touch of humor here and there, if she's not super popular, it will stand out.. and create some level of appreciation for you-- as well as curiosity.

The major part that I didn't mention as it should be obvious: You need to have a presence, you need to have a personality and stand out as an attractive man, with value. If you don't have this part-- good luck on ever capturing her attention enough for her to care.


Yes its a bit harder since you never met her before.. and what works for myself may not work for you but its worth a shot. Now if you try and ask her out rightaway without knowing her, its almost certain nothing will happen.

I agree with the story replies. Keep it simple keep it funny. My former coworker went into real estate sales. She had a story selling a property that looked like it got hit by a Palestinian rocket. The caption was, anyone want a fixer upper? I just wrote back ‘no’ but she sent back the crying laughing emoji. We spoke on the phone later that week and went out for drinks. Yes I knew her, but it was social media and faceless so the message spoke for itself.

 

[ValiantMale]

@ValiantMale
Social media has its own language, but some girls follow me, never like my posts, yet watch all my stories, (and they like me in person). If I messaged them directly, they’d hang out with me.

Likes are just modern validation; I rarely use them. I follow, but if I’m interested, I reach out.
Socials are for building your image, not fishing for attention. Women want your attention.

OP: Comment on a story to break the ice. If she’s interested, she’ll go beyond likes and games.
Like,if you see she posting a story of her eating gelato, you comment saying "I love gelato, I know a place that do that the italian way, I usually go there friday, after work!" then you test how she reply to this. If she is interested you ask her out, if she's not interested, you still ask her out.

So now you end all the story of "likings" "commenting" "thinking" about her.

Men and women on social media have different experiences. Secondly, he's talking about somene he doesn't know. While there is a very slight possibility that she might reply to a DM off of a single response, it's highly unlikely and improbable in the world of social media. Most women will never respond to a stranger, especially if they are attractive. Attractive women usually already have several DMs every week from random strangers. They often won't even see your message unless you take time to capture their attention and build curiosity.

 

[SW15]

Go meet women in-person

This is the better advice. It's difficult to get attention and replies off of random DMs on any social media platform.

 

[jhonny9546]

especially if they are attractive

the man or the woman?